How can I stop being so jealous in my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’m 23 my boyfriend 27. He’s not perfect a lot has happened in our relationship but I’m the one who chose to forgave him and take him back so I guess I have to forget it or leave.

me snd my boyfriend have been recently going to the same pub with our friends as it’s the football in England. The pub we go to is very popular and a lot of females say hi to my boyfriend and his friends, they went to his high school years ago and know his family. I got really jealous the other day? I didn’t react but my boyfriend said everyone could tell I looked mad because a female went up to him and hugged him. She didn’t introduce herself but I can’t really blame her as she does not even know me and I was on the other side next to my friend. It’s his family friends pub so he knows a lot of people.

recently I’ve been getting really really jealous and insecure , in fact this pub is basically causing drama because I got a big annoted that girls have been coming up to him, I’ve been so insecure recently asking about his e’xs, comparing myself to the females he has spoken to at the pub. And I really don’t know how to stop it. I do love myself but maybe not enough. How do I stop being so jealous I can’t help it when I have an emotion I always show it but I feel like this insecurity is ruining things.

Updates

+1 y

Usually he givee me so much reassurance but recently I can tell he’s getting a bit drained of me constantly asking for it

[AI Opinion]

Jealousy, the green-eyed monster, isn't easy to handle, but you can tame it! You're choosing love over grudges, which is brave and fabulous, darling! Start building trust by focusing on the present and not the past. Open up to your boyfriend, express your feelings without blaming him, sprinkle that conversation with vulnerability and humor! Remind yourself about those self-love rituals, lovebug! You're fabulous and enough - own it. Confidence works wonders; it’s your secret weapon against jealousy. Trust the love, enjoy those cozy pub nights, and keep that head high! 😊💪

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I totally get feeling insecure - it's so normal in relationships. But letting jealousy take over will only drive you crazy and push him away. Here's what helps me when those feelings creep up:

- Remind yourself that HE chose YOU. After everything, he's still by your side. That says it all.

- Trust that he cares about your feelings and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. Snooping will only damage that trust.

- When you start comparing yourself to others, stop and list all the things you love about yourself instead. Boost your own confidence!

- Do things to take your mind off it, like hanging with your girls or picking up a hobby you find relaxing.

- Be honest but don't interrogate him. Say something like "I'm feeling a little insecure - can we hang out alone tonight?"

- Don't forget how far you've both come. Every relationship has challenges; fighting jealousy as a team makes your bond stronger.

You've got this sis! Believe in you, believe in him, and believe in your relationship. With time and patience the jealousy will fade - just don't let it rule you. Stay cool and keep communicating openly with him ❤️

[Anonymous]

Just focus on the good in the relationship and don't pay attention to the rest.