Should you date someone whose long-term goals conflict with your own?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[ohsheeT]

When you're in love and you want to take 16 you have to be on the same page with each other and each other's needs

[tzdc21]

Absolutely not. There's no point in doing that if you know the end goals are different

[BullShark]

Unless you plan on keeping it exclusively casual, they feel the same way, and you don't plan on catching serious feelings for them, stay away from them. Isn't it obvious?

Like for example, you're out here, a guy in his 20s, looking for a nice girl around your age whom you connect on with a deeper level and eventually plan to wife up and settle down with in a couple years. And the girl you end up catching feelings for (and they feel the same for you too) is simply "looking around the dating pool" and isn't really interested in a long term relationship, yet. Or vice versa.

Knowing all these things how they react all dismissive to any questions when asked what their future plans are regarding their relationships, if you still choose to date them, then you're practically signing yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak. This isn't a rom-com where the female/male lead ends up magically falling hard in love for their partner who they never had any serious feelings for before.

If someone does feel that way for you, they always make it clear they want you and only you, because they too are worried about losing you forever to someone else.

[Summeroflove]

Depends on the situation every person and every relationship is different. But people do need to know when something isn’t meant to be if people love one another enough to make major sacrifices for one another that can be both a beautiful and potentially devastating thing depending on if it lasts or not.

For some things such as where you’re wanting to live. If one person is wanting to move far away while the other person wants to stay around where they are that can cause major conflicts of interest. If people are wanting different career choices can be a challenge but more manageable depending

I would say take things slow and don’t get too deep involved if you don’t feel like it’s meant to be.

[PeachyPie93]

No probably not.. but sometimes you can't help who you love lol

[Dongie]

That's a tough one. I think I'd have to see if she could out important everything else.

[hahahmm]

Nope. Assuming you can identify when they're the type of person who is serious or when they are just the type who talks a lot.

[molonski2]

Can say from experience , it simply does not work and that mismatch will show its head later.

[Luopio27]

Give it time to work it out snd if it doesn't, decide for yourself if its worth to continue and sacrifice your dreams for the sake of the relationship!

[butterly248]

I had this convo with my boyfriend the other day. He doesn't see the point of getting married but will do it anyways. Where I want to get married

[exitseven]

you can date them but think twice before marrying thrm.

[michalpl00]

Yes, if both sides love each other you can make it work. If there is a will there is a way. No will no way

[KrakenAttackin]

I guess it depends on how significant the conflict is.

[Crazzyyworld]

no, if you feel like she has no goal then dump her

[LiaRaven]

I wouldn't, I'll be wasting my time and their time

[SolitarySolace]

Why date anyone at all?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Nopen

[notCryHONEY]

if you're not in love, no