How do you make a man feel valued?

[SmileyLady]

[blueonblack22]

Very good question.

So what men crave the most from women is respect. They crave it even more than sex.

But what is respect? Respect is putting in the mental effort to try to understand and of course respect what the man has to go through in life to be valueable to society and of course to women.

Respect is understanding how it takes men guts to approach women while risking rejection . Respect is understanding how men are generally expected to be providers hence there is more pressure on them to succeed in their careers. Respect is understanding that a man feels all the exact same negative emotions a woman does (fear, insecurity, etc.) but he stays grounded because he knows it’s expected of him.

Just showing respect for things too many “modern” women take for granted goes a long way with men.

[emeraldsaphire]

I've heard men want "respect" before and it never sat well with me, but the way you explain it here makes perfect sense.

[blueonblack22]

@emeraldsaphire the reason women struggle with this is because it takes mental effort to understand what the opposite gender has to go through. Most women don’t naturally get this (or vice versa).

One obvious example is how some women very naively (and very ignorantly) think dating is the same way for guys as it is for them. It’s not even remotely close to the same when all else is equal (age, looks, money, etc).

It’s respecting what the man is really up against in that scenario. Women who respect men will do a much better job at HOW they reject men in these scenarios. It’s not IF they reject men. A woman should have the freedom to make any choice she wants (even if it’s the wrong choice). But it’s HOW she does it which really shows if she has respect for men or not.

[Shiprex]

adding to all these accurate things is I believe women are also now expecting men to replace what would be their social emotional support circle historically with a man who is more prone to want to SOLVE issues than validate them. Women seeking men to become more like male girlfriends is not fair on men because men could just as easily expect women to be more like blokes and internally process, resolve and let go or deal with things without the need for validation.

[blueonblack22]

@Shiprex well I am trying to keep this as simple, digestible and understandable as I can for the female readers on this. Trying to avoid any diatribes (although I completely agree with above).

Again respect is NOT giving into anything a man wants. A woman wants to reject a man romantically? Fine. But put the MENTAL EFFORT to understanding where he is coming from on that. Don’t do something rude or nasty because you assume he’s got just as many options as you do. Don’t just assume he “enjoys” sticking his neck out. Don’t assume his life is the same as yours when it comes to that. When a woman understands that she will think twice about HOW she rejects him. Again that doesn’t mean she not reject him. But HOW she does it makes all the difference in the world.

Above is just one example of many. And again mental effort TAKES effort. And many women think likeability is the same thing as respect. It’s not. Not at all. Respect is more of an issue of general principle.

[Shiprex]

@blueonblack22 for sure, the self awareness in the first place to KNOW that respect isn't cow towing to someone but is accepting and validating of them seems to be difficult to accept or even grasp at times. My issue is that society is encouraging men as partners to replace women's emotional support therapy they way women experience their lives and change the way they behave to accommodate this. Nowhere is it taking into account that perhaps MEN have better ways of dealing with lived experiences. Men change for women but no thought of doing the reverse is almost like telling men they've been living life wrongly and should be living it like women.

[blueonblack22]

@Shiprex again it’s an issue about of GENERAL PRINCIPLE.

Modern feminism demands that men value women regardless of the woman can provide men with tangible value or not.

But that expectation isn’t being reciprocated. How a woman treats a man regardless if there is something in it for her (she finds him attractive, money, social optics, etc.) all comes down to RESPECT. And that takes mental effort a lot of women don’t care understand.

This is why so many men are angry nowadays. It’s the feeling of being expendable because we are not valuable just for existing.

[Finchie40]

Be respectful , honest and loyal , make him your top priority meaning choose him over anyone else , over your friends and over your family and make him feel wanted , and treat him the way you want to be treated in return , Remove selfishness , wear his shoes the same way you want him wearing yours , it doesn’t take much to keep us guys’ happy , Feed us and , wear something sexy and Fuck us and bring us a beer , if you do those things for a man without him having to ask you , He will love and cherish you , Mark my words

[HawkPerception]

Listen to him (not as in follow his commands, but hear him out if he wants to share his thoughts), show him gratitude, even for the little things, show affection physically, tell him how much you value him regularly. If you do all that, he's gonna be one happy camper.

[ohsheeT]

After he proves his worth he will feel valued if you just make him feel that way for no reason it's not real and then he will expect that coming from you forever let him prove it first that way he will feel valued himself

[Lliam]

Let him know that he makes you feel safe and secure.

Let him treat you like a lady in public.

When you're in awe of his ability to lift heavy objects, climb up on the roof, do hard labor, build things and repair things, it makes him feel like a man.

Appreciate his body, enjoy giving BJs and having sex, and be sexy for him.

Cooking for him is really nice.

If you are married or living together, cleaning and keeping your home neat is really nice, too.

Just don't be a door mat or he will lose respect for you and take you for granted. You deserve to be equally valued and respected.

[Kelley1]

After I agree to marry him, I will expect him to earn the money and I will do almost everything else. I will cook, clean, and do most of the shopping. When he comes home, he can relax and watch TV and I will cater to his every need. If he wants a sandwich, I will hop up and make it. He will listen to me but he will be in charge.

[Shiprex]

Lol that last sentence. You let him be in charge then?

[Kelley1]

@Shiprex Of course I would. Husbands know best. There are many exceptions but generally, men know best Women should not vote.

[Shiprex]

@Kelley1 That's sweet and kind though be sure you're not being taken advantage of. Keep him on his toes in a way like your first comment suggests. That's an awesome style of being

[Miristheiss]

Give him peace and respect and appreciation. Nagging, criticizing, burying him in drama and problems every time he is around you and criticizing him in front of others is a sure fire way for him to leave you or just check out and disconnect from you.

[HighValue]

Give him long tight hugs that the woman initiates, be honest and loyal, including sticking up for him in conversations with friends and relatives. Be respectful of the relationship by not posting provocative/revealing pictures online or by hanging out with opposite gender friends one on one. Also, when he shares emotional things with you, keep it private so he can trust you. Sharing intimate details with friends harms relationships.

[Innerdesire]

Give him space, don't demeen him on tghe things he likes event if you think it's stupid, instead support him.

Instead of him always planning a romantic evening, you plan it but do it for something he likes, take an interest in things he likes.

Don't make him feel like shit if he makes a mistake like forgets something, be honest about how you are feeling and don't let him guess if you are mad or upset about something especially with him.

You may think sex is on men's mind a lot but we love other kinds of affection too like cuddling

[Kayleigh2005]

I don’t have relationships but cooking for him and I switch to giving and pleasing him sexually for sure, and not having to make decisions, yesss

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Why don't you have relationships?

But yes you are right. Also just say it, gose a long way.

[Kayleigh2005]

@Joshua_H_1010011001 what

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Never mind lol cba

[RavVid]

By not being disputative for a start. Respect his opinion on matters and take direction on aspects that are important to him.

Food/meal prep counts for a lot because it is a caring service and small kindnesses make us feel valued.

[PsychicBoobs]

Listen. And remember little things. There is power in when people remember your own little things.

[ProbablyClueless]

Genuinely listen to and appreciate the things he says. Don't gossip with your friends about him. Don't waste his time with flip-floppy nonsense.

[Nikki1989]

Acknowledge his emotions and show empathy.

[emeraldsaphire]

I'd think this too, but It's not really true in my experience. Guys have all the emotions, but they seem to express them differently. They like to handle them internally and don't like to share them that much,

[abc3643]

You say "My God! That's the biggest penis that I have ever seen!!"
;)

[Jennz6]

Be submissive and do whatever makes him feel good

[emeraldsaphire]

lol I do this

[Jennz6]

@emeraldsaphire we’re almost like sisters 💕

[PrettyCrumblBb]

By loving him, supporting him, praying for him, making him happy etc

[AmeerX]

So you value me ❤️🥰. Thank you my girl 🙈

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@AmeerX Yes I value you but I like you as a friend.

[AmeerX]

😂😂😂

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@AmeerX please stop crying

[AmeerX]

Not crying, just laughing

[SolitarySolace]

I can tell you what wouldn't make a man feel valued. Anything these women claim to think will

[KrakenAttackin]

Be KIND to him, give him attention, seek HARMONY not CONFLICT, let him love you how he needs to love you, be proud of him, have his back.

[red324]

Go out with him. Ask things about him. Just show an interest in who he is

[Anonymous]

Cook or buy his favorite food. Show that you care by showing interest in his life by talking about his subjects. An occasional "hey, I appreciate everything you do for me."

[David5668]

Why make the question gender-centric? Shouldn’t it be the case of making people feel valued should be the norm? The question, as it is presented, infers that men in general are pitiful creatures. We’re not: we can be as strong or as vulnerable as women.

[SmileyLady]

Because men and women aren’t exactly the same in the way they think and feel.

[David5668]

I agree, but at the same time (and it might just be the case that I’m a middle-aged fart), it comes across as though we desire the need to be valued. I’d say that as a society in general, the to value ourselves as a species should be undertaken as a norm and not an extra. I think if we did then we might just live in a happier more tolerant society.😊😊

[Anonymous]

Not much to be honest... If he was a man that was valuable he would already know by how the world treats him. There aren't many men in that category and the rest of us are just average, most men are disposable for the betterment of society.

[Anonymous]

This is a good start. I haven't seen someone express something like this in literal years. It's honestly refreshing.

[Chthou95]

Ask him how he's doing. The simplest of things can make a big difference

[Anonymous]

Being thankful that you have him in your life, for starters.

[bowenw]

Want to spend time with him.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Kindness and acts of love

[Crazzyyworld]

Stop lying to him

[CuriousMoonFox]

😂 the con artistry, I remember.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Some surprise b. j.'s will help !!!

[dougeats]

Blow him and take your time in my opinion

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just reciprocate the love that he shows you

[WowGIrl4ever]

Brag on him

[es20490446e]

Imitate a dog when you arrive home.

[Peggee4U]

Listen to him

[Deserter2]

Blow job

[Jmmmfi4]

SWALLOW LOL

[eagle1951]

love him