Other women want my boyfriend, how can I quit being so jealous?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is a DJ in LA and lately he has been getting a lot of high profile clientele. I am supportive and am proud of him for all of his hard work; but I can’t help but feel jealous when some of these high profile women flock to him and overtly flirt in front of my face. Though I trust him explicitly and I know that he is faithful, I still feel jealous. I am more of a quiet and shy kind of woman and I feel out of place when invited to these events. They allow him to bring a guest, so he always invites me to go and I go because I love him. This one woman in particular has hired him for three events in a row and she is always trying to be handsy with him when he is working. He puts a stop to it, but it still upsets me. She is his highest paying client and has a lot of connections, so I understand why he does her events, but I just feel bad when he does. Is there some way I could feel less jealous or perhaps come out of my shell enough to make it a point to show this woman that he is mine? If so, what should I do or say? Or should I not do or say anything that way I don’t ruin his opportunity of getting more connections and popularity? Doing anything to jeopardize his happiness would be the last thing I would want. I don’t know what to do or if I’m overreacting about this whole situation. All I know is that I need some advice and help.

[HollyK21]

You really need to work on thickening your skin if you’re gonna date someone with that sort of career, and not feeling so insecure.


Trust me I get where you’re coming from, my fiancé is a 6’6 basketball player, very handsome and established in his career, women have been disregarding me and throwing themselves at him since we first got started. But I was secure in myself, my looks, and who he was as a man and partner. He just isn’t the type of guy I have to worry about simply because he is always mindful and respectful of me. He doesn’t engage with other women or give them the time of day, and that has to be what matters most in order to be with a man like that. You can’t worry about other women because they aren’t worried about you, and as he advances in his career they will be more and more prevalent.


I think there’s also an underlying fear of losing him, despite there being no indication of that ever happening you still worry that a beautiful or high profile woman will grab his attention. In which case you have to remember, if that happens then he just wasn't the man for you, and what’s meant for you can’t be stolen or lost.

[jennifer_bloom]

You expect us to believe a very rich and well connected woman hired a DJ three times because she wants to date him when she could have exchanged numbers with him without hiring him at all? Why did she not use her resources to date a banker or brain surgeon? It’s obvious to me you have a brain injury and nobody believes your lies about me.

[9in_Serpent]

Jealousy destroys all relationships. The best thing to do is to unlearn this propaganda and learn not to be jealous of anyone and just focus on your own independence and happiness just like everyone else is doing!

[Avicenna]

If you trust him, let him handle this

[In_Trance]

Stop with this nonsense

[Anonymous]

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