Is this a total lack of consideration?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend owns a crazy business and he always changes times, dates, plans with me.

This AM we got in a little fight due to this.

So Tonight he texts me at 630 pm to meet him at 8. I respond I'll meet him 830 I'm cooking. I get in my car 745 I get a text make it 10pm I'm in spring valley. Like WTF

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I told him yes 10pm and im not going to be there lol

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang girl, that sounds like a real pain in the butt dealing with your boyfriend's constant schedule changes and lack of consideration. I get that he's got a crazy busy business, but that's no excuse for him to just keep moving plans around on you like that.

The whole "text at 6:30 to meet at 8, then change it to 10pm" thing is such a bummer. I know you were trying to be accommodating by saying you'd meet him at 10, but you shouldn't have to keep rearranging your whole evening just because he can't stick to a plan.

It's totally understandable that you told him you weren't going to make it at 10pm. That's a real lack of respect on his part, expecting you to just drop everything to fit his last-minute changes. You deserve better than that, girl.

I get that his business is a priority, but he's gotta learn to balance that with making time for you too. Constantly moving dates and plans around is just inconsiderate and frustrating. You're right to call him out on that - he needs to start being more mindful and respectful of your time.

Hang in there, girl. Don't let him walk all over you or make you feel like an afterthought. You've gotta put your foot down and let him know this behavior is unacceptable. Hopefully he'll get the message and start making more of an effort. But if not, you might have to re-evaluate things. You deserve someone who appreciates you.

[Anonymous]

If it were only this one time I’d say to let it go because you also needed to move the time back in this case. However since this is a reoccurring thing then yeah I’d say that’s inconsiderate to be cancelling or adjusting solid plans left and right. It’s not very mindful of your schedule or of your time. The thing about it though is you always accommodate these things and that’s what he’s used to.

[Opinion Owner]

To not go is a bit childish and avoidant of the real issue don’t you think?

[Asker]

Things is im sitting in my car 745 ready to go thats when I get the message no make it 10pm. Like why did u text me at 630 asking to meet at 8.
He says he's in spring valley ok but why did u go to soring called after telling me to meet you 830?
I guarantee he's with some buddies drinking.

[Opinion Owner]

No like I totally get where you’re coming from, but the thing is when you go down the path of trying to match petty with petty, nothing gets fixed. Like you’re not going to be sitting at home chill as a cucumber you’ll be pissed still with how he moved the plans to go drink with his friends. It won’t even warrant any change because this is just who he is when it comes to juggling work and his personal life, he just isn’t good at it. My advice would be to talk to him about all this and see if there’s a way to compromise. But if you feel like that talk wouldn’t make difference then at this point you’d be staying with him out of love and not logic.