It definitely matters. But it really depends on how much of an age difference you're talking about. The problem for you is: Age matters A LOT at 14... A LOT, the "appropriate age gap' shrinks as you get older. So a 14-year-old girl with a 16-year-old guy is... already getting pretty iffy...
But a 20-year-old woman with a guy who's 25 is no big deal. That gap keeps growing until... I guess until you're both just middle-aged and nobody cares anymore.
The thing you have to be careful of (obviously, being a girl into older guys); is being taken advantage of in one way or another. There are some really bad guys around who are smart enough to put on a "good guy mask." What it comes down to is: there is a BIG BIG between a 14 year-old-BOY and a 16, 17 or 18-year-old BOY.
There are some legitimately awful, malicious and manipulative guys out there.(of any age). IF you get a guy who's a shark in a 'good guy mask'... the 14-year-old version... you'll be able to detect for what he really is. His 'good guy mask' won't fool you, if you're smart.
The 17 or 18 version of the shark in the mask... IF you end up getting a guy like that... you just don't stand a chance at 14 to see him for what he is. That can leave you hurt in a serious way
IF you're asking this because you're already in a relationship with someone older... I can't tell you what to do. But be careful. :)
It is, and it is not. Depends on the case, the relationship, the maturity, and it very depends on the own self... The only wrong thing that could happen, is that you wouldn't be attracted to guys your age, because you'd become far more mature than you are, and it wouldn't work out anymore (because of the maturity you'd have). Unless you would understand that guys your age wouldn't have the same maturity as you are... in the end all girls would be attracted to someone who is older than them, so idk🤷🏻♂️ But be careful it wouldn't be a manipulative relationship.
However, I can't help but believe that people well over the age of 18 (well into their 20's and older) who chase teenagers are either A) extremely emotionally immature to the point to where they can't relate to people their own age, B) enjoy the fact that teenagers are often naïve and impressionable, and can be easily manipulated, or C) enjoy the fact that teenagers are much easier to impress than adults and are essentially seen as losers by adults, so they go after the teenagers who are not hard to convince that they're all that when they're really not (and this is not a knock on teenagers, but it's just a fact that they lack the life experience of adults and are more impressionable; I was there, too). I've met my fair share of guys like this and they never fail to fall into one of these categories.
*not that teenagers are seen as losers by adults, but that the adult chasing the teenagers are seen as losers by adults. Sorry, I didn't word that very well! On other words, some of these adults are rejects of adult society and seen as losers due to the fact that they haven't accomplished anything, have no motivation, have loser mentalities and personalities, etc., but it's easier for them to convince a teenager that they're much better than they really are.
Age does matter. When the age difference is too big, they might not have anything in common. In such relationships, the younger person is usually manipulated by the older one. But generally, if you see a much older person dating a much younger one, its not about mental connection which is why they are together. Its much harder for a much older person to relate to a much younger one. Drastic differences in maturity is also a big thing.
I highly don't recommend relationships with huge age differences because they usually are much more likely to end in divorce than couples with less age differences. They both might work out temporarily but not necessary 10+ years later.
@Barbarian8 just research it. You have the entire internet at your finger tips. And plus, you can understand this by logic and common sense. A relationship between a 23 yr old and 36 yr old might work now. But if it’s a 42 yr old married to a 60 yr old, you will know there will be hardships and conflicts
@Barbarian8 people change throughout life as they enter different life stages. As a result there may be a lot of life style mismatchings. One of them may turn into a nanny more than a wife after a certain number of years
@nella965, on internet I can find everything whether good or bad. That is why I asked for real fact and not assumption and you said people change over time , hence their logics and way of perceiving life. That is why fact don't change. As you said I have knew some people who are like this and one of the best example is the president of France. So, basically nanny is Macran and his wife is his grandma in some people eyes. But for Macran, it is his wife and he is not gonna worry about 8 billions point of views!!
@Barbarian8 A marriage with 30 year age difference is not feasible by most people in general. He is the exception, not the rule. He is not representative of the entire population
I am likewise attracted to older men. But I have managed to find one my age who shares my values.
Large age gaps can be harder to manage than you think.
Also, you're 14. Don't even worry about finding love until you're older. Right now, focus on yourself. If you find a dude, date him, but don't try to convince yourself you're in love. Experience things, let them end, learn to live with them.
my late grandmother was 8 years older than my grandpa. And my Dad is 11 years older than mom. So no not really. BUT. Personally, I have a hard time seeing a future with men who are more than 6-7 years older than me although I may be attracted to *some* of them.
If you are 14, I wouldn't find a 16 year old guy so much different maturity wise to you. I would be concerned if he was 38 or 50. I seem to attract younger men but that may be because I look young and have buoyancy in me. I've been hit on by a 22 year old in recent months (& no, I said no no no... lol). Age is irrelevant. It's more about maturity, values and purpose in one's lives, which matters.
yes and no. I'll give you an example. I liked this guy who was 18 ( I'm 16) and we got along and started to like each other, but I realize we were both at different points. I had about a year and a half of high school left, was hanging with my friends and just doing what teenagers would do. he was working, in college (first year) was able to drive himself around and went on dates with other girls. we were just at different points because of our age. now that being said, someone could be 35, and someone 39, but at the same point in life, and have very common areas, and I think the relationship could work out fine. so I think a part is age but also where your at in life.
U can as you mentioned slight older that is if there is a gap of 9-10years from ur age than its fine but if u want to get in a relationship i believe u should consult your parents or check that person's background from unknown sources than ur good to go.
As long as it's legal and two people care for eachother, if people have a problem w a relationship not of thier own, they should back off. Also, if someone is overwhelming and wants to say bad about it, it is their hangup. mostly it is the way the unhappy people who dont understand love and want to make a sorded thing out of it, usually those are the perverts in the picture.
Of course it does matter. To an extent it does. That is because maturity is something that " also" comes with age. Of course maturity and age are not necessarily connected but still age does play a part in a person becoming mature.
Hence too much of age gap can mean one person having more maturity than the other and the way they look at life can also differ by a huge margin.
The rule of thumb is you shouldn't date anyone younger than half your age, plus seven (or, conversely, older than your age minus seven, times two). Basically, the difference matters less as you get older. Following this guideline, since you're 14, you'd probably be better off not getting with anyone older than (14 - 7) * 2 = 14.
Depends, the main concern is the older person taking advantage of the younger one. But then the issue is less about age and more about avoiding bad people. I'm sure if friends and family screened an older guy and you weren't having sex it shouldn't be a problem.
I'm 25, and the best men I've dated have been much older than me (7-15 year age gaps). Older men just know what they want more and know how to treat you better.
HOWEVER I have to say, at your age, it's best to stick to people in your age range. You are still a minor and you shouldn't date anyone 18 or older until you yourself are 18 or older.
"Age is just a number" only applies when you're an actual adult.
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At 14, stick with guys you're own age. You don't want to be messing around with older guys. Totally not worth it. Tell them you'll be available in 10 years. 24+, age differences are as big a deal, but younger than that and people are in much different life stages.
The first and only question is how much older - You are 14 anything older than 16 might be an issue. Up to 18 maybe a few years but as an adult you are more freer to choose , I would caution a good think about age gaps where you both are in life.
Nope as long as the relationship isn't money based. That alone would slash away most of the fake 20+ year difference relationships 🤷♂️ and we'd be left with the lower differences (less than 10 years)
@Mia80 I wasn't really saying about younger guys or girls being hard to deal with but yeah you're right. Many guys sure are not worth the time but I guess it's right both ways. I personally find older girls much more suitable cause the younger ones are usually quite a handful to even befriend properly without drama. I for one (when at 20) was in love with a 27 year old woman. Felt natural, felt peaceful 😌
Its risky but who's to really judge? Even God's ok with so I mean sounds alright here. Well I mean the court room might judge, but its fine. I dont recommend it for safety purposes but its your decision over all.
I'm mean ig in a way it does like 14 so u probably dont want a guy in his 20s like when 14 my crush u had a crush on me back was 16 about to turn 17 we were in the same grade cause he kept failing but ig it depends on how old the guy is.
I would say no, but we have this thing called "minor", so an adult dating a minor is a no no in most places. If both are adults, then I don't care even if the age gap is 70 years.
well according to the law it does matter at a certain age and im all with the law when it comes to kids getting taken advatage on, now when the teen years start hitting, thats a different story
I like to think of myself as a kind person but i really wish i had a baseball bat and every girl who writes questions like these so i can smash there head in with anger and a passion
Age does not matter if the age of thinking is more or less the same. Sure a big age gap can have the consecuence that you're doing other things as a sane age couple. And I am not talking about sex.
Depending on How old you are, If ur 13-18 u shouldn't be with someone Who is 3+ years younger/older, but IF ur 18+ do The Good old, half your age plus 7
Definitely not. I'm 46 and girlfriend is 18 she's my wife's daughter so my daughter in law. My wife let's us be boyfriend and girlfriend. Sometimes helps us clean up if you get me.
Wife's daughter is your Step-Daughter you DUMBASS!!! And we all know you're living in a Fantasy Land, you should at least get FUCKIN Fantasy right... IMBECILE!!!
You have to get along and be compatible. However, GIANT age differences can affect a relationship. If you're talking 25 or more years age difference, that more often than not means the elder partner will die long before you, or could be disabled in later life. You could end up being a resentful nurse. I think people should consider such scenarios. Also, if you're having children at 65, will you see them graduate high school or college? Witness them partner. See your grandkids. Parents are important to have around for their counsel and support. Some of it financial.
I understand you're very young. Keep it close to your age. When you're 30 a 10 year age difference might seem small. But for now, one or two years. And don't get involved with anyone who might be charged with statutory rape for being with you. Until you're either 16 or 17, don't hang out with someone older. Could cause problems for them.
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