Couples beating on each other. Is it always more the man's fault?

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Men can probably tke punches better and are most likely to be violent (DOJ)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some statistics suggest that domestic violence is highest amongst lesbian couples. Why is it because both being women they are more violent or more likely to claim abuse? My ex girlfriend and I used to argue like cats and dogs, I used to instigate arguments all the time with her, she would lash out and I would strike back. The relationship was toxic buy we got off on the drama. She is still the same, her last girlfriend took out a restraining order.

I'm engaged to a guy. I found that a lot of the time I've tried to instigate arguments and have lashed out at him, he never lifts a finger to me. On one occasion the cops were called and he got taken away and spent 2 days in a cell, there was a temporary 2 week restraining order despite my explaining what happened and he confirming it. They just assumed I was the victim. I've gotten control of myself and I treat him much better.

I think men and women can be equally abusive to each other. Women like myself can twist and be abusive verbally and emotionally hurting the guy until he mentally snaps and lashes out. Men like anyone can only take so much. Some studies suggest that 40-50% of domestic abuse incidents are instigated by the woman deliberately. Also some women love drama, danger, excitement and of course the attention they cab get from victimhood.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

No. Domestic violence can occur in any relationship, regardless of gender. Both men and women can be perpetrators or victims of abuse.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

It is not more often the man's fault. Many women precipitate their own abuse by screaming, name-calling, property destruction, and making the initial assault.

Do you seriously think that a man who is being physically assaulted or whose property is being destroyed is just going to sit there and do nothing?

Yet - when he tries to stop her, she calls the cops, and when they arrive tells them that HE abused her, at which point the man is arrested, goes to jail, is charged, and 99 times out of 100 is convicted of domestic violence.

NOTHING happens to the woman except she now has victim status, lots of support, may get extra money and definitely gets lots of sympathy, and moves on to the next man who is her next victim.

NYCQuestions1976 · Accepted Answer

It's difficult to say for certain, since so many domestic violence incidents go unreported. My best educated guess is the following: Men are more likely to be the physical aggressors, and women are more likely to be the manipulators. Mental, emotional, and psychological abuse in domestic situations is just as bad as physical and sexual abuse. Overall, men are more likely to be abusive than women, but the women who are abusive are more likely to get away with abuse.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I see no valid reason to justify beating. If the craziness gets to the point of getting physical, immobilization will suffice. It's 2024, not 1974.

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Always? Obviously no.

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