Should I pursue a baby daddy?

[simsx]

So, I'm not really sure how I get myself into these situations anymore. But I had been speaking to this guy who lives near me and we just instantly hit it off and after 3 days I agreed to see him. We went on a date and it was perfect. We acknowledged several times how weird it is that we just connected instantly and honestly I haven't felt this in love with a man since my year 5 boyfriend. He picked me up, kissed my cheek and hands constantly holding my hand and we say very intense things sometimes half joking. So it's hard to decipher whether either of us is joking half the time. Then on the drive home I told him that I get really dodgy vibes from him like he could be living a double life and he laughed and told me that was accurate. But as I don't know him that well I don't pry. Then we're talking the next day over voicenotes and he tells me that he needs to tell me 2 things and he said "remember how I said my last relationship was 2 years ago and it lasted 3 years, well it was actually 4 years and it was a marriage". He then said and the 2nd thing and sent me pictures of him and his 1 and a half year old son. AND HE'S ONLY 22 YEARS OLD. Naturally, I just told him I'm confused and shocked because it had honestly felt like for once I had found my person. Everything just made sense with him and I've never felt that way. But at the same time, I don't want to be delusional but we both do have genuine feelings for each other. I'm only 20 and it just sounds like too much to deal with at my age and I've never pictured marrying someone who was firstly divorced and secondly HAS A WHOLE CHILD. He tried to call me and told me he wants to speak properly in person with me about it and delve deep when he comes back from his holiday in 20 days. I ignored the call and just said remember when I said we're besties we can just keep it as besties and he agreed but we still flirt. I kind of just want to tag along for the wild ride but I don't know if I should and if it's immoral.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa this is a lot to take in. I can see why you were shocked when he told you all that. A kid and an ex-wife is a big thing to find out, especially since you just started talking.

On the one hand, it does sound like you really connected with this guy in a way you haven't experienced before. And if the feelings are that real and mutual between you two, that's not something to just throw away either. But at the same time, diving into a relationship with all that baggage so soon could also end up being way more drama than you need right now.

I'd say take things super slow. Definitely don't jump into anything serious yet. Keep talking and getting to know him as friends first before deciding if you want to pursue anything romantic. Make sure to really think about if you're ready to take on a kid that's not yours too.

Don't rush into labeling things or making promises. See how you both feel after spending more low-key time together with his full situation out in the open. There's no need to rush a decision either way right now. Just protect your heart and take care of yourself first - you're still young and have plenty of time to figure things out. Let things unfold naturally without pressure before committing. Hope this helps!

[Avicenna]

So he wasn’t honest with you about something really important. That should disqualify him right there, even before we see how you aren’t comfortable with his situation.

[Firestar01]

Dude... you need to get yourself together and THINK a bit, before you act. That's how you avoid such situations.

And ignore this guy. He lied to you BIG TIME.

[Jmmmfi4]

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