Anyone noticed this site attracts lot of men who struggle with girls?

[MK1997]

Met lot of young men in their 20s who can't get a girlfriend and are social pariahs and toxic as hell. It seems to be a thing on this site.

[Tarifa]

I can only speak for myself, but I think a lot of guys in the age group 18 to 25 are so insecure around women that they just don’t know how to behave. I too have felt that we guys need to pass some sort of test, to see if we even qualify to talk to a girl. I’ve had situations where trying to talk to a girl was met with a disapproving glance. That may be the reason guys turn to this site to seek advice or share thoughts. A first love affair that didn’t turn out the way you wanted may put a lot of stress on a guy.

I also think that social media have a big influence on the dating scene. We live in a world of instant gratification: you post a picture on a social media site and expect instant likes. Texting a girl and not getting an answer within a foreseeable time makes you wonder why. That goes for both sexes. He/she may be busy, may have read your message but is waiting for a better time to give you an answer, anything can happen. Maybe if we slowed things down, took the time to get to know each other and appreciate each other, things might clear up.

[razelove]

I'd say it's more guys in their late 30's like me and women in their mid 20's, with the women more spread out from teens to 40's. A lot of guys do struggle with women, it's either that or while we're in the element we're fuck boys, and while settled down, "no way".

A lot of guys on here that are older aren't interested in getting more tail then they have, seems like a lot of guys my age are single, and the younger guys are genuinely asking advice, whether they're single or not.

Of course I think the name of this site attracts single men. I thought it was a dating site at first lol, I was pissed at how terrible the interface was.

[Crimsyjo]

I'm sure it depends on what categories you most frequent. As I'm in the sexuality category a lot rather than, say, fashion, it makes sense I see more males on site. But I've seen regulars who have girlfriends and long term relationships so they not all single. There's a share of toxic and bitter guys. That's same on the dating sites.

Unless I knew all the categories on here I wouldn't be able to guess to the validity of your statement tho...

[MK1997]

These guys might me in the minority but they are very toxic

[Crimsyjo]

I bet they put a mask on in real life so they are way worse on here because they can get away with it as anonymous.

[MK1997]

I agree

[JSkye]

It's a website where people can come learn about the opposite sex in a public forum. If nothing else, it is a teaching tool or a window into others' worldview.

It's a good springboard for people who want to improve their understanding.

[MK1997]

Lol I don't think this site is helpful

[JSkye]

Then why use it?

[MK1997]

Because I have different reasons for being here

[JSkye]

That's fair.
I'm also here for other reasons myself

[Avicenna]

Why would that surprise you, considering this is a place to get advice on dating?

[SamIam96]

In general, a lot of men struggle with women. In dating, I think women have more choices. At least initially. So guys feel like they're at a disadvantage.

This site is worst than most. Not that @GAG is a bad site, but a lot of the content is focused on relationships and things related to them -- sex, appearance, behavior. With that backdrop, it's inevitable that the guys who struggle are here and their behavior can be bad.

[MK1997]

These guys are complete weirdos. I am not talking about average guy who is trying to date

[SamIam96]

I completely agree. There are a lot of completely normal people, here. But, also the ones that struggle the most.

[SixFootSexy]

Bad news... 60% of young men are single, so it's not just on this site: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-state-of-our-unions/202302/why-are-so-many-young-men-single-and-sexless

[MK1997]

That's not what I am talking about

[SixFootSexy]

It is, you're talking about an endemic issue. Guys who don't have relationships with real women in person don't treat women online very well, because they only see women as either OF grifters or feminazis. Not a lot of room for nuances there.

[MK1997]

I see these men are simps too

[MK1997]

There lot of men here who never had a girlfriend and It makes them obsessed with women in a bad way

[SixFootSexy]

True, because they're weak and naive. They don't know anything about female nature. The only fans girls they droll over would crawl over broken glass to be with Chad, but wouldn't even piss on these simps if they were on fire.

[MK1997]

They tend to be toxic too. Not all but lots are

[SixFootSexy]

To be fair, you and I might be toxic too if we never felt the loving touch of another human without paying for it. That's 60% of these guys, sadly.

[MK1997]

Its hard to believe

[DrewJohnson]

That's an interesting observation. Being online provides some anonymity. That can bring out the worst in people, they feel safe behind a phone to act as they please.

On the other hand, it might feel like a safe place to get enough insights to interact better in person.

[Enes38]

These types of sites seem to show people's insight. For example, a very naive and respectful person in his real life shows his true face by entering this site. I think he expresses his perverted fantasies and no one judges him, after all, no one knows anyone.

[CuriousHubby]

True but also meet a lot of girls who are so toxic. Not animen just very toxic and hateful.

Think most come and go but the toxic one stay.

[MK1997]

The toxic ones I see are nearly all level 1 or 2

[CuriousHubby]

The toxic ones I meet are usually higher levels. Play nice then show themselves on a question you ask that they pic a fight with.

Asked a general question and all the higher levels girls scream don't generalize us! Bitterly

[FlamingLass]

If they've never been in a relationship it it makes since they would struggle and i know that many men our age are still single

[BetaBucks]

That's the theme of the site. People that are successful in relationships don't tend to use relationship advice sites. Same with women.

[thearchjoker]

The majority of young men are single and over a third of men under 36 are still vigins so its not surprising at all

[Fireguy17]

To me it is pretty close to 50/50.
This has been the same over time, long before computers were around.
Everything changes, but stays the same.

[A_Wild_Redhead]

This is a site where you can ask questions to the opposite gender in order to understand them better, so I am not surprised that it attracts single men. They're looking for answers.

[buzzword]

That's who you attack. The guys that are more successful with women aren't interested in you.

[Titus_of_Ultramar]

Most men my age have never had sex and are currently single so what a surprise.

[MK1997]

I think most did

[Titus_of_Ultramar]

Im 20 and nearly no man my age has had sex with few exemptions around 70% are still virgins

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Lot of Catfish on this site too

[Nerdvana]

It's not just this site, but in life in general.

[MK1997]

I don't see it on other sites

[nik0102]

I joined this site to see the common opinion in certain things that might be taboo and the internet may present very biased and specific views

[tfan1]

I’m sorry for not understanding, what does toxic mean? I’m only aware of toxic waste?

[EnjoytheDay777]

I've totally noticed it too. What do you mean by toxic, in particular? Would you mind sharing what you've seen?

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah, and girls who struggle with guys and whether they like them (we do!)

[MK1997]

I don't see this behaviour in girls

[RedInnocent69]

Well, very not you 😉 but plenty of girls post, does he like me, he did [obviously flirting thing] what does it mean, or I sucked his cock how do I get him to love me, questions.

[MK1997]

That's no what I am talking about

[RedInnocent69]

I know. The guys are haters, not just strugglers 😂

[MK1997]

They are simps too

[RedInnocent69]

Well, hard to respect others if you don’t respect yourself.

[Anonymous]

it's 2024 not 1954 just before the sexual revolution

[LiamJHayden]

Makes sense since the site is, in theory, designed for questions between the sexes.

[JoeRob67]

Yes some do depending on past relationships.

[MrGSpotHer]

Or they just have had enough of rubbish standard to choose from

[Falcon12345]

Huh!!! I never really thought about it but because I fit this demographic it’s an interesting theory.

[Falcon12345]

At least the girlfriend struggles part

[Anonymous]

Yep, and it also attracts lot of females who struggle with males?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's probably because they are shy and lack self-confidence.

[ProbablyClueless]

I have noticed that lol

[morganherrel]

It wouldn't surprise me at all lol

[MK1997]

Why not

[morganherrel]

Wouldn't they be more likely to comment on a dating forum like this?

[MK1997]

Maybe you are right

[MK1997]

Do you mind chatting in private? You can message me

[Jennz6]

Seems like men with ego

[sobg1124]

How are they toxic? What have you experienced?

[MK1997]

We can talk in private if you want

[sobg1124]

I'm at work right now, but, sure, a bit later would be fine.

[jahaims]

That's the internet in general

[Mark987]

Yes a lot of weirdos

[Jackson2005]

I don’t guess I’ve ever paid to much attention lol

[Anonymous]

Toxic feminism and misandry too

[Amur8711]

It's always been that way.

[Heckler]

Boredom is a thing too unfortunately.

[SpeedAnswerDemon]

damn ;-;

[paledreams]

Shrugs 😝😴

[bellissimoe]

Nope

[GlenQuagmire]

You mean simps?

[MK1997]

Partly

[CubaPirate]

Yes I have