As a single mom how can I find a provider man?

[Anonymous]

[ChicoFromThe305]

Find someone that goes for mothers, I'm sure there's a site for it somewhere on the internet

[Anonymous]

1. Be worthy of it. 2. realize what got you two this point and start doing the opposite, and the good men will come.

[Summeroflove]

Well stop…. Because you made some choices and I feel sorry for your kid. But you’re not looking for love so you just need to be honest. That you’re looking for a provider not a genuine connection.

Men need to be aware that dating you will result in cheating with bums and losers…. Until you find someone you feel is a step up from him.

If you want a sugar daddy be honest about it.

[Cormac995]

Not going to lie your odds suck since you come with a kid. Dating is expensive and when providing for children becomes part of the equation even men who are interested and do like the girl are like "Fuck I can't afford to help with the kids, guess I have to try with someone else." A lot of the time.

It basically feels like being financially cucked. Someone else knocked her up and now we have to take over the payments because they ditched her often times in my experience because either the guy was total trash only wanting sex and the woman went for it anyways despite red flags or she's a nasty venomous piece of crap and the dude finally cracked and lost it and left her. I'm sure there are exceptions but they seem to be the minority in my experience it's almost always either the guy only cares about her body, or the girl is awful and treats men like crap.

"MOST" of the single mothers I've met were selfish entitled and rude too. Some girls try to "Trap him" and if you do that, you're not just stupid but you're cruel because you're using your own child as a pawn in your game trying to tie down the man further doing that to a guy who doesn't want kids and told you skyrockets your chance of being dumped. Cause it's a violation of consent and trust.

Also, if men forge a bond with a child, they want it to be either their child or a child that thinks of him as his "Real dad" No man wants to deal with being a parental figure to an ungrateful brat that doesn't see them as a father. if they do their settling because they've had low success dating.

It's also incredibly frustrating dating a single mother for reasons completely out of her control. The kids take up a ton of time and have to take priority over you and the relationship. They make you cancel plans last minute often times and they add such a massive responsibility if you have to re-schedule a date if could mean you have to wait a week or more to see each other again after canceling last minute.

It doesn't create an attractive set of circumstance for any man looking to date in fact it's a lot more work and trouble than most men and woman are willing to deal with. It makes it hard to form a strong and consistent bond and this is all assuming the kid is just indifferent or even likes you. If the kid hates the new boy or girl friend trust me the kid will completely find a way to kill the relationship If they get it in their head that they want to.

Kids throw fits about hating the boyfriend, he's not their "real dad", they act like a brat, but you're not allowed to call them out for being a petulant child because since it's not your kid you can't ground them etc. If a man doesn't feel like a big enough investment of time, respect, and trust he'll eventually get sick of it and leave.

I wouldn't date a single mother for most of these reasons myself but another big reason I'd never date a single mother is this is coming from the perspective of someone who grew up in a home that broke halfway through my youth. One of the reasons I'd personally never want to date a single mom with kids is I feel insecure about being a role model in any capacity.

It sucks when you're a kid and your parents get divorced it's incredibly stressful and confusing and your sad because now your mom and dad aren't together and you have to go back and forth if you're lucky and they don't end up trying to steal you from each other.

The last thing I want to do, when I see a kid in that position is barge into their life trying to take away their mother's free time and make things even more confusing and complicated for them emotionally. For me it's not even just about the mom, it's also about the kid too I think that's also a factor for some guys too.

[Sevenpointfive]

you have to realize what you have to offer first. you're broke with a kid. tell me 1-3 things that you can offer a man with money that he can't buy.

[Ariesman81]

Be easy. Be feminine. Be helpful. Understand that you're not his first choice. Take accountability. Put him above above your child.

Do these things and we can look past your mistakes and will see you as a potential partner.

[es20490446e]

Provider for a child that isn't yours?

[Asker]

Provider in a relationship. Someone that will be a man and provide for the household

[es20490446e]

It sounds like a mean to an end to me 😛

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[es20490446e]

What about the previous steps?

[Asker]

You said it sounds like a means to an end, can you elaborate what you mean by that?

[es20490446e]

Omitting the part were you get to know each other. Instead focusing on minimizing fear of being all alone taking care of the household.

[In_Trance]

Good luck with that

[Asker]

Why do you think that isn't feasible?

[In_Trance]

Nobody wants to sign up for that

[Asker]

Guys don't want to provide or they don't want to provide for a single mother?

[In_Trance]

They don't want to provide for someone else's child.
And they sure don't want someone that is unable to support themselves

[Asker]

I take care of my child by myself but if I enter a relationship more than likely they will help with the child.

[In_Trance]

And that's why they're not interested in getting into a relationship with a single mom.
It's not his child it's not his responsibility.
Now of course as the relationship progresses they will form a bond of some type. So yes there may be some overlap and you would get some type of assistance, but to present yourself and lay that out as an expectation is unrealistic

[Danny_dan92]

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