How did you make the decision to move in with someone you'd been dating? Was it the best or worst decision?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Renting a place with a girlfriend/boyfriend is a horrible idea. After all, all you are doing is dating. There is no commitment. I don't care how infatuated you are or if you believe that infatuation is love. Promises are bullshit.
I made that mistake once. If things go bad, it's a nightmare to find a new place and move out. And someone will get stuck with bills.

It only makes sense to live together if you both retain your own places and stay at one or the other's place.
I did that once and it was idyllic. I kept my apartment with all my stuff in it and just moved some clothes and essentials into the house my girlfriend was renting with room mates. She had the master bedroom and master bath and half of the house to herself.

I actually loved her and she loved me. We lived together full time, aside from both having daytime jobs. When I needed to, I could go to my apartment for clothes or whatever I needed.

We lived together for almost two years. Unfortunately, we could not make it as life-long partners. We separated even though we still loved each other. I moved back into my apartment. That didn't require finding a new place, moving furniture, or figuring out how to split rent and expenses.

Two people should be married before they actually rent a place together. Marriage means that you have made a solid commitment.

If one person doesn't want to commit to marriage, they are not committed to the relationship, no matter how much they say they love you.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I moved in with a woman twice in my life... and married each of them. First one, married for 20 years before an amicable divorce. Second one, now married for 8 years and counting.

The decision to move in was easy. Committed relationship and Love.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I never thought to do that. The only guy I ever "moved in with" I married. Dating, I'd say comes with a touch of lingering mystery because you're still supposed to be courting and not 110% up in each others' business. I know that's changed over the past 20 years or so, however there's something sweet about keeping that touch of mystery while dating.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Well the only guy I lived with we dated long distance for 2 years and when I had the chance to go there I moved in with him.. it was a a good relationship for a long time. It depends on if you both want to live together or not and just have to go for it.

Summeroflove · Answer

I’ve never done it all relationships are different but I would say to be very careful who you move in with.

TrueConfection · Answer

He asked me to marry him and I did.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

Where is your father, grandfather, brother and uncles? At your old age you should know better. Why would you as old as you are live with a boyfriend? He will never marry you especially with him giving you this option he already doesn't see you as wife material

rachel776 · Answer

we just sort of slowly merged over time until we were pretty much living in each other's houses. the fires have interrupted that quite a bit but we're both on the road all the time anyway so we'll eventually settle back down

MissTrix · Answer

Always the worst! It ends relationships faster then cheating dies!

creativewritings · Answer

Living together can quickly destroy love, and what seems like a small thing can easily become a big problem. This is a decision that should be seriously considered.

rosemilk · Answer

i only ever moved in with my husband so... let's just say, probably don't move in with someone unless you both are definitely working towards marriage in the near future.

DizzyDesii · Answer

He keeps asking but im just not a fan of shacking up. We’d have to be at least engaged or something. And I don't know if i even still want marriage

molonski2 · Answer

I've really only had two actually move in , it was not so much a conscious decision they just kind of did it , that sounds unorganise. One I married , and the other one was here for 3 years.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

There was no decision making. She just one day never went back to her own home. Just like that she was living with me … sneaky. We split up a year after we moved out of state together.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

That is sin. You Catholics think this is normal. Uh no marriage first!!!

Eleni2001 · Answer

After honeymoon period is over a year and half.

Miristheiss · Answer

We got married. She moved from her parent's house into my place.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It's impossible for a girl to move in with me if we aren't married or at least being engaged and going to get married!

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have never nor will I ever do so. Too much risk if/when things fall apart.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never done that. Can't imagine I'd or I'll ever do that.

Caroline91 · Answer

We got married.

shortster · Answer

Until we get engaged, we are not moving in.

Anonymous · Answer

When we married i had too..

vikingsbarbie · Answer

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