What qualities make a man truly attractive for a long-term relationship?

[Janbrown]

When you consider starting a long-term relationship with a man, what qualities attract you the most? Is it physical attraction, his character, or his future plans? Which qualities make a man stand out as a more appealing partner for a serious relationship?

[Darwin_n_chill]

Various things that ultimately add up to one thing: resource potential. The things that make men attracted to women, and women attracted to men, are all adaptations because they solved challenges from an evolutionary perspective faced by our ancestors. In the case of women, the challenge was to find a man who would be able to protect and provide for her, and also would stick around and be kind to her and her children. This is because of the reproductive burden faced by women, with pregnancy, child rearing, especially with small children, she couldn't really do much else, so it was a necessity to have a male that would stick by her, protect her, and provide her and the children with what they need in order to survive and thrive. So, just as men place a high priority on physical appearance because of the health and fertility that they're looking for, women are very attracted to a slew of characteristics that signify that the man can probably get resources. These include things like, probably the most important one, status: so, that means basically being important in some group like a high ranking individual of some kind or another. Also, things like intelligence, industriousness, and of course good old-fashioned income. Another thing is that they are hypergamous, in other words they always want the man they're going to mate with to be above them in status, income, pretty much as many things as possible really. Now not everybody is ruled equally by their instincts, some women, just like some men, will care more about things that are not based on instinct; however, instincts are important to most people, and these are the things that women are instinctually programmed, so to speak, to be attracted to.

[In_Trance]

I'm sure you can come up with this answer on your own. What do you look for in a guy?

[Nikki1989]

For the fifth time this morning.

Kindness and compassion
Respect
Confidence
Intelligence
Sense of humor
Honesty and integrity
Good communication skills
Shared interests and values

[Toifiebe]

Stable income hardworking

[Anonymous]

Lots of money