Why do very beautiful women still get cheated on?

[Crimsyjo]

[MrOracle]

Because a woman's beauty has nothing to do with whether or not she gets cheated on. What determines whether she gets cheated on is the morals and values of the man she chooses. And lots of women KNOWINGLY pick men with low morals and values, and far more women make zero effort to determine a man's morals and values before she gets with him, because she prioritizes things like his looks, money, or status. But if that man has low morals and values, it doesn't matter how good he looks, how much money he makes, or how high his status is - he'll likely cheat, because he'll be selfish and self-centered and he literally doesn't think that there's any reason for him not to.

Most women don't want to choose men with good morals and values, because such men usually AREN'T the best-looking or the wealthiest or the highest social status men, and most women think they'd be "settling" if they had to limit their choices to men with high morals and values - so I can't really feel sorry for them when they get cheated on.

[Crimsyjo]

I'm watching a program which made me think of thos question and the beautiful women do not seem shallow. They just want to be loved. So I don't think it holds that all women deserve it due to choosing low value men. Plus I'm sure many low moral/value men are experts at hiding it. Maybe they are genuine in their thoughts and feelings in the beginning and act accordingly. But with time start getting bored or unappreciative.

I just think their is a presumption men are turned by a prettier woman. But it seems it's more about seeking thrill than another woman being "better".

[MrOracle]

Nothing, except a woman's own biases and entitlement, prevents her from choosing a moral man, but most (not all, but most) attractive women do not prioritize the man's morals and values. And if you ask them why they chose their man, they will tell you with their own words. They will tell you he's handsome, fit, wealthy, has a great career, has high status, etc., but you will almost never hear about his high morals and values - because that was never a factor in her choice.

It's very easy to test this yourself: ask the women you know - especially the very attractive ones, why they picked their last 5 partners. Go through each one, one at a time, and see what they say. Don't ask leading questions, just see what THEY say were the reasons. I bet you will almost never hear any references to his GOOD morals and values, though you may be told about his bad ones that she knew about but chose him anyway.

Try it for yourself. But be prepared to have your preconceived ideas shattered.

[Unit1]

This right here.
You're dropping the hammer with this one.
No matter, the delulu (delusion), more often than not, remains unchanged.

[Kaizer000]

I'll tell you the reality I've learned. Female beauty is a blessing in many ways but also a very dark curse. Most of the time, guys will only see you either as an accessory or a sex object. Many will use these girls and throw them. You will never know who truly likes you. Pretty girls can get used to the attention and forget things that really matter. They also may think all this lasts forever... until they start ageing. It's better to be average looking than super pretty in my estimation.

[Crimsyjo]

Yes I can see that in many cases. Lucky I've never been a highly beautiful woman lol. But I'm good. I get enough compliments these days to give me confidence. And my personality seems to attract beyond initial physical attraction.
I've never actually been cheated on. I just been seeing "model" quality women who seem nice saying they been cheating on. And it makes me wonder why a man who has that in his bed will still cheat? And I mean if she's also nice not a shallow or mean beauty.
It seems its maybe the biological drive of men to keep seeking new opportunities to procreate. Maybe that drive is stronger in some men or they have poor self control? It's just generally presumed that a man will find it impossible to turn down a more beautiful woman over their current partner. But it seems it's about thrill not looks?

[Kaizer000]

Uhhh. I'd disagree with you on one thing you said, that you're not highly beautiful. You are. But yeah, personally I would never cheat, cos I'd rather have hundred different kind of sex with one woman than sex with a hundred women. It's not always about looks though. Some hot women are mean. But yeah, guys cheat for a lot of reasons. Often it is for variety or just in the moment. Men deffo have more drive. But I don't think it's an excuse to cheat. I have a high drive, I've never cheated. Yeah it's more about the thrill and variety. Often there isn't even an emotional aspect to it. Just getting off.

[Kaizer000]

Would you be able to answer a few questions I have about this in the dms? I'm just curious

[Crimsyjo]

Aww your sweet thank you for the compliment. I'm really just average. Normal. Not too normal lol. Cos I like to dress up and take care of myself and I don't like being boring or ordinary 😄 so I'm maybe unique. But definitely not "beautiful" in the Instagram babes perfection sense.

I get what u mean too. I'm very high sex drive but I don't agree with cheating. I need a man who can keep up with me. And I don't mean he has to perform 3 times a day. Like great if he can haha. Once a day is fine. And I'll take care of my other urges myself. But if a guy is once or twice a week? Nooo. We gonna have issues. And I'll have to end the relationship based on incompatibility rather than cheat.
I think some men like the security of a woman at home and then seek the thrill.
I am worried about mainlining that thrill in a relationship. I hope by sexual experimentation and openess to being risky/naughty (sex outside for example) we can keep things interesting without resorting to needing other partners. I don't share. And I expect to be number 1 and only female to my man lol

[laurlaur101]

I always wondered this too I’m assuming maybe because the less attractive will do anything the guys want they will just give in to them they can easily control them I don't know maybe the attractive ones have higher standards don’t tolerate bullshit. I don't know maybe the guys could be intimidated and it brings out insecurity within them. I have no idea but this is how I see it but I always wondered the same thing

[MasterKS]

@laurlaur101 not applies to every man!

[JSkye]

Unpopular opinion:

People aren't naturally monogamous. Adhering to monogamy is going against human nature. It's societally enforced, but it isn't our natural state.

Just like shoes. They are bad for our feet, but we wear them most of our life anyways because we are expected to.

[Crimsyjo]

That's a good response. What about family life? Do you not think nothing parents are supposed to be together raising the children? Psychological studies claim this is better for children's mental health. Are we supposed to be monogamous only for a short while (If u call 18 or so years short. But over a life time)

[JSkye]

Raising children takes a village. I would posit that children do better in any environment with parental figures that are steady and treat them well. I don't think that those people need to be biological parents... Otherwise that would imply that adopted parents are never good enough.

I don't believe that being non-monogamous makes you a bad parent or makes a bad environment for kids, as long as the environment is stable and nurturing for them

[Crimsyjo]

Interesting. And I find no reason to disagree really. I never really understood tho how we differ so much from animals. Some animals as a species are monogamous. Some not. But we are a whole mix of different things! Cos some people do want to be with only one their whole lives. And love is a very special feeling between two people not many people (IMH). But hm. a lot of that may be cultural and social?

[JSkye]

Speaking from the perspective of a polyamorous girl (ethical non-monogamy) who was loyal and monogamous for 15 years, my relationships right now are just as special today as they were way back when I got married.
I do believe that most of that belief is conditioned into us by society though.
What I personally found is that, rather than splitting my "love quantity," each partner actually has their own "love bank" in my heart. All are equal. Taking on a new partner doesn't divide my capacity, it multiplies it.

[ohsheeT]

It does not matter who you are, or
How beautiful you are ,
How wealthy you are ,
What you have or,
What you don't. Or
What Title you have.
You could have it all

But if the person you're with
Is not committed
Or want something different
There's nothing you can do about it
Until the moment you find out
Because the odds are is you will always find out no matter what just a matter of time

That's the thing about love is you can't make anybody love you and if you try to then it's fake.
They have to be able to do it on their own just like the person that got cheated on

There's a selfish people in this world
That think they're smarter and they can get away with things and they do for a period of time probably coming home every night saying hello love you miss you act like nothing has happened
And then one day the truth comes out.
And then the blame game they blame you for it LOL or they deny it or they admit it
And then you have to make a choice.

But it does not matter who you are what you have how beautiful you are if your partner wants to cheat on you they're going to cheat on you. For whatever the reason might be.
You either love them more than you love yourself in that moment and you say okay it's all good

You love yourself more in that moment and you say see you later.. have a nice life

[D_Bone_Steak]

The only thing better than good pussy is more pussy. Sometimes a guy just has a craving for some strange.

And here is the song I like to play when I'm banging some strange...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/K0HSD_i2DvA

Because I bang strange from around the world.

[MisterWack]

A lot of handsome men get cheated on too….

I think it is men / women losing sight of what’s important & making dumb, selfish, plain stupid “mistakes”. They set their priorities on an affair more than the beautiful life they have with the man/woman they love with beautiful kids…. Throwing it all away like that is a disgrace and is sad for anyone to find out and go through. Such a betrayal of trust, love, etc. feels like a punch to the gut & heart.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Because of internal psychology, this topic is far too complex to be summed up by beauty factor. People are far too complex, I know it is intimidating, and appealing to reach a simplified view on them, to make sense of this all.

But the first step and the more difficult one is probably to accept that simplification is personal comfort in theory only. In practice it is a gilded cage, until someone or something points at the chains.

[Radiate143]

Because ugly girls need love too. I dunno. They also have vaginas. Good ones.

Seriously because men see women like buffets and we see them like the perfect living room to our exact tastes.

A more sinister reason, they are envious of her and what to put her down a peg or hate her guts and want to destroy her from the inside out. True story.

[kellytheman]

Guys are just dumb and can’t appreciate what they have and might cheat on his girl cause maybe the other girl might do things his girl won’t do like maybe giving him a bj for example. I kinda believe comedian Bill Burr that guys are programmed to have sex with 85% of women in their life but they don’t because you won’t.

[slatyb]

Because they get involved with cheaters. Not every beautiful woman has good boundaries. Plenty of amazing people don't think they are all that.

[lightbulb27]

it's not about them. but maybe it's related of their behavior not how they look? generally, it's an issue with whom they chose and security of relationship.

[NathanDavis]

it's never really about the cheated on...

it's always about the cheater, being a cheater... and cheaters going to cheat

[Squatting_Slav]

3/100 men are genuine good guys with integrity. men do so if they're feel unappreciated, and need their ego boosted.. essentially from a pace of isnecurity and and the coruage to be honest so resort to chetaing

[Anonymous]

people really need to stop with this played out talk. beauty this, beauty that. beauty is COMMON, ok. find something else to try to impress people with

[Opinion Owner]

not that it's not a valuable thing to have

[MicahRaine]

Lowkey facts

[Crimsyjo]

It is common! I see so many beautiful women. Like all shapes and sizes but something always stands out. I never used to think that. How you can be attracted to so many different people
Used to think you saw "the one" and kinda turn off attraction to anyone else. But I guess doesn't work like that. You just turn off actively looking. And turn on self control!

[LunarEclipse433]

Probably because the men that have them suspect they are cheating on them

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because a person that doesn't believe in relationship exclusivity is 100% bound to cheat at some point.

Being physically beautiful or nice to them doesn't matter if they don't believe in relationship exclusivity.

[Juxtapose]

Cheaters do it for the sexual thrill of backstabbing someone else and getting their taboo nut off. That's what I think.

[Crimsyjo]

That's what I was thinking. The thrill of something new. It's just a lot of people (I think) maybe presume a guy is tempted away by another woman's beauty. And sometimes a emotional connection that goes deeper than surface looks.
Do you think it's natural that men (and women) stop seeing the physical beauty in their partner? Aa in it becomes just the norm. With moments of oh he/she is attractive? I say natural as obviously people that love eachother over a lifetime love through all physical changes and age.

[Juxtapose]

I think if you train yourself to go from one new thing to the next, then yeah you will get bored with the same thing and view it in a less flattering light.

To me, a beautiful woman is always a beautiful woman. Her appearance doesn't change because of how long I know her, although my perception of her can change my attractiveness.

[Juxtapose]

*change my view of her attractiveness

[BLP11520]

Men have always tried to get more women in bed. Now it’s much easier to do so.

[msc545]

Just because someone looks good does not immunize them from the possibility of being cheated on it. All it takes is another woman who's more willing to have sex than you are.

[Anonymous]

Because lots of man are dumb, they don't appreciate what they have, while some men can't have any girl.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Because they’re not the problem lmao it’s the person cheating…. Come on now

[jahaims]

Cheaters cheat because they hate themselves. It has nothing to do with the partner.

[eagle1951]

whats makes how someone looks change anything

[Crimsyjo]

The presumption is men cheat because of sexual attraction over powering their loyalty to their partner. And generally sexual attraction is associated with looks. But if you are already with a perfect woman in terms of her shape, flat stomach, perfect skin and beautiful face.. why throw that away? Presuming she is also a decent woman and good partner?

[eagle1951]

I thought it was because they weren't getting it or enough at home

[Anonymous]

Some of it is choosing the wrong guy. Some of it is neglecting the right guy.

[EnjoytheDay777]

For some people it's more than just beauty, but cheating hurts other people, not okay

[MasterKS]

Because a variety of pussy is better than variety of beauty! LOL

[Nikki1989]

Men will be men.

[Ironco]

And women will be women.

[Jennz6]

That’s a man for you

[Crimsyjo]

Haha are they like magpies? Drawn to anything that glitters lol

[Jennz6]

@Crimsyjo you’re right ❤️💯

[eagle1951]

hey watch it lol

[DryGermanGuy]

Truly a low punch there, Missy! Women can and do behave just the same.

[Squatting_Slav]

I can agree on this, today most men seriously lack back bone and cofnidence to be honest and do the right thing

[Nirmroth]

Because grass is always greener on the otherside

[Astarlessnightsky]

Beauty isn't everything.

[bananathunder]

people are dicks...

[Crimsyjo]

So you saying all fault is due to the penis 😂😂😂

[bananathunder]

not all... but most lol

[bananathunder]

the penis will make you do some stupid shit lol

[Crimsyjo]

Haha which sometimes might work to a gals advantage 😉😈

[bananathunder]

right? Mutual advantages lol

[Anonymous]

Ambition. Some people will always want more.

[Staximus]

Maybe she's not putting out

[ManOfHonor]

Maybe vibe doesn't match

[Jpie555]

They may not have beautiful personalities

[Anonymous]

Immorality and lust...

[woahhh152]

I doubt that