Which is worse: getting rejected for your looks or your personality?

[Chthou95]

Rejected because of looks

Rejected because of personality

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I do think it's interesting how women say personality and men say looks

[genericname85]

looks. cause i can't change my looks. unless it's about being too slim or fat or unfit/fit

[art84]

Looks cause you can't control what you look like.

[paledreams]

Plastic surgeons would beg to differ even after car crashes lol

[ohsheeT]

I've been rejected a couple times but I never asked them why I was rejected

I mean it really doesn't matter to me anyway because I like myself I think I'm good looking and I know I have a great personality

But as I walked away with a red face cussing at myself wondering who was watching me get rejected I realized in that moment that it was all okay because you can't make somebody like you

And it really doesn't matter what they think in that moment because they don't really know you or they do know you and they have a boyfriend already

So whatever the reason was I was over it within a half an hour to an hour

And it didn't really even matter why they rejected me I just accepted it and knowledged it and moved on

[HawkPerception]

For me it's looks. I know my personality is decent, but if someone finds me ugly, it hurts the ego more for sure.

[abbyjgriffin98]

Personally, I would feel worse if it was for my personality. Looks fade. Soon, all we'll have is personality. So whenever I sense guys only like me because of my looks, I get a bad taste in my mouth. But to be disliked because of something that isn't just superficial would really hurt.

[foxsquirrell]

I can't believe the detailed poll results! Women by far are more concerned about being rejected for their personality rather than their looks!!! I would have thought that they would be more concerned about being rejected for their looks! Unless they can't face the truth and are not voting honestly!

[Gold618]

Personality. Looks can be compensated for, but if you have a rotten personality it won't matter how physically attractive you are, because you'll still turn people off.

[Chthou95]

Richard Ramirez had women sending love letters and even got married despite being a serial killer

[Gold618]

Yes, and those women clearly had something wrong with them. I don't think they were all there mentally. Normal people do not do things like that.

[Chthou95]

Them doing that doesn't mean they aren't normal. Just retarded

[Radiate143]

I would say personality. How I look is a minimal part of who I am. Everyone has their preferences. I think plenty of people don't look good. So what if people find my looks unappealing.

[Chthou95]

There's typically a general look everyone goes for though

[Radiate143]

No there isn't. Who is everyone and what is the general look. That is so inaccurate

[Chthou95]

Ugh being in shape (lean) is universally what women prefer. It's evolutionary

[Radiate143]

You're profile is private so I don't where you are but it may surprise you that the euro centric beauty ideals don't dominate everywhere. Big women are doing just fine

[Chthou95]

Did i say they weren't? I just said that generally speaking there's a type that most people prefer

[Radiate143]

And again this is simply not true.

[Chthou95]

Let's agree to disagree

[brichardson1080]

Then why did you girls reject me all the time in school for being too short, when i can make you laugh all the time? For men, looks matter over personality for this exact reason.

[Radiate143]

@brichardson1080 what does your HS experience have to do with me/all other women in the planet. It was probably your crappy attitude bud. I dated short guys in Hs

[PeachyPie93]

Looks is a worse blow.. but me it is usually my personality that turns people off, from the guys I talked to lol. I am too depressive.. is what most say or dismissive 🤷‍♀️

[MemeSupreme]

not really sure like it depends what they say specifically

bc i already got an idea what they'd reject me for or would wanna stop dating bc of lol

[chilldude33]

Looks because you can easily learn to act differently. Also it's easy to stand up for your personality and explain your pov. You can't really stand up for your looks because the critique will be more factual, while personality is more abstract.

[chilldude33]

W polarizing question. It basically shows that women don't want to be invalidated and men don't want to be disrespected.

[Apple1996]

Both would hurt. I guess maybe getting rejected for looks hurts a bit more

[Apple1996]

Also on the gender difference for poll results. Ima take a huge guess at this and say it's because women can easily fake their looks with makeup and plastic surgery and men can easily fake their personalities.. both genders are use to doing those things.
I might be the rare woman out on that because I don't wear makeup or fake my looks in anyway

[lin123_]

definitely looks, because they don't even know my personality

[paledreams]

Rejected for looks however personality sounds equally cruel 😭

[paledreams]

"but I'm Friendly' says every one ever

[LiamJHayden]

Personality. Beauty eventually fades, but if one has a sucky personality he or she will be in trouble.

[brichardson1080]

It's looks for me, 100%. I was rejected all the time in school for either being too short or looking too young, even when I made everyone laugh.

[Logan2000]

looks cause u can improve ur personality tbh

[Emmytexrex]

Lol looks that one is going to make you feel like what

[Kingofkings1992]

Rejection is rejection. It never feels good regardless of the cause

[Anonymous]

Being rejected for your looks is basically the other person saying "you shouldn't be in the next generation of humanity."

[Yannae]

Looks since that can not be changed

[Iron_Man]

The Looks would be the heavy blow

[Pupweb]

Personality