Why don’t women respect nice guys?

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Ladsin2 · Accepted Answer

"Nice" guys are using deception/ friendship as a... covert method of gaining sexual access. I think if you take an evolutionary perspective to human behavior this is simple. Men want access to procreation and women are choosing the best male they can. Men can use a variety of means to access procreative potential, namely "sow and go" and "stay and pay". The prior option can be excised either via force or attraction. Let's presume force is off the table as we live in a civilized society. That leaves wild attraction and commitment signifiers. Women want the most attractive man they can get as it signifies good health and will be better for her progeny, but this has to be mitigated by his proclivity to stay and support the family. If Channing Tatum is the most attractive male he may get 99.99% of women... lubricated, but if he doesn't display signifiers that he will stay and provide for the family many, if not most, women would say no throughout antiquity. (Otherwise she and her family will starve.)

Men fight to be as attractive as possible. Either via physical prowess or resource acquisition. If they can do neither they have to hyper-demonstrate their willingness to stay and help rear the children. Women will likely fall back on these men when the more attractive men are no longer accessible.

I'm a bit tipsy so hopefully that makes some sense.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

they are looking for male/female power dynamic, confidence. If he's weak emotionally... he's too feminine... she pukes at a deep level... and so he gets tossed out... emotionally... in about 2 seconds. He's done!

Unless she thinks she can handle that or control him, she may go towards or she has empathy for his woundedness.

The problem with 'weak' is the woman knows she's a basket case of emotions and senses when challenged, he will run. That is worse than not having him at all. you know how awful it is to have a child on your hand and one 8 months in the oven and the guy cna't handle your bit@chy emotions and runs and leaves you... to incredible suffering? Security is the #1 goal... security. The strong man feels secure... even when they aren't.

So if you think emotionally, you'll understand her viewpoint more... keep your energy up in the face of their feminine emoting... and then you will win them over.

'Ride em' cowboy... lol

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

Because those "nice guys" aren't actually nice guys to begin with. They be nice just so they can get sex and if not then they'll make it known that they feel entitled to it just because they did so many things and spent money on you.

An actual gentleman doesn't expect sex every single time he's nice or does something nice for a woman, or anybody for that matter. He's actually respectful and won't complain if he doesn't get it. He has her best interest, but a "nice guy" never will. The gentleman will also get more dates from the same woman if she likes him.

frenchgirl123 · Accepted Answer

Women do respect guys, but I'm sorry what is the definition of 'nice'? From my experience, men who call themselves 'nice guys' are often the most predatory whilst pretending to be innocent. In other words, girls will only respect guys, if they guy is respectful.

Babygirl_S · Answer

That’s a misconception. I like the guys who are truly nice and not just faking it. I remember a guy who was so kind until I told him I wasn’t interested. Then he started saying things like “Take my d**k you wh*re” I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing but those “nice guys” are definitely not what women want.

One of the reasons I like my favourite man is because he is genuinely nice and he also looks like he is a good man. He is the type to care about a nobody and make her feel special 🥹

genericname85 · Answer

nice guys have to learn that being "nice" is base line. it's basic human decency. you're not special cause you're nice. you're average at best. nothing wrong with being average but women usually have better choices if they're not fat and ugly. and tbh probably even then.

Sonorous · Answer

I think this is focusing on the wrong things. Women mostly would prefer nice guys or guys that are nice or whatever for long-term dating. So long as those guys are attractive to them of course. The biggest thing to consider is the attractiveness aspect. People will put up with things they wouldn't normally if you're good looking enough.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Oh the good old "nice guys" you mean the guys who are only nice to you because they want to get in your pants and expect something out of you for being a decent person. I have no idea why either 🤔

LiamJHayden · Answer

They do, as long as the guy is genuinely nice and not a manipulator.

Anonymous · Answer

Two major reasons:

nice guys are a lack of “challenge” for women.
women mistake abusive controlling men as a masculinity.

Anyway I’ve been up down back and forward on all this over the years. But I can tell you a usual culprit is a bad upbringing from your mother.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Because doing the bare minimum of being a human being isn't something to be proud of...

Dongie · Answer

You know why?

They see it as a weakness until you knock their boyfriend out then they're all over you.
I've never done that. It is an example.
But they sing a fine song of compassion and love but let a fight break out and watch their reaction. Sad deal, that.

WhitneySnow · Answer

We do. We don’t respect guys who act fake nice to get laid. Aren’t you the guy who threw poop at his wife?

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism has reduced them to animals. If you look at female mammals in the wild they generally will only go with the top males who beat up all the other males. Socially-enforced monogamy civilized human mating practices but the past few decades we have been reverting back to feral mating practices that aren't conducive to a functioning civilization.

Agape93 · Answer

We do, if he's with respecting. ACTUAL nice guys get respect when they show that quality and show the kind of man they are. But fake nice guys? Nah. Fuck them

Gwendoline · Answer

They kinda creepy and think they deserve sex from you just for doing very minor favours for you that you never asked for.

Chthou95 · Answer

Because a lot of women are illogical with their thinking. They don't respect nice guys but they'll hang around and date other men with walking red flags. And they'll even make excuses for said men and lie to themselves. They respect the men who could care less about them

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Some ladies can actually feel if a guy is truly nice or just acting. I automatically roll my eyes when I feel someone's not genuine. 🤭

Nikki1989 · Answer

They do. In fact, we actually prefer them.

desidoll · Answer

Because they are not nice? The moment they found out that they are not getting any, their true color will show.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most do. At least the ones worth being with.

However, women don't like weak, timid, men who are are pushovers. Some guys don't understand that you can be a nice guy without out being everything else that repels women.

Tim2nice · Answer

Because a woman’s brain is wired to be attracted to bad guys. Nice guys don’t float their boat

Unit1 · Answer

Probably its their harmless niceness nature being perceived as being a pushover. Who wants a pushover when there are aggressive troublemakers, that is perceived as super confident? 😏

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think it depends on what person you are but today being nice is seen as being weak.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

I hear and when I talk to a good man I keep talking to him

worldscolide · Answer

Because nice guys aren't usually actually nice guys. That are usually passive aggressive, manipulative, controlling, mentally abusive people.

Bricealan · Answer

I did not know that women don't respect nice guys.

rienna888 · Answer

They really do, it just takes them time to realize it. If they love/like you, they will appreciate you.

PsychicBoobs · Answer

The good woman do. What do they say? You only need one good woman? In a sea of fruitcakes she has to stand out.

seth900 · Answer

This post really makes to rethink that from a nice guy need to change an ass@h×le , need to not respect women, they are not worth to be treated right, the less interest you show the better

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

A nice guy respects himself and doesn’t filter the truth.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Women want to be dominated and a nice guy doesn't invoke her natural sex drive

SolitarySolace · Answer

Women don’t respect guys in general. Women don’t even respect themselves! 😂

JesseP1nk · Answer

Listen to Sadia

Jackblue · Answer

I am sorry, but asking that question makes you sound like an incel.

noohair · Answer

I have no idea why women think the things they think. lol

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

When dealing with women, the old adage remains true: Treat a whore like a queen and treat a queen like a whore. You'll never go wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

Because lots of women are mean and snobbish.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't get disrespected Charlie...

Mati91 · Answer

We do but they gotta have a back bone.

elaphe · Answer

Who said women don't respect nice guys?

Anonymous · Answer

OMFG! That picture is HILARIOUS! Well done!

Anonymous · Answer

Women loves assholes and their money

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