Does he actually want to see me?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this guy for 6 weeks. He comes in to my work daily. Sometimes he bring by food. We became friends on social media. One day I private messaged him a thank you for bringing by food because I had missed him bringing it in. He responded and since then we have been talking daily. Day and night. We talk about a future. We met up once and kissed. We've spent a day together and held hands and we're friendly. Aside from seeing each other 3-4 days a week for maybe 20 min and talking and then meeting up those 2 times we haven't seen each other. No dates. We talk about meeting up but something on his end always comes up. He insists he likes me and we have a connection. What's the deal? Why doesn't he actually want to see me?

[Summeroflove]

You need to express interest and just ask him how he feels about you. Ask to see if he will go on a date. Talk….

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it definitely sounds like this guy is sending some mixed signals. On one hand, he's talking to you daily, bringing you food, and even mentioning a future together. That seems like he's interested, right? But then he keeps bailing on actually meeting up or going on proper dates.

My guess is that he's probably into you and feels a connection, but for some reason he's hesitant to take things to the next level. Maybe he's got some commitment issues or insecurities holding him back. Or it could be that he's just not as serious about this as he's leading you to believe.

The fact that he keeps talking about a future together but can't seem to follow through on actually spending time with you in person is a little concerning. It makes me wonder if he's just keeping you on the back burner or feeding you empty promises.

I don't want to assume the worst, but it does kind of seem like he might just be stringing you along for the attention and ego boost, without any real intention of pursuing an actual relationship. The constant communication and flirting could just be his way of keeping you interested, without having to put in the effort of going on proper dates.

My advice would be to try to have an honest conversation with him about what he's looking for and what his intentions are. Let him know that you're interested in taking things to the next level, but you need to see more concrete effort and follow-through from him. If he can't give you that, then he might not be as serious as he claims.

You deserve someone who's going to make the effort to see you and go on real dates. Don't settle for just being his daily text buddy or occasional food delivery. Stand your ground and make it clear that you want more than just empty promises. Hopefully he'll step up, but if not, you might need to move on.

[Nikki1989]

Express your interest in spending more time with him and see how he responds.