I'm dating a guy who is a 4 year younger than me and some of my friends think it's strange. It is really strange?

[mojito]

We’ve been dating for about six months, and we have an amazing relationship with a lot in common. I’ve been really happy, but many of my friends have made comments about the age difference, pointing out that I’m older than him. It’s starting to bother me. Do you think the age gap is an issue?

[Finchie40]

Not at all , just ignore your friends , they have no clue what they are talking about , most people in general someway somehow like to try and rub their 2 cents together , but they really don’t know shit , all that matters is your happy in your relationship, the key word Your, not theirs. If your friends’ aren’t happy for you and supportive of your relationship, then honestly they aren’t really your friends , a good friend will be happy for you and happy you met someone that makes you happy , bad friends will not be happy for you period because they are jealous of what you have and what they don’t have , I was married to a girl for 20 years that is 4 years older then me , so age really means shit when you meet someone that treats you amazing and makes you happy. So again ignore your friends’ when they start talking negative about your relationship, if I was you , I would distance myself from those friends and focus on my partner the one that should matter the most to you.

[ohsheeT]

Let me ask you this are you happy are you enjoying yourself are you enjoying him do you smile everyday
If you said yes to all this it's nobody's freaking business but yours forget what other people say forget what other people think it's not their business they're not you they're not with you they're not with him they're not him it doesn't matter what any of us think I say go for it if you are happy go for it because nowadays it's hard to find that happiness

[Amy10223]

If you are 30 and dating a man years younger, that's no one's business but your own. It's ridiculous how sm friends and family will act and judge you for what should not be their concern. When I was about 41, I had a young get boyfriend and my sister would tell her children and I'm sure they made fun (judging from their questions about him). Maybe it's jealousy. Don't pay attention to it, and be happy.

[mojito]

Oh thank you so muchhh

[Amy10223]

You're very welcome, enjoy your younger man without any thoughts about age. :)

[katiesmuff]

Really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks if the two of you are happy with your relationship and having a good time. There is just this influx of the nose disease (Can't Keep Your Nose Out Of Other Peoples Business) going around and it seems to be extremely easy to spread.

[AviatorTom]

Not strange at all, if you two enjoy each other. I was married for 20 years to a woman 4 years younger than me. It was a good marriage, with 3 kids, until an amicable divorce.

[Austicgirlbea]

No, I have been with my partner and best friend for over a year now and he is 4 years younger than me. it can be hard if its a generation thing but you just learn from each other. the age is very close. You both are all that matters. Ignore people who judge

[LuminousMind]

I don’t see an issue with this at all. Whenever I like a guy that is 2 or 3 years younger even in college my friends say it’s not at all weird, and that even four years wouldn’t be weird at all. I’m 24 and in my senior year so this is from my personal experience. My age limit is 21+ 😅

[blueonblack22]

Why are women always more worried about “what other people think”. Especially what “their friends think”.

The guy is 4 years younger. Whoop te do. It’s not a big age gap and he finds you attractive.

As long as you are both happy then who cares. You are both grown consenting adults.

[RavVid]

Somewhat unusual. In a little under 10% of marriages the guy is older by 10+ years. But the woman older by any amount is only 10%.

It is really up to you and nobody else but marriages with age gaps are less stable. Since most married couples dated for a while it seems reasonable to apply married stats to dating.

I wouldn't let people dissuade you.

[DrPepper12]

I question whether some of these people were your friends TBH!! They're judging and preachy about a 4-year difference? That's insane!

Your friends should only have three considerations for your relationships.
Legal?
Safe?
Consensual?
After that it's none of their business and they should be happy for you. I can't stand those people who think that any relationship can't work because of age differences.

[LiamJHayden]

No, but that is a common issue. People who wouldn't bat an eye at a guy who is 30 being with a woman of 26 can lose their minds over a woman of 30 with a guy who's 26. I've been on that end of it more than once. "Robbing the cradle" and other such nonsense.

[Rachey1986]

4 years is nothing when you're both adults. relationships are all about the connection you have with someone not their age! I've had more in common with someone 20+ years older than me than some people my own age.

[Screenwriter]

FOUR YEARS!! they're ridiculous. Ignore them or tell them to mind their own business. Maybe they're jealous. But they're certainly foolish!

Heavens.

[SuckOnThisOpinion]

A 4 year age gap at age 30 is completely irrelevant, your friends are being super weird. Either because they are, or they just want to tease you.

[FunkyMonkee]

I think your friends are strange! What's 4 years? I could SEE them saying that if you were 17 and he was 13! But, you're both adults, now!! Aren't your friends?

[Anonymous]

Depends on your age. 30 and 26 not weird, 20 and 16 a bit weird. 4 years isn’t really that much of a gap, more noticeable when you’re super young but not so much as you get older

[mojito]

He is 26 and I’m 30. We both work in same position that’s why I’m not concerned before the comments. Thanks a lot

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn’t let comments get to you, it is more of a reflection of them and not you. So long as you’re both happy and secure in the relationship that is all that matters. If they’re good friends they’ll stop making them if you ask them to

[4ngelic]

no, 26 & 30 is completely acceptable. honestly if you were a man no one would have said anything. so dont worry about

[Dammittu]

The only think i find strange about it is that you value the opinion of your friends so much that it's making you question their opinions. You're only talking a 4 year difference if you are happy with this man than go with your heart !!!

[PWEAVES]

4 years? No, not at all. A good friend of mine just married a girl 6 years older than him.

[Radiate143]

4 years is a peer. Your friends are probably (secret) haters.

[mojito]

Oh :(

[spartan55]

FOUR YEARS? You need to stop listening to your stupid friends. 26 v 30 is nothing.

[Noodle_fan]

Older women dating younger men are quite common these days , i see many celebrity couples are like that , l

[Iron_Man]

It’s usually the woman that dates older guys so it is a little bit weird I’m not used to seeing that

[Anonymous]

Age gap is less of an issue than life stage. Given that you're 30, my guess is you'd like to get married and maybe start having kids soon. Is that where your man is too?

[Nonamez]

Nothing is strange if two of you happy , others need to mind them own business

[TWO_EYES_119]

As long as you are above legal age and you are happy with each other it shouldn't matter what others think.

[noohair]

Four years is nothing and it becomes less as you both age. 50/46 is nothing. Good Luck and don't listen to your so called friends.

[Stu234432]

I think if you're happy go for it. I don't have too much a problem with age gap as long as it's legal and consensual.

[Slim57]

Usually girls date older and guys date younger but there's nothing wrong with the opposite, your friends need to chill. Don't let them break up a good thing just because of a guy younger than you

[Wise4myage]

It’s not strange at all. So don’t listen to your friends.

[Staximus]

4 years is not even a big deal unless you're still a teenager, which you're not

[SlightlyMental]

My wife is ten years older than me, in fact all of my women except one have been older.

[In_Trance]

Why would your friends think it's strange if you're dating someone who you're happy with?

[BLP11520]

No I think you are fine. You like each other what business is it of theirs?

[Adana01]

If you know the agreement, I don't think it's a problem about everything...

[BCA6010]

Let them whine. If it works, it works.

[boggboss]

I see no issue with the situation

[Avicenna]

It’s no problem

[Valentina_]

Noo 4yrs is not a big deal✨

[zombiewoof]

Would you date a guy 4 years younger

[beefcakebradybatson]

No, LOTS of ladies date younger lads.

[zombiewoof]

No ones business but yours

[Anonymous]

How dare you!🙃😆

[MasterKS]

now your friends needs to grow up! LOL!

[Garud]

It is normal.

[slatyb]

Not at 30.

[bowenw]

Not strange.

[Pterodon]

Not at all