Why is it harder to find a decent guy if I'm a single mom of 1?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Three primary reasons. First, fathers have fewer parental rights than mothers. For men, being a parent is about responsibilities without rights. Like most men, if I'm going to choose to take on the risks and responsibilities of being a dad, it's going to be MY children, not another man's.

Second, mothers will always prioritize their children over their partners, and children require a lot of a mother's time and attention, leaving a lot less for their partners.

And finally, many (not all) women who are single mothers find themselves in that situation due to poor life choices, which is a poor reflection on them as women and can be viewed as a red flag.

[Asker]

Most guys will not date a single mom?

[Opinion Owner]

There are some guys who do.

[Anonymous]

Because you're a single mom of 1. duh! You not a first choice now if you were a first choice before. No self respecting guy is going to CHOOSE a single mom. They might relegate themselves to one, but not choose her.

[Asker]

Why is no self respecting guy going to choose a single mom?

[Nikki1989]

It is really challenging to find a decent guy regardless of those circumstances, but most men these days are too weak and dysfunctional to handle a mother and child.

[Adel50]

You think it's because men are too weak and dysfunctional to handle a mother and child?

[Anonymous]

You only need one man. It's not harder it thins out the jerks.

[Anonymous]

Because no man wants to take care of another man's kids. And you ruin the baby daddy's life, so what do you think he thinks you will do to him?

[Asker]

Not kids just 1 kid. Also I didn't ruin the baby daddy's life he abandoned his responsibility so he did it to himself

[BarryLiverstone]

Many guys prefer to date someone who doesn’t have kids

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s a decent guy?

[Asker]

Someone who is kind, good looking, responsible, loyal and ready to be in a serious relationship

[BarryLiverstone]

I’d say many of those guys you have described already have gfs or are in serious relationships

[BarryLiverstone]

Most people have the ability to be kind. They just may need to mature to choose that action.

Good looking guys often get lots of female attention and will be pursued.

Loyalty is a more rare trait as it’s often hard to test for that early on. That’s more a factor of how they were raised

Responsibility goes both ways

[Asker]

But there has to be more guys out there correct? I know this guy but I'm not attracted to him. He really likes me but I don't know if I should give him a shot

[BarryLiverstone]

Million guys or more, are single. If you are not into that guy, best not to waste his time. You can be his friend and help match him with someone else tho

[BarryLiverstone]

Are you better looking than he is?

[Asker]

I think I'm better looking than him but I'm also taller than him

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s more rare. You would rather date a taller guy? I would guess if you look better that other guys are interested in you, why do you want this guy?

[Asker]

I'm 6'0 tall. It seems a lot of guys aren't interested in a girl that tall

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s as tall as an ex of mine and she would tell me the same growing up. Said she was the tallest as a teenager. I’m 6’6 so think she liked feeling shorter than me

[Asker]

Most guys aren't your height. It's rare to find someone your height that wants to date tall women.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ha ha tell me about it. The amount of times I’m asked if a play basketball..

[BarryLiverstone]

I don’t think they wanna be as tall as I ended up.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’d say if you want a good looking guy you would try to find someone that’s over 5’8

[LazerBean]

Have you tried dating single dads?

[jahaims]

Leftsover< fresh

[Asker]

Why do you view a human as leftovers?

[jahaims]

Analogy - a comparison between two things, typically for the purpose of explanation or clarification.

It went over your head unsurprisingly.

[Asker]

I understand what an analogy is but no single mom is "leftovers" compared to a childless woman. I'm curious to know why you think a single mom is "leftovers"?