Is dating a baby daddy the right choice?

[Anonymous]

Me and this dude has been dating for two months, it’s been great with the way he treats me and the way he takes care of me. But I have my doubts. Him and his baby mama were together for 6 years. Have two kids together. She cheated and he kicked her out because of so and has been with the guy she cheated on him with since. We’ve all went to high school together so I know them personally before we started dating. ( I was a freshman they were seniors) now we’re in our mid to late 20s, just for perspective. But what makes me have my doubts is how he consistently talks about when they were together. But he explains it it’s because they’ve been together for so long that’s all he can base experiences off of. His family seems great but they have no interest into knowing me and I get along great with his two kids. But I feel like I’m just there if that makes sense, like I’m not included because his family doesn’t make an initiative to get to know me and that his baby mama is always casted into almost every conversation we have, including with his family. He swears he doesn’t miss her, or love her anymore, but I have a feeling he’s been lying. Checked there messages, the messages only go to December 9th. We’ve been dating since October. I know there should be more messages than that dating back longer. Plus they’ve been broken up for almost two years now and I’m his second relationship since the break up. Don’t know if I’m overthinking this situation or it’s just past trauma from previous relationships getting to me but I need a different perspective, thank you.

[Summeroflove]

Well let me tell you he has no control over his family so don’t hold that against him. COMMUNICATE how you feel to him and if you’re just not compatible then that’s what it is. You both deserve to have someone to love who is.

She cheated and he threw her out. He did the right thing with that. But I just feel like communication how you feel directly goes a long ways. He can’t read your mind and you can’t read his. A real relationship is talking to one another. Eventually if a relationship is meant to be a lot of communication will become non verbal. But that comes later through a reall commection

[Anonymous]

Part of me says he still cares for her. She cheated on him. So more than likely he still had feelings for her. It wasn’t like he was the one that cheated on her then walked out on her. Do you get what I mean? It can be a while for the family to adjust, especially if you two haven’t been together that long. I think over time if they see you two have been together maybe 6 months Tia year they will come around more. Especially if the son is known to be w different women then breaking up, sleeping around, etc.

[LonelyHsoul]

It's not surprising he talks about her, he has nothing else he can talk about that you don't already know as you've both known each other for years.

Of course he still loves her, that doesn't go away even after her cheating but you can't blame him for feeling that way.

As for his family he was with his ex for along time and have 2 kids, seeing someone knew just for 2 months isn't going to to make them miraculously like you as they don't see you as serious, just a rebound, it will take more time for them to see that you are serious.

Plus you all knowing each other since school it wouldn't surprise me if the family thought you were waiting all this time for them to break up so you could swoop in.

There is no yes or no in dating someone with kids, you just have to be prepared for any complications that may come alone with it.

[Anonymous]

Is this a joke?

[Anonymous]

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[Jmmmfi4]

Wow damn