Is a guy a "sucker" if he dates a single mom but he has no kids of his own?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

Well this all depends on the guy and the woman he’s dating it for sure depends on the situation that she’s in.

Is she a single mom because she picks shitty men to have sex with but all the sudden wants a good man to marry her so she can have a more stable life? Was she raped? Was she in a relationship that started off good but say she got cheated on and/or abused later on and had enough respect for herself as well as her child to get the hell out of there? If she someone whose made bad choices and has been honest about it is taking responsibility and doing the best she can?

It all just genuinely depends and dating isn’t a committed relationship. That’s just the stages of seeing if you’re compatible if one another meets the prerequisites for a relationship, exploring what you like, what you don’t, who you’re into, and who you’re not. So somebody could decide this isn’t for me. Especially if the woman comes off as someone using him.

[Asker]

What if the guy changed once the baby arrived?

[Summeroflove]

What do you mean?

[Asker]

I mean like what if the woman is a single mom because the guy changed once the baby arrived

[Summeroflove]

Oh that does make sense, yeah like I said. It all just depends. If he started becoming abusive, cheating, neglectful, etc. Then I can’t blame her for leaving.

[Asker]

I agree. Why in certain situations where the kid's father is abusive or he abandoned the family, people will still blame the single mom? They say things like you were the one that picked him.

[Summeroflove]

Well asker in some cases nobody is perfect but at the end of the day. Nobody especially someone with a child shouldn’t be in that situation.

I don’t feel so bad for people who intentionally choose bad people. But sometimes you just don’t know until later.

Plus the man could just…. Up and leave one day. Even if she did nothing but be a good wife and mom

[Summeroflove]

Asker, many people love sticking their nose into other peoples business and saying shit. Peope do this to men too.

Let’s say a woman became abusive. Chestrd. Etc. The man leaves and people trash him as how could he leave a woman with a baby.

You can’t win. No matter what you do people will judge you….. it doesn’t matter at all what you do.

[zagor]

No. There are some hot single moms out there.

And some guys don't like being around babies so it suits them fine. My friend married a girl when her sons were 7 and 9 and they all got along great, including with her ex. And no she wasn't depending entirely on him for $.

[natured]

No, why would he be a sucker? Not everyone has kids, some will never have them.. life happens for everyone i would not really define them as suckers, that's kind of childish to be honest.

[Nikki1989]

No, not at all.

Don't listen to the bitter, twisted anons on here that have an axe to grind. They are so clueless, it is embarassing.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, if she has four baby daddies and he is paying all her bills and getting treated poorly.

No, if she is a faithful, self-sufficient widow with well-behaved children who are old enough to be left alone at home.

In between the extremes, it depends.

[Anonymous]

Not inherently no. It just happens to be that most single moms are trash women. So this is probably the case a majority of the time. There's nothing wrong with having a good heart. The problem is in this world we live in today you have to be on your guard with every woman.

[Asker]

Why do you generalize single mothers? Most are trash? Is that really true?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah unfortunately. Anyone can make a mistake but an adult OWNS thier mistake. Most single moms will repeat this pattern because they never own thier first mistake. This is why a single mother is typically considered easy prey to most sleepy guys. Because they know already she doesn't make good decisions.

[Opinion Owner]

Sleezy* not sleepy.😆

[Asker]

If she just has one kid would it still be a mistake to date her?

[Opinion Owner]

There is only one way to find that out. She's an unnecessary risk. This is why single moms are not a guys first choice. Why take that risk if you don't have to.

[Nik1hil]

He is an innocent person.

Or He genuinely care about Kids, irrespective of, Who's kid they are.

He understands that Kids Needs A Father Figure to grow up Right!

[RavVid]

Not necessarily but he is if he puts himself in the position of having to pay child support for them.

[Berethor]

Yea he sucker, but it usually ugly guys who date single moms, so they both low quality.

[DrPepper12]

Not necessarily. He may truly love her and the kids were an extension of her. He may enjoy the fact that it's a pre-made family.

[stratford]

Depends if she is giving him what he needs :-)

[HawkPerception]

Depends on many factors.

[Dongie]

Yeah, and be not a sucker for turning his back on the one he loves just for a kid.

Not

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Why would he be a sucker?

[Starrrboy]

A huge sucker..

[Asker]

Why is he a sucker?

[Starrrboy]

Doesn't need much explaining.. but I'll give you a hint.. he'll never be her number one priority.. a huge part of her life is related to another guy and that will carry on forever..

[Asker]

Okay what does that have to do with him being a sucker? It just might be a bad fit

[Starrrboy]

What?

[Asker]

I'm saying a relationship between them two might be a bad fit. They might not be compatible.

[Starrrboy]

Which is what I'm saying here? Lol..

[Asker]

But how does that make him a sucker?

[Starrrboy]

Because he's settling down for something less than he deserves? seriously, what's up with your questions lol

[Starrrboy]

* less than what he deserves

[jahaims]

Yeah