Do you view someone who has children and/or has possibly been married before as used/undesirable goods?

[Anonymous]

I think it's nice to start a fresh life with someone without any baggage.

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

That depends on them. Do they come into the relationship with a lot of baggage from the previous relationship? Because then yeah, they're used. It's up to THEM to leave thier past in thier past. Obviously with kids you can't do that. Kids do make things considerably more difficult. I wouldn't call a kid a mistake. If they are, they're the best mistake you can make. But single moms have to understand a new guy will NEVER be the biological father of that child. She is asking a lot when she asks him to take on a parental role of that child. And the older the child the more difficult this is. So in other words, it'd be a lot easier on her if she'd choose a good man to marry from start point go so she doesn't have this problem.

[Asker]

Maybe if the kids father is dead. That's the only exception to me

[Opinion Owner]

Understandable.

[strateguy632]

Not exactly but the kid contributed to the pro/con list.

[Nikki1989]

It sounds like you are riddled with immature insecurities, so you are in NO position to talk about baggage.

[virtualwasp]

what a lot of people dont understand is when you have a relationship you take on the partners history

[MissTrix]

Yes but also I'm not at the age group where it's all old baggage!