Should people stop automatically assuming someone is married just because they have a child?

[Anonymous]

I was visiting my dad, who had major surgery in the hospital. He is still not out of the woods when one of the staff members randomly asks me if your husband is at work, and I say no, he is not around. She then says, Oh, I thought that was your husband with you yesterday, and I say no, that's my brother.

This same lady also asked about giving my daughter a sibling, and I said no, and she was there, saying maybe someday. The whole conversation made me feel very uncomfortable, especially when she was asking me these questions and saying about giving my daughter a sibling someday, all while my dad was there laying on the hospital bed in a life-or-death situation.

So should people stop assuming someone is married just because they have a child?

[rosemilk]

small talk needs to be illegal, i swear...

if they're rude enough to get into your personal business, maybe be rude enough to just not respond, smile, and then walk away. you don't have to answer.

also, hope your dad will recover well!

[Asker]

I tried to ignore answering the questions but the more I tried the more she just kept pushing. She later apologised to me when I seen her again as I was leaving. I wanted to leave and walk away but the doctor was also there with my dad as he was doing a few test before he gave me an update on things.

Thank you for the well wishes for my dad. I really appreciate it heaps

[HelpfulWoman]

i think its more of a report the staff member for making inappopriate comments

[slatyb]

The woman is an idiot. Don't answer such questions.

[Asker]

I tried not to especially since the doctor was there doing some test on dad, but the more I tried to ignore the questions the more she pushed. She later ended up apologising as I was leaving.

[Danny_dan92]

That will never happen

[Asker]

I hope it don’t. She later apologised but hopefully this has taught her to not assume things.

[Danny_dan92]

You’d be surprised though how many “single mothers” aren’t actually single.