Why do many women still have a old-fashioned thoughts about that there guy should be taller than them self?

[Petra150]

Why on earth do women still have that sick thought a guy should be tall, and obviously taller than themselves. After a every 8. th woman will actually be taller than an avarage height guy. But I'd read that only one relationship out of 120 relationship have a woman tallest, that's really horribel and shocking , especially when you consider at least half of every guys are far more attracted to taller girls, only guys who absolutly aren't into taller girls are them tall, perhaps because a taller guy isn't man enough to keep a tall woman as his girlfriend. Or what's more important , avarage and short guys usually are having a much bigger personality, and couldn't give a shit about a woman towering them, and a short and avarage height guy had much more to offer a woman, that a tall guy. So the reason so many guys are turned down , I'd mainly because of our sick and unnatural fashion of height, something that simply seems to make us woman way less Intelligent, and show that we women hasn't changed a shit since we were a little amoeba that climbed out of the sea many millions of years ago. But worse case is most of us don't give a fucking shit about the horribel and sick way we are and , never seems to understand why there are so many divorces and sexual assault on us women, and wife violence in general. This is due, for the most part, to the sad fact that women choose a taller partner, and the tallest men account for almost all the assaults, just as they generally account for almost all violent crime. So not only do we women do immortal damage to men's self-esteem, by constantly choosing only tall men as partners, but of course we also hurt ourselves, not to forget the poor children who have a tall sheep, what anguish they suffer , with lower intelligence and divorce when their mothers find out how useless and violent their tall men are. Is hard to understand what make us women so stupid , as normally we are quite capable judging in other cases.

[averyconfusedperson]

Honestly, it's upsetting to see the amount of social norms we feel forced to follow, including having height differences in relationships. I had a really interesting conversation with my best friend about this and found that he felt he had to constantly work out and do everything that he possibly can to feel stronger. There's this expectation created that men seem to have to follow that they have to be stronger, taller, and more in control. My friend told me that he's constantly faced these pressures and that's what motivated him to start working on himself - he saw it as a positive that he got to improve himself, but it just further showed me how messed up society can be. But I do have hope. Our opinions are slowly changing and there are individuals who realise that things shouldn't be the way they are. I'm not sure we can really choose to hold a certain gender responsible for this, because the problem lies within society and how most of us have been raised.

[Platy]

It is not that a woman want taller guy than her but men do want shorter girls than themselves too. So putting it in such a way that blame comes on woman is not right.
It is more of a conventional thing. And it is not easy to get out the way things used to be. Though many are good with having a shorter guy to date, many are not. Isn't it same for Toxic Masculinity.

[Petra150]

What would a girl like me had to do , to forfill society norms , I'm 204 cm tall and had been since I ever started dating I'd learnt from my mother not to be horribel to men, and only men who were great to me were shorter ( quite a lot shorter) , them very very few reasonable looking taller guys , wouldn't touch me with a finger, because I might be a few cm taller than them, and as I love wearing heels too , only guys under 185 cm tall had the personality and were men enough to be around me , and ofcauce I felt better amoung real men who had the personality and self confidence to controle me. As very few if not any shorter ( may I say avarage height men 175-185 cm tall) had any difficulty accepting me as much taller. My boyfriend during 14 years now and father to our girls too, he'd never ever really complain about my height, eventhoug he get all the shit from strangers, who think like most inhere , that tall should be with tall and the rest could go to hell , if a guy not tall knee his place ( being single or be with less attractive women) . But he didn't even asked me my height for over 3 mounth, and only because I asked him his height , because I were curious and he there by asked me my height, and when I said my height , he smiled and said , it were a great height and he were proud of me... I can't tell how much I appreciate he's comford, as I don't blame a guy he's avarsge height, infact he make me more normal, if I'd chosen to settle for a tall guy, to check out society norms , I'd felt like we as a couple would look like a freak show. Now I can say that very many men vcome up to us and tell us how glad they are to see a woman ( much) taller relationship, while very few women have anything good to say. Unfortunately we women still want to keep up horribel society norms, and it's sad for most of especially NOT tall men, and many love to be dating taller girls, as we boost there manliness,

[Platy]

It is unfortunate indeed how the society norms influence our minds. To tell you the truth I am insecure about being short too. I am 150 cm and have this insecurity and I won't share the same frame with my friends and family in photographs. Same may or may not go with you too. I understand how you feel. You might feel more insecure than others because the height difference is too much for the guys you like. I understand that you are very troubled and feel self conscious. But would you try to see it in a different light? Ik you might have done that before, but you have to be persistent. Feel blessed that there are men men enough to date you. That there are men who want to be with you. That they don't care if you fit the rules and general norms of society. They are happy to be with you.
I am sure those comments trouble us all. That there are people who go around saying harsh words to people who according to them are "unlike the usual". If you troubled of what people will say and see you as, then please don't. Don't be too hard on yourself. Trust me there are people who would look at you, smile at how happy and good you look together. They will want to wish you luck and happiness. I think you are too harsh on yourself. Just tell me, will you judge any couple with height difference and call them a freak show? Or will you judge a black-white couple who find it hard to adjust their pictures in different lightning? Or will you judge a person for having short hands and legs for their body? Or someone who has big body frame (like 16 inch shoulder for 146cm girl)?

If you won't then don't judge yourself too much. Don't think of others. If not this, then they would find other infinite reasons to make you feel inferior or low. They are negatives and you don't have to keep pestering yourself with such thoughts.

[Petra150]

Thanks for s great reply, I think this issue could be better to message privst about, you seems like a great person to text

[Platy]

I really do agree! If something has been troubling you for a long time, then a reply or two on one answer can't make you confident like "whoof". You need to continuously work for it and it becomes better if sb constantly reminds you of how well you are doing.
I would like to text but I am not on SNs. I do have one fan account on Twitter.

[Anonymous]

Look. All women are different. I’m five foot eleven. For some girls ifs fine. Some it’s not their cup of tea. I don’t really care. It’s nothing personal. It doesn’t mean they judge me as a person. Just not a romantic partner.


I like taller women. In fact I prefer it. But that’s just me. Some guys love the shorter ones.

[TheFlak38]

It's not old fashioned. It's the exact opposite. It's the new trend because they have the choice to be picky. I've had my shorty best friend saying to me "dude, seriously fuck off" just because I was getting attention from women and he was completely ignored.

[psychoticanimaIIover]

To be fair, the average man IS taller than the average woman, so most relationships will show this disparity.

[AveryGaming2014]

It's a mix of biology, social conditioning, and personal preference. For some women, being with a taller guy can make them feel more protected or feminine — ideas that are deeply rooted in both culture and evolution. While society is slowly shifting its views on traditional gender roles, old habits and expectations can stick around. That said, everyone has their own unique preferences, and not all women care about height anymore.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get how literally short women below 5”7 require men to be 6ft or taller, that’s what puzzles me, like I’m 5”10 and am still much taller than you, yet I’m somehow not tall enough? It’s weird.

[In_Trance]

It's not old fashioned. It's biological

[Psychosocial]

That’s an assumption.

[In_Trance]

Have you studied human biology or anthropology? Silly question clearly you haven't.

[Petra150]

Are you an animal , every person with common sense and just a tiny brain , would chose a predator as a man, a tall unstable guy

[In_Trance]

Sure, whatever that means

[Anonymous]

Why are you so obsessed with height?

[abc3643]

Because she is over 2 meters tall and almost all men - including her current significant other - are considerably shorter than her. She has love with a man about 8 inches shorter than her and she is irked about why most women are obsessed with height - that the man must be taller than the woman.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t read all of it.