For anyone who’s celibate here , are you okay with the idea of never being accepted for your choices?

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I am waiting for marriage, it’s not quite a religious reason but it’s something I feel strongly about for personal reasons. I’m at the point right now where I’ve spoken to many guys and almost all of them aren’t okay with waiting till marriage, and I really do understand their povs. That being said, I asked myself what’s the worst that can happen? And I realised that the “worst” is that no one will accept my choices and I’ll be single forever. And I’m actually okay with that. I probably might not be celibate when I’m in my 40s and 50s lol, but for now I actually feel a sense of comfort when I imagine myself not in a relationship. Is that weird? Ps: I’ve also never been in a relationship before, never kissed a guy , never been on a date. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything either. Is anyone else like this?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Yeah in one way it's very weird and then another way it's not

It's not because there's a lot of people like that but there answers are there reasonings behind it are a little bit different than yours some are a little bit more honest I don't know if you're being honest or not I'm sure it is to a point but

But it is your choice that's all that matters as long as you are being I mean 100% honest with yourself because I honestly don't know anybody in this world that wants to feel what it feels like to be with somebody whether it's making love or just holding hands I'm just good communication so that's the part that.. I hope you understand and don't settle because of some other reason and this is the reason why you're doing it because if that's the case you need to be honest with yourself and believe me it will work out you want something it will work out because you will project that from your body heart soul mind spirit and the true you the real you your energy sometimes it just takes time everything has to light up just right and if that's what you want it will

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm not a virgin, but I also don't seek out sex. I only sleep with someone if I'm very close to them. Marriage isn't important to me at all. But that connection and trust is extremely important to me.

We differ in those ways, but like you, I'm indifferent to ever having sex again. I haven't had sex in 12 years and I'd be ok if I never did again. Not that I don't enjoy it, it's just not that important. I also don't care too much if I'm never in a relationship again. Just like with sex, I enjoy it when it happens, but it's not something I feel I need to have.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I am single and celibate by choice and honestly I don't care what others say or think about me and my choice. I plan to remain celibate my entire life and I have no problem with it simply because fornicating is not an activity that interests me.

I personally find it pathetic that people are being judged on whether they copulate or not and if this is your choice not to fornicate until much later in life, you have my support and my esteem.

Being single forever has its positive points and honestly that is also my intention. I don't have to report to anyone about my lifestyle and decisions. They concern only me.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

I'm not celibate, but I'm abstinent. I've practiced it since I was a teenager. I only want to have sex with my future romantic partner (s), everybody else doesn't get sex from me. For me, sex is just like giving my love & affection to someone, it's very special. I can't & never will just give it to someone. If I do, then RIP my emotional being. I do want to try other sexual activities though, just keep the sex out of it and I'll be fine. And as long as the partner I'm with understands and respects that. That might not happen though, so I'll just have to find a good romantic partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Generally speaking, if you want to wait until marriage to have sex, it's a good idea to get married early. There are a LOT of single people who have never had sex if you're in college. But as you get into your mid-20s, all the people who wanted to wait to get married have gotten married. Then all that's left are single people who are fine dating and having sex.

The problem isn't the choice to wait until marriage. The problem is not understanding the implications of that choice and making the right subsequent choices.

JimmyBgoode12 · Answer

Yes I waiting for the right person. I have had a few flings with girls, like getting a blowjob etc but never intercourse. Never again will I sleep with a girl I don't really know, i just didn't enjoy the experience.

To have good sex, you need that emotional connection.

strateguy632 · Answer

Don't think about other people judging you. just don't think about it.

Billlewis · Answer

For me, it's more an unavoidable reality than a choice, but amazingly, I'm honestly happier than I've ever been, although it's very frustrating.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

How can you possibly make an informed decision without knowing what you are deciding?

Sex is like a roller coaster ride. Nobody can relate the experience to you in any way that would do the experience any justice. You are only robbing yourself of a shared life experience.

It's your life, and you are free to live it however you want, but the only person you are denying is yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m being celibate for different reasons. I am a recovering sex addict and I gave up porn and other sexual promiscuities because I know it’s slowly but surely deteriorating my quality of life (also extremely risky).

I don’t know if I will ever find a viable woman or not who will accept me by my age. But instead of acting out sexuality (because honestly I am depressed) and I am trying to improve myself.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I’m celibate. Everyone considers me an incel when I tell them I’m celibate by choice 🤷🏻‍♂️I guess as a man you can’t be celibate without also hating women. Which is why I believe women gain control over men through sex. They want sex so badly they criticize men who don’t want it

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend was 32 when I began going out with her, she had been in a LDR for 15 years and she and him had decided to wait for marriage except he died in a motorcycle accident 3 weeks before their wedding.

She said she was waiting for marriage, I told her we probably can be together as I had no intention of marrying again, I told her we could hang out and date but I’d be sexual with others as I didn’t want to abstain.

3 months later she changed her mind.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’m ok with it not being accepted as long as I’m good with that decision. The reality is that it can change at anytime I’d want it to. My biggest issue about celibacy is what if the next time is a bad experience and it wasn’t worth it or what if it’s a good one and I get attached.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

there is no obligation to tell other people about your personal choices...

Ladsin2 · Answer

Lots of guys wait on women. I wouldn't mind waiting only if I believe she's actually celibate. I'll be damned if a woman wants to make me wait when she put out for some dude on spring break in the portapotty. If she actually respects herself and believes in that I think I could be fine with ol Andy for another year.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I learned that when you stop taking life too seriously you live happier and more fulfilled  As the old saying goes “Enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think”

Garud · Answer

29, never slept with a woman, not that bothering me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Wait, why the f would you turn into a ho after you turn 40? That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.

See, this is why guys like me don't even want to date virgins anymore. Because y'all aren't even serious. You're clowns.

Shamalien · Answer

I’ve been celibate for almost a year now because after my last relationship, I don’t want to have sex with someone who I’m not going to spend the rest of my life with.

I would wait till marriage for a virgin.

noohair · Answer

This reminds me of an old joke. How many New Yorkers does it take to screw in a light bulb? None of your Fu@king business. Well when it comes to personal choices that do not hurt others, none of your business. If you can’t handle that, fu@k off.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yea believe it or not, they exist, I just don't know how common it is but keep looking, you'll find someone.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m not celibate, but props to you for doing what you believe in

Anonymous · Answer

I've been OK with it for almost 50 years. The world is far too oversexed. I do question at times whether I've made the right choice i'll admit though. I wouldn't say for me it's not entirely for religious reasons though.

elaphe · Answer

You should never feel pressured into sex. The right man will understand and respect your decision to wait until marriage to perform sexual intercourse.

slatyb · Answer

It's your life. No one else gets a vote.

kaucky1 · Answer

No strings attached more funner

Gerard567890 · Answer

I just masturbate

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