Why are women so obsessed with height and a man has to be taller than a woman, women are the most superficial creatures in the world?

[Anonymous]

Men don't have height standards to consider a woman attractive, it's so unfair. What should short men do, shoot themselves, sacrifice themselves?
Are most girls out of a short guy's league?
Why do women mock and make fun of my short friend? Why don't some women ever give shorter men a chance?
Are most girls out of a short guy's league?
How is a man not going to be insecure about the things you say, only advising him to date shorter women, and if the man is very short who will he date with, with 15 year old high school girls? Why do men have to cut down on their dating pool?

[Anonymous]

It goes both ways. My brothers have made comments about 5'8 and 5'9 being too tall for a girl and they are 6'5. Their girlfriends are 5'1 and 5'5 respectively.
I am 6'1 and many boys have made comments about my height being intimidating and strangers making comments and how I will find it difficult to have a boyfriend being so tall.
It sucks and it is not right. No one should be told they are not good enough because of how tall they are, but society tells us that men should be taller and girls should be smaller.
I know a lot of girls feel insecure being around men smaller, or around the same height as them as it makes them feel big and undesirable.
There are of course shallow people who see appearance as the most important thing, but there are often other factors.
Not excusing it.. but there is a reason :/

[Asker]

It is true but in general a beautiful woman is beautiful being 5 'or being 6'. Tall women can be models, suggar babies, celebrities, dommes... generally attractive and desirable. What you say is only true of SOME very tall men who want to feel macho man, but men of average heights do not usually care about a taller or shorter woman.

[Opinion Owner]

do you mind me asking how tall you are, so I can say my honest opinion of what I would think

[Asker]

No cause I'm not talking about myself, but personally I would be very sad if a girl only found me attractive for being taller

[Opinion Owner]

Okay. Personally I would date a guy smaller than me, but doubt I would date a guy smaller than 5'10 because of my own insecurities. I feel ridicoulous next to some guys, just because i feel big and horrible. That is the only reason for me

[Asker]

I don't blame you but unfortunately that's the way all women are, there are no tall women with manlet fetishes

[Opinion Owner]

being with someone because of a fetish is wrong anyway. Fetishization in general can lead to toxic dynamics

[Asker]

Not wrong, better have options than nothing

[Red_Dawn94]

Well im ugly ginger and 5'9 guess I'm screwed

[Asker]

@Red_Dawn94 5'9 is not short

[desidoll]

I know this sounds strange but as a female myself, I hate my height too. This is one of my greatest insecurities. I don't care about many men who like short girls. I just don't feel attractive standing at 5'3. My boyfriend is 6' and sometimes he calls me cute small girlfriend. I know he loves my height and how big he looks next to me, but I just hate being reminded how petite I am lol. Clothes don't really look good on me unless I wear minimum 2 inches of wedges or shoes. I envy tall girls a lot but then I have some tall friends who told me they want my height because many guys like short girls 🤔 I guess we just want what we don't have.

[Asker]

curious cause you are from Asia, in general the height of men and women there is short

[desidoll]

This is actually something that people don't acknowledge. The beauty standard in Asia is tall, skinny and pale. I can get passed the skinny and pale part as I am not fat or too dark myself but 5'3 is definetely not an attractive height here. Many men prefer a girl who is at LEAST 5'4 though it is not a requirement if she is good looking. Anyway, I don't like my height not because of this but the clothing reason. I am a fashionista and I feel sad that I cannot wear so many clothes even with 5 inches of heels 👠 Oh, just to let you know that there are countless posts/memes on facebook shaming on short girls so yea I guess it goes both ways except that guys have it tougher I admit.

[Asker]

Well imagine being a man of that height... that is a drama

[desidoll]

Yea I feel sorry for them. Height is something you can't choose or change, unless you are willing to go for the limb surgery which will take at least 6 months to recover. I heard from my friend's uncle, he had to be on wheelchair for a few months before he was able to walk like normal. It sounds super painful 😣 I can consider if the height change is 5 inches and above but from what I read, it all depends how much your legs are able to stretch. Not gonna take a risk of being just 3 inches taller and have to go through the crazy procedure.

[TheFlak38]

because the entire sexual marketplace is rigged in their favour. Correction: It's not about the man being taller than the woman. It's about the man being taller than the other ten thousand options she has.
Im 6'3'' and I'm considered average for the irrational standards of women.

[sensible27]

It's the game you play, if you care about "looks" to some extent, they can care about what they find evolutionarily attractive. In my perspective a better question would be why you would want to be with people who don't like you/are superficial anyways...

[jennifer_bloom]

I will date a short guy if he's got enough good qualities that I no longer require him to be tall - Its like when you buy cake - if there is enough chocolate in the cake - you don't care if there is no salt - if there is no chocolate or sugar in the cake you won't eat it unless its salty - relationships work like that too

[Asker]

and you for being a woman are automatically valuable but a man for being short has to be "compensating", it is terrible to be a man, not even for the beauty or the size of the penis, but you can be short, tall or whatever you want..
pd: The cakes do not necessarily have chocolate

[jennifer_bloom]

That's not true - I need more than looks to be valuable to men cause I'm in my mid 30s and I won't be beautiful forever and I want a husband - not a 2 month boyfriend - most of the guys who liked me were interested in my personality or work ethic and not just my sex appeal

[_Cleopatra_]

Most of girls that I know don't want to date short guys because their friends and people around her will judge her for that.

For most of girls social validation is VERY important part of their life so I can't really blame them. But you need to understand that they are also a lot of girls who don't give a single F about height.
You just need to keep looking.

[Asker]

I understand you and this may sound offensive but...:
Do you think that there are attractive or very attractive women who do not have friends, especially female friends? all women are so sociable, not even drug addicts or women with psychiatric disorders, all women have friends even online, maybe except those who are inmates in jail

[jeemm]

Another post with an insecure, biased and inexperienced individual regarding women as superficial. I personally have never turned men down because of their height nor do I care too much either way. I prefer taller men but it's not a prerequisite for getting my interest. Nor do I know any women who feel that way.

[Asker]

How would you feel if you read on forums or pages that 90% would not date you because of your height? That tou are ugly and undesirable? even on this post two girls comment on it, men have reasons to be insecure, I can turn the coin and say that women are the insecures ones being taller than a man.

[jeemm]

Most likely those questions that you have seen are asking for a preference. Those 90% would rather date a taller man than themselves or something similar.

I've seen questions in similar topics and it's usually around 70-90% into the preference that they would want to date a taller men, it doesn't mean that they won't find someone attractive just because they're relatively short.

[M38384]

Men are more obsessed in my experience, although decent people don’t care. My ex was 6”1 (though claimed to be 6”2, I guess a slight difference matters that much to people like that) and used his height as a source of his self-esteem. He approached me at uni and I only stayed with him for so long because I didn’t think I could do better because boys/men often told me how ugly I am (which sex class is the shallow one?). I’m now with someone who’s 5”8 who I met online who so far seems to be a much kinder person. Height wasn’t a factor for me, although I did instantly left swipe on 6”+ guys who felt a need to mention their height again in their bios as I don’t want to be with another person like my ex.

[Frizzykitty0511]

Dude my dad is shorter than my mom so I find this statement slight bs but I will say it partially has something to do hormones. And watch just about any modern tv show or movie where's the short guys tall girl couple. Every girl is different I personally just want someone I can at least look in the eye for some reason they think they're short. It's preference and there are guys who have height preferences so chill the rage.

[Anonymous]

Its an evolutionary process, believe it or not a long time ago the main purpose of existing was to replicate. It was survival of the species. And when someone choose their partner they naturally look for those qualities thay they want to pass to their offsprings. Its not just a preference that majority of women have, its the evolutionary process.

[Asker]

Yes, but acting like animals and evolutionary it is also acceptable for men to kidnap and rape women.

[Opinion Owner]

Wtf are you talking about? Its is NOT acceptable for men to do such things. Nor does it happen in animal kingdom.

[Asker]

but this goes two ways: If women want a dominant man, he has to prove his dominance I don't want to defend rape, but it doesn't seem right too to me to set height eugenic standards and that men have to be taller while women are of all heights.

[Opinion Owner]

No thats not how it works. Male doesn't prove dominance to women, male prove their dominance to other male. And women are attracted to alpha males. I dont know why you think rape proves dominance. Please think straight. Rape is the most disgraceful thing.

[Bhavin2184]

woman prefer looks, personality, sense of humor and many other quality etc
Plus only tall height is not even advantage nobody really cares for it that much. I'm 6.0 trust me there is not really any advantage being tall.

[Red_Dragon]

Not true. I'm short AF and have slayed chicks taller than me lol. I got some still on the roster taller. Lol.

[Miss_G]

Gender roles- men are to protect and defend women. A taller man equals more protection. The media has made this so, it's not right but it's happening :(

[saltydaxmok_tANKer]

I think its unfair but thats just how society is. How much men care about how women would look and weight, thats how much women care about mens height.

[Asker]

in general you can change your beauty and looks but there is not much for height, if you wear five-inches boots women call you insecure, there is a surgery called limb surgery but it has a very long recovery period. What do we do with very short men, do we kill them better?

[saltydaxmok_tANKer]

Sad truth, like I said it's society. And as easy as to say "changing your beauty and looks" it really isn't, "height" included. by the way I don't mind if a guy is like minimum 5 inches shorter than me tho if he has other good qualities. Again, as much as how women appearances matter to men, that's how the opposite also does for us. I think it's just the same, in the end, not all people are judges tho so chill you'll find the one. 👌🏻

[Asker]

I'm not saying that women should not be superficial but men are not magically 6 feet tall or X height. I understand to be superficial to dismiss someone for ugly or even for having a small penis, but at height... it's as if nothing matters, as if you didn't enter the game. What I am saying is that in general if a woman is beautiful and feminine or what you are, she is and it does not matter if she is tall or short, if she is like 7feet tall I understand that she may have problems, but if not, height does not matter.

[itsmyownname]

A woman feels protected if the man is taller than her. But it shouldn't really matter how tall he is.

[Asker]

if the man is shorter what does he do? Did he wear boots that make him taller?
"But it shouldn't really matter how tall he is." Exactly, the problem is how short he is...

[itsmyownname]

No but there are a lot of short women. And most guys prefer short women, too. But there are also a few who doesn't care about this at all so don't worry

[Asker]

So men have to reduce their dating or sex group to a minimum to only shorter women, but women can have the men they want: tall, short, etc
And a man who is very short what does he do? Dating 12 or 15 year old high school girls? Even if he's 40?

[itsmyownname]

Why are you so angry? I already said there are a lot of girls who doesn't care about heights at all. It's just a preference but when it comes to love it mostly doesn't matter. Men shouldn't worry about how tall or short they are. It's the charisma that's important.

[fadingmind]

It’s just a preference. I’m talking to a guy who’s my height although I prefer taller guys in general. Other things are more important.

[Liam_Hayden]

People have their preferences. And why would you want to be with someone who is not really into you anyway?

[AcidT0y]

I don't really date women shorter than like 5'10/5'11