How do you get a provider husband / boyfriend if you have no personality?

[Anonymous]

This is part of why I can’t get promoted at jobs or get a job I guess. I can do interview alright but once I work there it becomes clear I’m a submissive follower and quiet snd don’t really have a personality.

I feel like I don't know how to

1. find a man who would provide for me (men today don’t want to. They just want our bodies for free or cheap)

2. If I did find one would he want someone who has an empty personality like me :/ I’m nice and sweet but it’s not impressive to anyone. People don’t value that.

[imran_]

I am glad that good soul like you exist, I encourage you to choose Motherhood and companionship.

I would suggest you to be modest, god fearing, make supplications to one true God to get a good husband. I believe there are some good Men, god fearing, exists who would accept you for the sake of god, love you, protect and provide for you. Be patient and make supplications while actively seeking for such God fearing person. Who would take care of you and your children, who would fear to cheat or harm you. Because he knows that even if he gets caught free I'm this world, god will hold him accountable on the day of judgement.

[SotiCoto]

One wonders how you get any living done with all that "god fearing". Your existence of abject terror is unnecessary in any case, as there is no such thing as a god. Never has been, never will be. Only humanity will judge you.

[Anonymous]

I can so relate to this. I managed to find a boyfriend and I have zero personality. I honestly don't know what he sees in me because my thoughts are often vapid. When I'm at work I'm often very quiet because I have absolutely nothing to say. They wonder why I'm so quiet and think I'm being weird but it's really just I don't have anything to say because I don't think about much of anything.

My boyfriend does the majority of the talking when we're on the phone. I'll ask him questions and he'll respond to them and he tries his hardest to draw things out of me but there's nothing to draw out. I feel like eventually he may get tired of me which I am afraid of.

[Twalli]

You are your own worst critic.

[Opinion Owner]

That may be true but it's also true that I am far too quiet and need more interesting things to talk about.

[LazerBean]

You're at an age where most good men are already married, making your options very limited. Just try to be the best person you can be, and maybe join a dating site.

[GoodEnoughThen]

Work on yor personality, self-esteem, perspective, attitude, outlook on life, etc. Get some Mental Health counseling, make sure you include positive people in your life (friends, family, cowokers) who are doing things with their lives, start to look for and see the good in people, explore activities that you have always been curious about, take some risks. You only die once so you might as well go for life...

[Nirmroth]

Having a personality doesn't mean you have to be the center of attention.

I think you have to work on your negative self-view first before you drag someone else down with it.

Secondly the view you have of men in general.

[Asker]

What view? I’m just stating the reality.

[Nirmroth]

The age of providers is over. Its very hard to find a job that allows you to sustain a family alone. A second stable income is very much always needed.

[ProbablyClueless]

The way to be an interesting person is to live a proactive and interesting life. You have to be getting out there and doing stuff. Being a genuinely interesting person is how you get the confidence to attract an interesting and desirable man.

[SotiCoto]

No, they don't want your body for free. They're trading the use of their body to you in exchange for the use of your body for them. If you want to be financially supported, you need to bring more to the table than just your body.

[Yannae]

You work on your personality. People can change, if they want to, and if they really want to, they will put in the work.
To attract a good partner, you need to be a good partner

[Noodle_fan]

If u are bi , your chance will be doubled

As u can see , women with good job and are everywhere , may be one of em willing to be ur provider.

[slatyb]

Start by getting dinner counseling. You have a personality, but maybe you are afraid to show it.

[exitseven]

Everyone has a personality. Maybe yuo just need to polish it up a bit so it will shine.

[Unit1]

Sugar babies are not nice nor sweet except for a price and even then it's just temporarily.

[Twalli]

You can be a quiet, submissive, follower and still have a personality. I am one and I have a very colorful and vibrant personality