Why does society always think the man has to be taller than the woman in relationships/marriages?

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I mean yes most men are taller than the woman but when a woman is taller than the man, people have a problem. Society said the man has to be taller than the woman and IT’S NOT TRUE!!! Stop believing society! I mean I have to admit I was always hung up on having a man taller than me but as I got older I had to be open to dating guys shorter than me because most men are shorter than me. Plus I am a 6’4” young woman. No I’m not trans, I was born a FEMALE. My first boyfriend was 5’7 and we dated for a year in a half but he dumped and cheating on he with a petite shorter woman. He was emasculated by me. Now I’m with an amazing man and we’ve been together for a month. He is 6’2” but I don’t care. I met him a couple months ago. m, became friends and we fell for each other. After four amazing dates, it’s official. So tall ladies, I know most of you want tall men, but just be more open to me different heights because most of us tall ladies will end up with men our heights or shorter than us. We going to have to accept it. We just need to date shorter men. Short women will always be shorter than men. People stare at my boyfriend (6’2) and I (6’4) but we ignore them.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

to put it in short, old people still living in old times.

to explain...

it has to do with "traditional gender roles" and "societal norms" that have persisted over time. men are expected to be protectors and "providers" (even tho women can provide just as well now). it's often also associated with physical strength and size. they think if you're tall, you must be linked to those attributes listed which then means men should be taller than their partner. height differences between men and women can be seen as visual representations of these traditional masculinity and femininity traits.

then we got the power dynamics. because height is often associated with dominance/authority, a taller man may be perceived as that. which again circles back to traditional views in relationships.

then peer pressure... people often conform to societal expectations to avoid judgment and criticism. these rude comments can influence preferences and behaviors.

social expectations and media representations also messed everything up. couples are often shown as a taller man and a smaller woman. they made it look "ideal".

jennyPuss · Accepted Answer

Society thinks that way because women do. Men might prefer it to some degree but the overwhelming demand for large height disparity comes from women. And women think that way because they compete with each other. 'Tall enough' is actually, as it turns out, not tall enough. Everything about a man must be ABOVE average for him to simply be deemed worthy of the time of day... but women aren't shooting for above average. Above average is deemed the bare minimum. "Know your worth" is the dating marketplace "cash for clunkers" slogan. Every vagina is worth a prince charming regardless of what life support system it's attached to.

When you have 50% of the population believing they deserve the top 10% ... and said 10% is happy to agree... that means 60% of the population agrees that the remaining 40% of the population is unnecessary.

And then you end up with old crusty vaginas bitching that they can't find no man. "Where all the good manz go?"

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Very practical and sensible of you I think. Good for you being realistic and good for him too. I think you might posted on the first boyfriend being influenced by societal expectations. If remember right, glad you have a good partner now.

While men like women to be shorter (and more slender), women are more brutal and like men to be taller by more than men like women to be shorter by. It s 3" and 8" respectively.

Actual stats show that couple height differences are more in line with female preferences. At your height it would mean if you weren't sensible you would be holding out for 7' plus guy.

I saw a friend at the supermarket and thought I didn't know he had a young daughter. Turned out it was his Asian wife. That looks a bit silly too and possibly people think he is a pedophile and disapprove.. Kept my mouth shut on that.:)

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I have no issue dating a tall woman. The only thing I'd worry about is her being self conscious of what others think and feeling less feminine next to a guy that's shorter than her, which is why I'd RATHER date a girl shorter than myself... so I don't have to worry about that.

Honestly though, if the girl is physically attractive, compatible personality-wise with me, and is feminine, I would have no issue dating a girl taller than me. I'd have to know for sure that she was completely comfortable dating a shorter guy though.

The truth is, not all guys think the same though.

ManOnFire · Answer

Has  to be? There's no law that says a man has to be, but most men are taller than most women, so it's going to be nature. I would date you though, I love tall women, they are super sexy.

AviatorTom · Answer

Statistically, the average man is taller than the average woman. Therefore, it's expected that, in an average relationship, the man would be taller. It's not that the man has to be taller, just that he typically is.

DishLady · Answer

Society? It's just basic physics. The physical stuff works better when the guy's a little taller.

Summeroflove · Answer

It just depends on the person. We are all different in what we want. It’s about finding whose right for you.

demonics · Answer

99% of the time "society" just means women. Culture is of course, downstream from women. Most cultural practices are passed from mother to child. This is one of those super powers that feminists have discarded in their pursuit of "equality" the ability to influence, which, back in the old days would've made the female vote redundant.

*Women* always think men need to be taller than the man in the relationship. If you want to know what women really care about, pay attention to what they will attack a man for not having or adhering to.

RingOfFire · Answer

The mistake is that you used the word "Society." It isn't society that makes women prefer a man taller than she is or a man prefer a woman shorter than he is, it's nature.

A male's natural role after hundreds of millions of years of evolution is to provide and protect the females and children in the human family unit. That is a man's natural instinct that he feels an obligation to fulfill. That means he must be tougher, stronger and bigger than a woman in order to protect her. That is why women naturally select men who have those physical characteristics because it is natural and therefore more comfortable for them. And men enjoy and feel a need to fulfill their natural role of providing and protecting so they want a woman they can feel comfortable protecting who is shorter than they are.

Anonymous · Answer

Cultural influence and propaganda through movies, music, advertising, fashion, porn etc largely shapes how we perceive attractiveness. For example, the more we keep seeing tall, muscular men in a positive context over and over, that view is reinforced and we start to absorb this as fact. However if we were constantly fed positive imagery of short skinny men, eventually most people would believe those were attractive traits. People are constantly manipulated by our culture without even realising it

Berethor · Answer

That society rule is based on biology so why should I not believe it? tallness is masculine, when a woman look more masculine than the man she dates that look ridiculous.

alice55 · Answer

Nobody have an issue with it where I live, if they see a woman as tall as you with a shorter man they're just going to comment on the woman height and not the difference in height between the couple since tall women are so uncommon here, Im only 5'7 but people keep on saying that I'm tall ll the time

MizzArtFreak89 · Answer

Well I don’t know about society but as long as the person is a great person, who cares? I mean I do prefer guys my height or taller. I won’t lie, but I’ve liked some guys that were shorter than me. My ex boyfriend was a few inches shorter then me, but I didn't care. I’m 5’9 1/4.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't know but, I'd LOVE to have a tall girlfriend!! You could wear 4" heels and I'd still be taller than you! My ex-fiance was only 5' 3"! as far as I know, she still is. Haven't seen her in 23 years and haven't heard from her in at least 20. Can't say as I miss her!

Massageman · Answer

Yes, overall, men are taller. If you like a smaller guy, you like a smaller guy. That is not your problem. Have you tried looking into Paramount Tall Club of ____________? (Just fill in the name of a large city close to you). 6'2" for men and 5'10" is usually the minimum standard for entry into the club.

LoveHotGrillz · Answer

It's not that society looks down on it, it's just that it feels weird and emascilating looking up to a woman. I personally can't deal with that so I only hook up with shorter women

Nifrayu · Answer

Because society is glib, short-sighted and obnoxious. Just ignore society. Society never knows what's going on but always has an opinion. An opinion like that shouldn't be attributed with any credibility.

luvstoned4him · Answer

I didn't study society but it feels nice having a guy the same height as me or taller. It's more of a preference thing

exitseven · Answer

My mother was taller than my father. In their wedding picture my father is standing on a couple of telephone books. However, their marriage did not turn out so good.

art84 · Answer

My brother is tall like 6'1 and his wife is like 5'0. His previous girlfriend was 5'11 and they looked like brother and sister. I never seen a tall women with a short guy where I live at.

WadeKiet · Answer

It's always a thing the society think, but in my opinion it's bullshit. If you are a good match, it would be stupid to dump each other because of length, right? And why would other people complain about that?

Friendlybro79 · Answer

No one wrote this down as law of the land but it's also just very typical that the avg man is taller than the avg woman so you see this more of the time.

Unit1 · Answer

I don't know and I don't care

Yannae · Answer

I see it as simply biology, nature. Besides that, I don't know or care. A woman with amazing curves who's 5ft vs a woman with amazing curves who's 6ft. It's the same but more. Tall wins for me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

There's only 2 inches difference between the two of you. That's really not a big deal! 🤓

TheGriffin93 · Answer

It's mostly the media playing this effect. - However it is an insignificant factor, as you mentioned.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Women choose men. Women typically choose taller men. Men are much less likely to care about a woman's height than vice-versa.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I guess it's cause of the patriarchy, lots of people are male chauvinists, especially religious people.

I disagree with them, I actually like tall girls, even if they are taller than me.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

People are more open-minded to it than you are making it seem. Sure, there’s a portion of people who might say derogatory things. However, there’s plenty of people who don’t give a shit too.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I’m 5ft. I don’t see men shorter than me anywhere 😂😂😂

MyBrainsInsaneReign · Answer

I think most men prefer to be with a shorter woman because they know most women prefer to be with a taller man. If women didn't care about height, most men wouldn't care about height.

Vegasrunner · Answer

It's better for the relationship if the man is taller

Starrrboy · Answer

Cuz it looks and feels right.. doesn't really need explaining.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I ignore society on all non-criminal issues.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not society who thinks that the man has to be taller, just women who have their "laundry list" of requirements.

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

I dunno. 🤷‍♂️ I like it when a woman is taller than I, so long as she isn't domineering.

nawtee_me · Answer

I actually like tall women, I certainly don’t mind being seen with them like some men do.

elaphe · Answer

If the woman and her shorter mate are happy, then it is fine.

Anonymous · Answer

What is your heritage or ethnicity? And I assume your boyfriend was the one who asked you out and hit on you

Anonymous · Answer

It's not society that thinks that. It's women.

supercutebutt · Answer

Because society is a mofo.

Anonymous · Answer

If you girls want to have tall guys don't wear heels. It's as simple as that. 😛

paledreams · Answer

Because it makes sense 😛👅😋

DrPepper12 · Answer

Traditions and expectations.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s normal

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