I'm dating this amazing sweet loving caring man who's 51 and I'm 24 he makes me happy but everyone might judge us because I'm only in my 20s what is your opinion on the matter?
Don’t care what other people think , it’s your life and your choice , if he treats you great and makes you happy , that’s all that matters. Age has never really been a deciding factor for me whatsoever , when I meet a girl that is beautiful to my eyes and treats me like Gold , as long as she is of legal age of consent and we both compliment each other and happy with each other that’s all that matters. Ignore people that try to rub their 2 cents together with your relationship, they have no clue what they are talking about Most people are judgmental hypocrites when it comes to things like this. I know so many couples that have huge age gaps and they are happy as can be. So don’t listen to negative people when it comes to your relationship with someone , when people tell me she is 20 years younger than you? I just say So, what’s her age have to do with anything? She treats me like Gold and keeps a smile on my face , so am I just supposed to throw her away cuz of her age? People sadly think they know it all and the truth is they don’t know shit
i have a friend who is 14 but she is dating someone who is 18 and he is turning 19 in the next 3 months and they have only know each other for just about one year and no one in the friend group likes them dating. what do you think about this age gap. by the way this is real and really want to know how i should feel about this.
The thing is she is under legal age of consent , so she is still considered a minor and her boyfriend is considered an adult , so in that situation , she would need her parents’ consent for her to date him , if the parents don’t approve of it , then they can press charges against him
i think to some extent yes. like the further apart you are in age with someone the less likely it will workout. most age gap couples especially very large age gap couples break up a lottt more often than smaller age gaps and same age couples. it's harder to have common interests, values, interests, lifestyles, etc the larger the age difference. also the further apart you are in age, the more likely it is that the love isn't genuine from one side or that one of the people isn't exactly a good person especially for a long term relationship. like lets say you have a 20yo girl x 60yo man couple. there is a likelyhood that the girl is in it for his $$$$$, is leaching off of him and just playing with his feelings, and maybe even fucks or dates a guy her age at the same time cause gramps ain't exactly conventionally hot anymore. there's also the likelyhood that the guy doesn't love her or even likes being around her outside of sex, and is just here to fuck a young body and flex her around to his friends. then when he gets tired of her he dumps her, and moves on to the next hot young naive girl. and lets say even if he does love her, him being so old and going for someone so young might indicate bad views of women, lack of interest in commitment, maybe pedophilic tendencies, or that he might dump her when she gets to like 27 or something, so she'd be wasting her precious time on him. even if the girl loves the guy, it might indicate daddy issues and heightened materialism.
Honestly? I think it will have problems. If your in love go for it and it doesn't matter what other people think. But have a good think because there will be considerations for your well being and future.
I married a guy 12 years older than me. I was 19 when we met. We broke up when I was 31. Now just the thought of him at almost 60 turns my stomach.
I'm so young and vibrant at heart and I'm 45. And your 24! Have you thought about children? His age when they are tenns or adults? Do you want to care for him like most of us have to elderly parents when your like 40-45. Be a widow possibly? And back looking for love at 50 maybe?
I'm not saying this to put you off. Just go into it eyes wide open. And that's all everyone around you probably expects. Hence comes across judgmental. I'm sure they just care...
Love doesn't discriminate. Just go with what you feel. It's terrible that society is the way it is right now. People will more harshly judge the guy than you, calling him a groomer and nonsense like that. You're an adult and he's an adult. You're both making your decision and as long as there's consent and mutual attraction, it's fine. Fuck everyone else. There are girls like you that are attracted to older guys as well and there are guys like him that are attracted to much younger girls. It doesn't make you a bad person for having those tastes.
Follow your heart and don't let others dictate your life.
It is not that much the age, it is mostly the different power dynamic. It is up to you, but remember, when we are young we tend to overestimate our maturity and we think we are wiser than we are and that we have more life experience than our peers, but that is not always the case. If I am wrong I apologize, but regardless... Just be careful and keep your eyes open.
You shouldn't care what other people think. It's none of their business. Period. Live your own life and live it to its maximum potential.
The only thing that might be difficult to manage are plans for having children with him. Let's say you decide to have a child when you are 30. He will be 57 at that point. Not a big problem and certainly not for men wanting to have a child. But by the time your child transits from teenager to adult, let's say 19 or 20, his of her father will be 77.
Other than that, don't let anyone say it's wrong. It wouldn't be wrong either if you were 51 and he 24.
I think it's up to you and him to decide what you both want, and it's also important for you both to discuss the future. Like, do you want kids? Does he? What are your future goals and plans for the long term? Don't worry about what other people think, worry about your current path and potential future together.
Yes. Maturity is a huge thing in relationships. But then u get some people who grow up and mature earlier than others. Ahe obviously matters cos if they are old enough to be ur dad or grandad, they're way too old. Ain't hard to find someone ur own are. Personally if you get with someone older, ur a gold digger
One day you'll understand how terrible your relationship makes 51 year old women feel. The absolute best of older men almost always go for younger women, so the older women have to settle for the lower value older men. It SHOULDN'T matter, but it's a fact of life and competition is our reality. And women are fiercely competitive. They make men look passive af.
As long as both are consenting adults (18+) and love each other then it’s up to them.
With me, I personally wouldn’t date someone who could be my ‘parent’. That turns me off and disgusts me, though as long as those two individuals don’t see that as weird then I guess it is their life so they can do as they please since it isn’t hurting anybody.
If opinions of others matter to you then you are risking your relationship on words of strangers.
Nobody can help you in this it should be completely your decision your conviction and readiness to face the challenges that life will throw on your way.
As long as you are happy and he is happy. Don’t let people judge you. On average. He will pass on several years before you. But then again. With cancer or even a traumatic traffic accident. You could both leave this world at the same time. If ever planning on children. He will be in his seventies at graduation! Just a thought.
Women are with far worse than an age gap. I don't see why this is an issue. Of all the issues people have in relationships this seems mild and stupid to complain about. The only people upset about it are older women that made poor choices their entire life and lost their chances and guys that treat women so poorly they can't get a girl at any age. It just seems to be jealousy. Ignore them your relationship is about your happiness, not someone else's happiness.
I think it definitely matters. Not from the perspective of people looking at you saying wow you're so old and you're so young or something like that. Who gives a fuck what anybody else thinks. But when you have a significant age difference you're just a different places in your life. It's not impossible to make it work because obviously some do but I do think it gives you different challenges
Hey if it works what's the problem? Honestly look girl, we have a finite moment on this earth and who's to judge you for doing what makes you HAPPY? We all strive to be happy and in the end we always look to see that our glass's are always half full no matter how many tears we shed. What's the problem? You think what other people will say? Who care's what others think, what matters is the two of you! The world that makes the two of you and don't let anyone take that away.
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Generally gaps larger than 10 years. Do not have longevity. Because the bigger the age gap the less two people have in common. But two people the same age who are selfish and unbending won't workout either. So there's an exception to every rule.
It matters due to the power dynamics that arise as a result. If one is more mature than the other that creates issues, if one is vastly more desirable than the other it also creates issues.
It shouldn't, as long as it's a legal relationship. So, please, no 18 year olds, with 15 year olds
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I’ve done that age before and everything was great but people would stare, only drawback to that is you’re at different stages in each other’s life, but the sex is great
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