Why does my mom say that I should stay single all my life?

[Melissacermeno21]

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my mom says that i should be single all my life because my dad cheated on her and she thinks that all men only say beautiful words and cheat after all

i want to find someone to give me real love but i know my mom would not approve

[Zack-Bann]

The question is why are you taking dating advice from your mom?


I love both my parents but their input on dating adds nothing to me


your mom is answering from her own perspective.
She was hurt. And she’s projecting on you thinking she’s protecting you from that pain but really she’s sheltering you for selfish reasons


So hug her and tell her you love her but don’t shy away from dating on your own time


She will accept it once it’s no longer a hypothetical but instead she’s meeting a decent person you’re dating

[scott04sa22]

Your mom probably had bad previous relationships experiences and hasn't find her right person. There is still good men out there but not a lot, it's very very hard to find the right person in this day and age.

[Apple1996]

Being single is less stressful but sometimes love is worth the stress. Just depends on what you want out of life

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Because men suck and she wants to save you the headache

[ohsheeT]

She has other plans for you she wants you to stay there with her and be her caretaker or her persons that will do things for her

[David5668]

She may’ve had an unhappy relationship experience and is looking to protect you. Whilst I understand her sentiment in protecting her children, I’d say not the right way to go about it. We have ti let life’s experiences burn our fingers, and learn from those experiences. Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt. Talk with her if you need to-it might help understand her perspective. I wish you well.

[Lliam]

Your mom is damaged. She can't imagine finding a good man and being happy.
In this case, she is giving you bad advice.

My wife and I have been married now for over 28 years and couldn't be happier. We are loyal to each other through thick and thin for life.

[Nikki1989]

Perhaps she had a difficult or traumatic experience in her relationships, leading her to believe that marriage or long-term relationships are not worth the trouble. You should stay clear of negative influences, they are like cancer.

[Bricealan]

She's looking out for you, hoping you will avoid the hurt that many times comes to those of us who try and fail at marriage... me being one of them

[slatyb]

Who knows? Who cares? Probably she's insecure and jealous, or just bitter. Ignore her and suit yourself.

[Fireguy17]

There is a lot less drama, and her marriage may not have been good and she didn't want you to go through the same thing?
Or just ask her.

[ProbablyClueless]

She needs time to heal, for now. She'll likely change her tune some day in the future.

[Jmmmfi4]

WELL I THINK YOU ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION

[Jj1994]

Because you’ll probably be happier in the long run

[Anonymous]

It is a lot less hassle. But only YOU can decide if that's right for you.

[jahaims]

You answered your own question

[In_Trance]

You answered your own question with the update