Girls, Do you like dominance in a guy?

[Anonymous]

The guy I'm dating right now is tall, muscular, confident and dominant. He has a short haircut with a skin fade and a beard and that adds to his dominance. I feel small and submissive in front of him. We've been on about three dates, and the last one he really took charge and made sure things went right for us. He defended his territory when the waiter tried to flirt with me and asked if I was okay and that made me feel desired and I couldn't stop smiling. He got a mischievous look on his face and then tickled my neck and the sides of my waist. We ended up hanging out at his place for a bit after. We watched a show and I thought about how safe and protected I felt when I was with him. He put his arm around my shoulder and I smiled. I tied my shirt to give him a view of my belly, and he seemed to appreciate it. He told me it looked great and I was reassured. He helped my to fix my shirt before he dropped me home. How is this going so far?

[SueShe]

Protectiveness is good, dominance not at all, at least not in my eyes.

There is one topic you mentioned that triggered an immediate red flag with me and that is when you state that "... he defended his territory when the waiter tried to flirt...".

To me, that signifies that he sees you as an object that needs to be defended. Since when is a human a "territory". That is an absolute no go in my opinion.

Also, being dominant means that he will not tolerate anyone talking back to him and that his mind is the one that counts and that there is no arguing about it.

This is not the kind of person I personally would want to be in a relationship with. But you are the one that wants it. Just be careful with dominant people. You will soon learn that there are more downsides to that type of character than positive ones. Good luck.