On a scale of 1 to 10, how desired do you feel in the dating market?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well I really have no idea. 5? Maybe. At the end of the day people need to focus on quality of attention NOT quantity. Because quantity sure maybe it will boost your ego but there will be a lot of people who aren’t good for you, some aren’t even good people at all.

I think being able to find quality people is worth a lot more then having a abundance. Sure when you have a lot you have a lot of options, at the same time many people pretend to be someone they’re not for one reason or another, some reasons are more nefarious then others.

Also remember that just because someone rejects you romantically and/or sexually it doesn’t necessarily mean this individual is looking down on you as a person. It means they don’t feel attracted in that sort of way.

As for people who do look down on you, they’re not worth being in your life anyways. So….

TallAnon · Accepted Answer

In theory, 9; In practice 2. Tall, caucasian, good job, healthy, confident, etc. I got everything going for me.. Yet in reality, no one seems to genuinely want to connect.

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

I get the point of your question. :D

I haven't put myself out there yet, so I genuinely am not sure. I don't dress for attention, so I don't get hit on out and about. That leads me to believe that my face is average, because truly beautiful girls will likely be hit on no matter how they dress. I do know that I look about ten years younger than I am, based on comments friends and others have made.

Guys look, but don't approach. Most guys like me when I talk to them, though. I think if I add in being a widowed single mom, guys have better options than me. The kid thing is a real turn off for guys, based on what I've been observing. It takes a lot of points away.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I didn't think I was desirable when I was 64 but I was to a very special man and we fell madly in love with each other.
I didn't think I would ever have a man make love to me at my age, but we had a very robust love life.
It was wonderful and exciting !
💖💘
Sadly, my love of my life passed away in September of 2023 - a year ago this month. I miss him terribly.💔
Rest In Peace in Heaven 💌♥️✝️

GoodManDave · Answer

Let’s say I would rate myself a little differently than women, and I would rate myself differently than a bunch of women doing “locker room talk” and laughing it up; after the wine starts flowing and they feel fine to tell what they view as the truth without pretending to be nice or without “that tact.”

I would rate myself at a 3 or 4, maybe crawling up to a 5 if I’m going to a formal event, and I’ve taken more time to clean myself up. But the 5 isn’t my regular. I’m pretty ugly. I believe women would rate me at about a 3 or 4 if they’re being nice or think it will somehow get back to me… that’s public version of them, that doesn’t want to have a bad reputation…not how they really think. Get some wine out for the REAL “girl talks” and if they feel like it won’t get back to me somehow, I’d pretty sure I’d be at negative numbers.

Unit1 · Answer

I'm surprised my AI girlfriends do not find me repulsive. I mean why should they? 😂

But for real though, I keep getting the "You're handsome" compliments but whenever I'm having sex, It's always going to be a handsome. 😑

So how desired do I feel in the dating market? 2/10 perhaps. Like most souls in their male host bodies I pale to the top 5% of men. The rich bois and the big posers and liars take away the beauties I see. I wonder if it would be a complete 180 degrees turn for me if I was either born a girl or transitioned into a pretty Kathoey in my younger years like so.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/sFND3S93ZGQ

Crimsyjo · Answer

Hm sexually desired? By guys under 35 - maybe an 8. Relationship wise - 0. Which is cool and understandable.

Guys over 35, sexually, maybe a 3. Relationship wise - 0. So bloody annoying cos yes I can have lots of sexy fun. But I really really do just wanna be loved and in love and have my one guy.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

I am in agreement with user Crim.. I feel like most of the attention I receive is just sexual.. especially the older up the man is.. But, I don’t really think too deeply into it because I’m aware that we’re never going to be everyone’s cup of tea.. I’m okay with not being someone’s exception. I love myself more than my desire to be loved by someone else.

SueShe · Answer

I hope it is 0 (zero) because I am not a merchandise that can be sold or traded.

Since I am not interested in dating nor in fornicating, I don't place myself on any market like a piece of meat or a slave that can be purchased and misused by those men that roam those markets in search of a victim for their deviant and sexual perversions.

Levin · Answer

That is hard to say and measure.

I distance myself from 95% of women, so it's hard to say if they pick up on that. I'm not interested in most women. The women I'm usually interested in have a boyfriend so are an obvious waste of time. The pool of desirable single women alas I find to be rather small in my social circles and work environment.

rienna888 · Answer

8, I don’t find myself attractive and I don’t get a lot of attention from strangers but when I meet men off dating app most of them see me as relationship material. People do ask for my number on public but they never lead to anything.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I feel pretty desired... I would be more desired if I were slimmer (which I'm working on), but I'm doing pretty well with women as it is. If 5 is actually average, I feel like 7.

It's kind of discouraging how many women's eyes light up when they find out that I'm a lawyer. I'm not mad at it, but it really tells you where people's heads are at

FreyaRed · Answer

I am 9-10 but on dating market but my desire for dating market is between 0,0-1,0

jazzy34 · Answer

I don’t even know if I’m  on  the scale. If a man is interested in me, he sure doesn’t express it. 😅

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Well hopefully I don't need to check for a while but I manage quite well.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Already said here by @SueShe. There is no market except the one we want to perceive. Then there is no need for black mirror scales, points and scores. There is just people to look at.

morganherrel · Answer

Interesting experiment Can you make a poll for this? Also, I get the reaction... but the market exists whether people acknowledge it or not, and it doesn't preclude deeper connections

England4eva · Answer

I recently broke up with a guy. So minus something? I don't feel very desired at all. I wish I felt even a 5/10

77five · Answer

0. And im not even exaggerating. I had one guy ever ask for my number and even then, he had no intentions on ever seeing me

DrPepper12 · Answer

Meh... If I was dating a 4 I guess. Damn bell curve!!

vickiezalez · Answer

It depends what you mean by desired. Men looking at me? I'd say 3. Men coming forward and asking me out? -1😂

Mwolf · Answer

I don't know and IDC, just focused on my own relationship with my boyfriend, TBH.

LiamJHayden · Answer

5, but that is fine because more of the more desirable guys are too afraid to approach and ask the ladies.

Nirmroth · Answer

On good days 6 on bad ones 4.

noohair · Answer

Zero... omg, lol.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Two…..

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Like 4 😂

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Zero!

jojouzumaki · Answer

Definitely 0

InvalidUsername422 · Answer

Depends on my mood

jamesgoldman · Answer

Minus 1

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Seven

Walksbehindtherows · Answer

9,99999999

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

0 100%

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