Women, do you think it's acceptable to have standards for the opposite sex that you cannot meet.. Men same question, do you feel like it's acceptable to have standards for the opposite sex that you cannot meet?
For example, if you're requirement is that he be good looking, physically fit, make 6 figures, be well endowed, go to the gym.. But you your self are very over weight, never sees the inside of a gym, can't cook, makes 60k annually so on and so forth, don't you see that as hypocritical?
There is this lady I work with and I'm sick of hearing her complain. She has standards that she never tells men. He has to pay on the first date, but she won’t tell him that. In fact she’ll offer to split the bill but if he doesn’t insist on paying there won’t be a second date. He has to make six figures. (Marie does not make more than $60k a year.) He has to be above 6ft (Marie is 5’2.) He can’t be bald/balding. He has to be fit and dedicated in the gym (Marie is overweight and never works out). He has to own a home and a car. He has to pay for everything and do all the cooking and split other chores evenly. The list goes on but you get the idea.
I told her to either lower her standards or stop bitching.
For example, if you're requirement is that he be good looking, physically fit, make 6 figures, be well endowed, go to the gym.. But you your self are very over weight, never sees the inside of a gym, can't cook, makes 60k annually so on and so forth, don't you see that as hypocritical?
There is this lady I work with and I'm sick of hearing her complain. She has standards that she never tells men. He has to pay on the first date, but she won’t tell him that. In fact she’ll offer to split the bill but if he doesn’t insist on paying there won’t be a second date. He has to make six figures. (Marie does not make more than $60k a year.) He has to be above 6ft (Marie is 5’2.) He can’t be bald/balding. He has to be fit and dedicated in the gym (Marie is overweight and never works out). He has to own a home and a car. He has to pay for everything and do all the cooking and split other chores evenly. The list goes on but you get the idea.
I told her to either lower her standards or stop bitching.
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I think it's acceptable to have for certain things a gender adjusted equivalent standard. What I mean by that, is it acceptable for me to have standards for a man of a certain body shape, and it's acceptable for my husband to have standards for women with a certain body shape. Obviously I would not want a curvy husband, just like he would not want a broad shouldered wife, but we both want the gender reversed equivalent of ourselves.
Also you have to take into account if the person is wanting a more progressive lifestyle or a more traditional one. Progressive people are going to have more of the same standards regardless of gender, while traditional people are going to have more of a gender role equivalent type thing.
So while I think some things are okay, for specific reasons, I don't think it's acceptable for a fatty to want a fit person, nor a lazy person to want a hard worker.
I think it's alright to have standards, but it's wrong I'd she is fat, which in my example she is, she weighs more than me, and I weigh 220 pounds.. To expect the person she is with to be physically fit and a gym buff. It's when the standards are a double standard. She meets none of the expectations she requires. It's wrong. I know I'd never touch her, I'm married lol, but if I weren't, id never go near her.. Most men my age and in my tax bracket would find her repugnant at best. Yet she expects a prince.
I definitely agree that that's laughable. I think a lot of people these days are not aware that everybody has to prove their worth if they want a good spouse.
Agreed.
Sure, as it depends on what you want out of a relationship and what you are fine with when it comes to waiting for that person you want.
However, if someone is struggling to find someone, then they need to look objectively at what they bring to the table. They can start deciding what standards they should have for the relationship and what superficial ones you are fine with not keeping. I think most people do this instictively anyway for the most part, but there are a lot of people who do not.
This woman you mentioned I completely agree about. She can keep those standards, but she can't complain if she does, as it's her choice.