How to deal with being constantly rejected?

[Anonymous]

Hi I'm a 31 one year old female and I never had a boyfriend and am constantly being rejected by guys, either a guy I like is not interested or is taken orrrr pretends and tricks me just to show that he wasn't interested in me but another girl, I'm writing this because I'm starting to lose all hope, everyone in my family tells me I'm cute and other people tell me I'm cute but I rarely get hit on or turn heads and I tried online dating and but when the guys talk to me they lose interest and I can't seem to get a guy at all it seems I'm very confused and yes I'm really going through this, I see girls my age or younger or older either in the same situation or happily in a relationship or just in a relationship, the ones I see that are in a relationship makes me sad because I want to know how it is to have someone who cares and loves you and you love and care for them

Also there was this one guy he is 23 and I am 31 but he has a girlfriend and kid, I really liked him so much, I held onto him and felt how soft he was and I could feel the spark between us, I checked both of our birthdays online and it said we have a 90% compatibility so I knew the spark was there and I wasn't crazy and he knew it too but I don't think he was interested like that because he's deeply in love with his girlfriend, I just wished it was me, why can't that happen to me I don't understand

He was so very nice to and he made blush, I felt really safe with him, I know of our age difference but I didn't care, but I understand he has a girlfriend

I'm going through a depression now and don't really enjoy the hobbies I used too because the new hobby I'm taking up is trying to grow up so I'm sad and I'm not looking for pity, just advice!

Updates

1 y

I don't know if this helps but I would consider myself an introvert and my personality is mostly silly so I don't know honestly I'm just looking for advice please be nice thank you and also I was really nervous to post this but yeah anyway thanks for any advice.

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1 y

Thanks so much for the advice I really appreciate it and will take it seriously I do need to hit the gym and diet so that is very important, so thanks for that really (❁´◡`❁)

And as for the other advice I definitely will stay close to my family in general so thanks so very much 🙏

I really was so nervous to post this but I'm glad I got some useful advice :)

Thanks so much and have a great weekend/rest of the year! 🌻

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

There are multiple questions running at the same time here, I think. But the one thing that comes to my mind is seeking a counselor, that is the best possible advice I could give regarding the feelings you describe. If counseling isn't an option, please stay close to your relatives, that's already something

[Asker]

Okay I will stay close to my family and never let them go at this point, thank you so much for your nice advice I was so nervous thanks 🙏

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm pleased to hear that :)

[Asker]

(❁´◡`❁) thanks so much and have a good night!

[scott04sa22]

Take a break from dating so you can rest. That's why your depress from dating Exhaustion. After a few weeks you'll be good as new but me, I stop dating and looking at the same time. I'm enjoying life then worrying about dating 😎

[Asker]

Absolutely I think I just need to focus on other things really, thanks so much for the advice 🙏 I appreciate it

[Nikki1989]

What @Maybe_Maybe_not said is the best option right now.

[Asker]

Sorry I just logged back in and yes I agree with you and I'm gonna listen to his advice

[Avicenna]

I think you're trying too hard to meet a guy

[Asker]

Yes maybe you're right, I'm just gonna chillax and not try so hard so I agree

[Avicenna]

Good luck!

[Asker]

Thanks so much I appreciate it ☺

[Anonymous]

another reminder that, me and lots of people, always find it more shocking for a woman to still be single than the other way around, as in, never been with anyone, due to the unfairness of men always having to approach women and court them, be the initiators.

[Anonymous]

Never thought it was possible for a woman to reach her early 30s or older and to have never dated or never had a boyfriend before

[Asker]

Really? Well yeah I just never had a relationship or anything honestly but it's okay I just pray about it now.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you had any guys express interest in you over the years

[Asker]

I don't know I don't want to talk about this anymore it's making me depressed...

[Asker]

Sighs! I'm just gonna leave this alone and continue to pray.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that I apologize for asking

[Asker]

No it's okay don't worry about it I'm just gonna pray about it and pray in general, thank you for talking to me I completely understand. Thanks 🙏

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah it's just that a lot of people don't expect women to remain single later than normal because a lot of people think getting into a relationship is easier for women because men are the ones that have to do the approaching and be the ones to court women and make the first move all the time

[Iron_Man]

Go to the gym

[Asker]

Okay maybe you're not trying to be mean but okay

[Iron_Man]

That’s not being mean that’s getting you in the best shape of your life so you can get a man plus have superior health

[Asker]

You're right I'm going to purchase sweet sweat workout gel and weights and start working out, I have to and I have to make a diet for myself I have to do this, thanks!

[Iron_Man]

What do you mean sweet sweat workout you

[Iron_Man]

Gel…:

[Asker]

Oh it's a workout gel on Amazon that helps you sweat when you workout I seen on Amazon and I'm gonna purchase it when I start working out so yeah

[Iron_Man]

You don’t need that everybody sweats after a while it’s just water anyway that’s not gonna be a part of losing weight because when you drink water it’ll come back on again. The best thing to do is eat real healthy and lose the fat don’t worry about sweat Gel work on cardio

[Asker]

Right, I understand, it really is all doing my best with the diet and exercise, thanks so much I know it's not gonna be easy but I gotta start sooner or later thanks 🙏

[Iron_Man]

You are so welcome 😊