Went on a few dates with a girl. Connected really well, but never made my intentions clear. Is the door closed or do I still have a chance?

[Anonymous]

Felt like we were building a genuine connection, I like to take things slow but never made it clear. I usually lead with friendship because thats important to me.

Her: so I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you and getting to know you, but I’ve realized I see us more as friends than anything else. I think you’re a great person, and I wanted to be honest about how I’m feeling. I hope you can understand

Me: I respect how you’re feeling, thank you for being honest with me. Not going to sit here & act like I had no interest in you early on. Definitely should have been more straightforward with you earlier on. Just want to tell you that you’re an amazing person, don’t ever change who you are. Wish you nothing but the best :)

Me: Hey, I just wanted to make sure there was no confusion in what I wrote. If the feeling is mutual I am open to a friendship as well

Her: Yes I'm opened to it, I just wouldn't be able to hangout til the new year

She is traveling for holidays.

Chance

Door closed

Updates

1 y

Why did she still offer to hangout after I expressed how I felt?

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

I almost threw up reading that.

Get some self respect, that's why she's not into you.

You care too much, too early on.

Treat her like another human, chances are they are a lying, cheating, unless ass hole of a life form... Until proven otherwise.

"your amzing person, dint change who you are"... Seriously, you don't that, and who the fuck are you to tell her not to change.

You can't be friends with somone your attracted to, they are just an option / potential partner.

Don't be Such a weak simp of a man.

she's not intrested, should of said, that's a shame, I was realy into you, never mind, catch you around, bye.

End.

Then it's with her.

You move on and bang her mate.

Job done. 💪

😂🤣... But seriously 😎

[Asker]

thats hilarious but no. i only contacted her to make plans with her, not one of those guys who likes to speak all the time. i genuinely did get to know her so ima show her that respect. but thank you for your honest opinion. used to have that mentality but for what, I let that ego go a long time ago

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

To be fair I was hamming it up a bit.

I haven't been with anyone in a year or so and am happy with my kid, hobbies and career.

I'm looking for a partner, but meh.

Yeah tough one with letting the ego go, but maintaining confidence, self respect and competence.

We can all but try.

The message did sound wet though.

I'm glad you appreciate my honesty, no Ill intentions.

Peace man

[Asker]

no yeah thank you bro appreciate you

[Anonymous]

you messed up, on the first date i would have let her known indirectly.


You should have called her cute and pretty on the date.

[Asker]

you’re absolutely right. is it too late to salvage?

[Opinion Owner]

ask her on another date and this time, call her cute, and i would say look up how to have rizz or game when talking to girls

[Asker]

that I can do naturally. i was just taking things very slow because I ended a 4 year relationship early in the year and also have my plate full with work & school. and for sure thank you

[Crazzyyworld]

nothing is set on the stone. if you want to pursue then it's possible. but it seems to be she is looking for a relationship at this moment. and you might be looking for friendship with a little bit of benefits. I mean.. she wants a boy friend or partner. are you?

[Asker]

i was looking to continue to get to know her, i ended a 4 year relationship 9 months ago and im still healing. not looking for a friends with benefits.

[Crazzyyworld]

So you need a friend who can listen to you not a new relationship it sounds. Maybe ask her to be friend and explain it to her so that she can understand.

[Asker]

i didn’t want to bring up the past, I had just gotten to a place where I was ready to tell her where my mind was at and find out where she was. i reached out to make plans to do that and in that moment she told me how she felt. what confuses me is why tell me that she can hangout when she gets back from vacation after I just told her how I felt?

[Crazzyyworld]

I believe that a common misunderstanding between men and women are about himself and herself. It's sometimes not you it's her. it's not because of you are such and such but she is worried about how she looks to you. You should know that human never see other people. they only concern how they themselves look to others. It's not you it's HER

[Asker]

thank you, should I just move on? or see her one last time and explain to her then let her know that I can’t just be friends and have to walk away?

[Crazzyyworld]

she worries about how she look. she doesn't' care about how you look.

[Flower7]

The door is closed here, but most likely she said this because she doesn’t feel attracted to you, not because of how fast or slow you moved.

[Asker]

I could live with that, its going to stick with me
if it was because of me not being clear. Why did she say that we could meet after the holidays then?

[Flower7]

She would be willing to hang out as friends. But I suggest not doing that. Why waste your time with someone who has no romantic interest toward you? Best to find someone new and start fresh.

[Asker]

I will probably just move on you are right. It sucks because we definitely have a great connection she opened up to me about things she only tells her therapist according to her, not even her own friends. Thought we were heading somewhere.

[EmmaMary]

REPORTED...DUPLICATE.

[queenbecca]

you definitely have a chance

[Asker]

what makes you think that?

[Asker]

everyone else thinks otherwise lol

[In_Trance]

Live and learn

[Asker]

Very true