Why are so many women cheating these days?

[Anonymous]

So many married moms cheating. Why get married nowadays?

[Finchie40]

Selfishness , Most people today are selfish people that only really care about themselves , that can’t really be content in their lives anymore , thinking grass is greener on the other side, I blame social media for a lot of it to be honest for fucking with people’s heads , Most people don’t fix what’s right in front of them , they latch on to someone else thinking they will save them. Most relationships go through boredom and ups and downs, Shit happens in life , things can be great and then all of a sudden shit happens, Money gets tight , Bills pile up , Cars breakdown ect… trust me I been there, instead of working as a team to get out of that rut together most couples work against each other and blame each other for everything that went wrong, it’s your fault instead of pointing fingers at themselves first , instead of being a team and working together, they resent each other and start distancing themselves from each other , the intimacy and affection starts to fade away so the relationship is pretty much on it’s way to fail. Constantly denying your partner intimacy and affection and blaming them for the bad things that occurred , is more than likely going to push them to open doors to meet someone else , that doesn’t want to push them away, that makes them feel accepted no matter what situation they are in, I have met great girls that came into my life during my bad times , that wanted to see me smile, crazy to say but some of the best sex I ever had was with married women that lied to me about being married. When I found out they were married , I asked them why they did it? and they all pretty much said their husband treats them like shit , He only cares about himself, He doesn’t consider her feelings when it comes to making decisions , always blaming her for the bad things that has happened in life. He only does what is best for him , So it just goes to show , why most guys cheat as well , When their partner is being selfish only caring about themselves , withholding intimacy and affection and he is being blamed for everything that is bad in their lives , is more than likely going to push him to want another girl that doesn’t blame him for shit that doesn’t withhold intimacy and affection. why I always say selfishness is the number 1 relationship killer , If you can not wear your partner’s shoes the same way you want your partner to wear yours , Your relationship is going to fail , For a relationship to survive , both partners need to make each other their top priority , over everyone , over your friends over your family , over your co workers , if your partner can not do that for you , then you are more than likely going to accept someone that can, Never blame your partner for anything until you point fingers at yourself first, If you feel like you are constantly giving without receiving, then your partner is more than likely up to no good , they might not be physically cheating on you but they are cheating on the relationship they chose to be in with you , by making it all about themselves and blaming you for everything. You both have to be a team, it can’t be one sided period , Understand you can’t always be right and they are wrong, if you are constantly withholding intimacy and affection from your partner , you pretty much dug your own grave. Most girls I have been in a relationship with were very selfish people , that only really cares about themselves, they would set boundaries with me but didn’t know how to follow those boundaries themselves. So I dumped them , I will not settle with a girl until I find a girl that knows what it means to remove selfishness for each other , I hope she is out there but sadly it seems so hard to find.

[HecticLife]

Many man take for granted the beautiful sexy wonderful lady, they think about every day. Why you may wonder? Well man have a trend to let the fire die down, because they have and have married their one and only one. In their mind they say she married me and loves me for who and what I am. They flat line at this point and get tooo comfortable, forgetting to make her feel like she there. Forget to make her smile or feel important, as a couple. Kids or no kids they forget and they focus on the journey to make the picture perfect family image that includes house, car, nice things etc. Debt and work that consume and shit them out none stop. Woman will start to seek attention from them but he will be annoyed per stress or other life event. Forgetting how he treated her before. starting to dip down that flat line and she will try harder to get attention. She will maybe get sexy outfit to spice thing up, but shot down with babe I'm not in the mood. THE biggest mistake ever! She get angry, holds hard feeling of being rejected by her shiny armor knight that once did the stupidest things to get her to look at him. She wants that acknowledgement, feeling of who is she once was! Depression starts, insecurities starts, the hurt she takes with her every where will eating at her. She trys to distract herself with friends, going out more, away from the place that makes her feel like she is just a room mate. Hurt and easy looking to make herself feel better and playing house, she finds a friend GUY that make her laugh and smile, she feels listen to, she open up telling him she hurt and what seems like good friend slowly starts grow on her. She getting the feeling she felt once with old man and she know very clearly but wait... that not my husband but... he don't want me. She feel guilty and will try even harder and same old thing. Here comes the legendary words that distroy anything up... FUCK IT! He don't want me.. well if don't want me I have some else that wants me. Looking at the wrong guy in search for what she wants from her shiny armor knight at home, she goes for. What I'm trying say is GUYS need to pay attention to their lady's, never let life's struggles let the flame go out. She married you because she loves the way you are and need to stay that way. She will be your best friend, our kids will leave you but she will stays, our parent will leave us but she will there. Guys don't take your soulmate for granted, she's your love, best friend, you life, the shoulder you will cry on. Just like your kids, aged parent and plants or cool car, she need attention, appropriation, compassion, romance, fun days, good job day. Dumbasses open your damn eye. You let another man make her smile you are done!

[OldWomanBySoul]

A) women are not afraid to get beaten up by their so since being abusive is heavily frowned upon and illegal, rightfully so

B) they aren't cheating more, you just hear about it more thanks to social media, phones etc.

C) Social media has made people think there is someone better out there for them even when it's low-key illusion, just cause there is better out there, doesn't mean it's for you/available for you

D) easier to meet up with wonder range of people and upping the possible amount of candidates for cheating

E) social media has kinda normalised cheating, many find it now days 'cool' or like social status symbol if you manage/ get to cheat

Pick your favourite lol

[MJackson1234]

Imagine how much attention an NBA player can get. Any average woman can get more people to sleep with her and attention than them. Back in the old old old days people were worried about the consequences. Reputation, job, family ashamed of them, etc. Now you cheat and they tell you to go to marriage counseling and it happens. Also bonding is a real problem. The numbers that some of you out there pulling are better than a professional sex worker in Vegas.

[Vegasrunner]

@MJackson1234 As someone who works w/ NBA players I would say that's not true, but I do see your point. Also the difference is average women usually get their attention from men they're not attracted to while NBA players get there's from smoking hot women that everyone wants to bang.

[MJackson1234]

@Vegasrunner i assure you that any average woman can sign up to any dating app and find a few guys that plenty of women would want to sleep with. Of course they will not date or marry them but they will be happy to sleep with them. Temptation is real. That's why it's best to just avoid it.

[Vegasrunner]

@MJackson1234 Most women on dating apps are average so that makes sense. But I don't think their getting attention from the kind of men that any woman would sleep w/. I've done this experiment in the past w/ some of the girls I bang where they show me their dating app messages and most are from regular guys desperate for anything and They're not getting anything near what an NBA player is getting, most of my NBA friends current of past have a roledex of women that they can hit up at any time in almost every major city. I think the part that women don't grasp is most of the guys u meet are regular guys that do struggle w/ women but when you're HV it's never been a better time because women have been trained to compete for you so there's so many options. How many famous men have you ever met on a dating app?

[MJackson1234]

@Vegasrunner what you just described is the problem of the men in this generation. You are confused with having a lot of money as being high value. A drug dealer has more money. Also a lot of these NBA players come from broken homes and lack any education and depth. Glad that they made something out of themselves and living their lives but would I want to be Magic Johnson wife living with AIDS? No absolutely not. I come from the generation when AIDS was a death sentence. My mother friend delivered her baby and had a blood transfusion and she ended up catching it and leaving behind her husband and kids. I see girls all excited about Chris Brown dancing all over them. I wouldn't want him to touch me even after he takes a shower in bleach. A man used to mean something. A person that says what they mean, a protector, a provider, etc. My grandfather was an old school guy. He would work with you or do business but if you have a bad reputation, a drunk, sleep around, cheating on your wife, he wouldn't even shake your hand in a social setting. Sometimes you got to work with trash but you don't need to live with it. You got a lot of money, what does that have to do with me. That's the problem happening now a days. There aren't enough good men or women to raise the younger generation. The normal things now a days where at some point of time abnormal. Everyone been cheated on, everyone is divorced, etc. France literally illegalized 23 and me DNA testing to quote on quote "protect families". I lost money and I made money but I can genuinely tell you at this age that there isn't a single moment of my life that I cherished that had to do anything with money. I might give you an exception of my brother having a hearth surgery and not worrying about the money. Everything that matters in my life has nothing to do with money.

[Vegasrunner]

@MJackson1234 It's unfortunate you're having problems w/ men of this generation perhaps self improvement will help you. While I appreciate that you feel comfortable sharing your life story w/ me, it doesn't have any relevance to the conversation at all. I do find it ironic that you started this conversation by claiming an "average" women can get more men to sleep w/ her than an NBA player yet are now trying to shame the hypothetical NBA player once your hypothesis has been proven false. If you have something regarding that subject matter please share but your life story is non of my concern. You are more than welcome to remain broke for as long as you like, as I am never the one to get in the way of an individual making a mistake.

[Leapfrog00]

It all depends on the person. Guys cheat, girls cheat, but it all starts with the person cheating. Some people cheat because they can't be with just one person, especially people that are overly sexually active and feel the need to be promiscuous.

Others cheat because they're not happy with the relationship, but they don't want to end it either because they know they will never have another one as good.

Then there's the people that cheat to get revenge on their partner for something they did or supposedly did. My ex used to cheat on me all the time and say it was my fault, and it wasn't until after we were broken up, she took responsibility.

The married ones cheating are doing it either because there's problems at home or they realized they can't be with just one person, so they cheat. Some aren't happy with the marriage at times too, but that goes back to problems at home. There's a reason for everything.

Really, if someone married is going to cheat, they have no business being married.

[inhua]

as long as the gynocentric society continues to defend the bad behaviors from women, they will naturally be inclined to abuse this power so freely given to them

after all, feminism portrays men as evil, toxic, scum, greedy who must be scrutinized if they are less than perfect and women portrayed as innocent, sweet, caring, loyal and can do no wrong because of alcohol and other "reasons"

even then it has little to do with morals and values but more so opportunities. beta male orbiters refuse to leave another man's wife alone, bombarding her with options, constantly poisoning her mind with lies such as "he's a control freak and he's abusive etc." such that she becomes less loyal to her husband and transfers them elsewhere

then there's also men who get settled for and they feel the worst of it because now they have to pay alimony and possibly child support for kids that aren't his through divorce

[inhua]

not to mention inventions such as birth control pills and abortion clinics that allow for their tracks to be hidden easier. in the past when such technologies didn't exist, it was impossible to cover their tracks

[ohsheeT]

The world is changing and people are changing with it majorly I think women are tired of being treated the way that they are treated I think they're tired of not being pleased and I think the attitude is if a guy can do it I can do it too it seems like everybody's looking for something and women just like men are going to search for it and find it I don't know that women are cheating or not but I know that they're looking for a better answer

[HighValue]

The majority of women have bad morals and weak willpower, which makes them more easily tempted to cheat and/or be promiscuous.

I have been openly hit on at work by multiple married women. It really is disgusting behavior. Plenty of coworkers have seen it, but the couple of them that encouraged me to pursue married women, I stopped talking to them at work because encouraging that kind of immoral behavior is disgusting as well.

[annabananna]

People are uncomfortable being bored. Every relationship loses their novelty and excitement at some point in time and many people will go and look for that excitement with another man instead of being comfortable in stable security and working with your partner to keep up with the intimacy.

[Kelly6]

a truth that no one will speak of

[billmunch]

I've been cheated on in every relationship I've ever had and I've never broken up with a girl for cheating. TBH, the first time I was ever cheated on, I was jealous but it also gave me an erection. I was more turned on than jealous.

Personally, I allow leeway in relationships for cheating.

[Anonymous]

Many reasons. Feminism, lack of good male role models in her formative years, Her mom is a bad model of womanhood, the disintegration of the family structure, she's never been held to accountability for anything,

Many, many reasons man. But just keep walking. A garbage man will come pick her up at some point. It's not your concern.

[slatyb]

That's a very good question. It's a form of legal contract. There are advantages and disadvantages to being married, and they should be carefully considered before signing the license.

[Kiss_Me]

I honestly feel that women want masculine men. So many men are effeminate these days, it does not surprise me some many women betray their partners.

[mobiusforniner]

Id say you must surround yourself with poor quality women but then again, im married and have been approached by several married women who wanted to be "friends"

[Cubus]

The same reason so many men are cheating these days. American culture teaches that jumping from flower to flower is what makes you a strong and independent person.

[Nikki1989]

At least one man gets it.

[exitseven]

It is due to social media. People stay in touch with people from the past and one thing leads to another and the next thing you know they are having an affair

[mommymommymommy]

They marry wealthy men, who are usually out on "business trips", she gets horny, and winds up cheating

Notice the trend?

[Billlewis]

Because they have the right to date other guys if they want to.

[desidoll]

Married to the wrong person or just boredom.

[boggboss]

Pretty sure it's people as a whole are cheating more and also getting caught more

[Anonymous]

Probably because, women for the most part learn from their mothers.. What did their mothers do? Cheat, or jumped from man to man like a prostitute. So they learn that it's OK to marry a man, use him up, and be constantly searching for the next cock.

[lorenzomichael]

A woman who cheats all the time its probably because they've been giving the pussy away since they were teenagers. Or her man isn't giving her attention or treating her right.

[Anonymous]

I think k a lot of them have always cheated. They’re just better at hiding it. Men know what women want us to know.

[Nikki1989]

The same reason so many married men cheat, so what is your point?