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You need to put everything into context. There are both positives and negatives about dating apps.
I found my last two long term gfs on a dating app. Seriously why is it so “bad” that we met on a dating app first vs. meeting in person somewhere? The dating app gave us the opportunity to connect. We would have likely never met in person otherwise. Why can’t I be grateful that the dating app created the opportunity? Some people are very busy and very limited time to interact with viable prospects.
But…. here are the negative and there a lot of them:
Sex/attention addiction: dating apps make sex too accessible and/or the need for cheap virtual attention validation way too easy.
Catfish/liars/creeps: it’s too easy and tempting (especially if don’t get many matches) to misrepresent yourself on a dating app. Too many people will use whatever just for a “chance” at sex, attention or worse.
Spam, Scams and Onlyfans: I’ve been off dating apps for a year now. But I remember absolutely disgusting sess pool of this sh*t. I especially hated Only Fans girls. But they are all over the place on dating apps. Especially if you are over 30.
Political division via apps: lots of dating apps jumped on the “woke wagon” and pushed all sorts of ideologies that only further divided men and women. They literally forced you to openly identify to whatever radical agenda (BLM, trans bs, abortion, etc.). Bumble was the worst with this. But tinder was bad too. And I saw countless women use their dating profiles to expose their radical viewpoints.
There is nothing wrong with identifying by your political leanings on a dating app profile. But the app companies themselves pushed this overt partisan activism (which was always in one direction) even further. And even if someone has a political leanings I agree with, I still don’t want to date someone who is a radical activist.
Well there you have it. Dating apps in theory are a very creative and ingenious way to connect people who might not meet otherwise. When honesty exists (which is near non-existent) it created a method to get to know someone safely before meeting them.
But of course it’s PEOPLE who ruined it all. From the dating apps dividing people via ideologies, to people catfishing, to OF fans hoes promoting their business to psychotic creeps doing things you see in the news it’s PEOPLE who corrupted it unfortunately.
I have met every single person I've seen , in one way or another online since 1998 , the good bit is you can really screen them , then go to vid calls , bit of organising.. But how difficult to fluke the right person in a bar? Like we used to have to try and do..
Only bad thing is the fakes and the scammers , but you generally get pretty dam good at picking them , and when something goes wrong , you just unmatch and move on.
It's not the dating apps. It's the users of the apps.
I think the idea is brilliant. The way an app can help you meet someone you would never likely bump into by accident. Opens door to communication with said person (as even if you did see them you probably would never approach a stranger) and of course the important "am I attracted physically" box is ticked upon communicating so you don't even have to ask or second guess that.
But this only works for genuine people if genuine people use the app. Which sadly isn't the case. The hook up culture, the catfish, the cheats... they spoil the dating apps for finding love. They should really stick to specific apps!
I know certain apps claim to be genuine for genuine people. And charge lots of money for that right. But that just excludes a lot of potentials so you pay and have no matches. Which is very soul destroying.
I vote “destroying.” The more time we spend on screens the less time we spend actually appreciating the real live folks in front of us. We waste time thinking we have infinite resources and options, so we don’t settle down and show one another. Proper respect and appreciation. (It’s not just dating apps, but the social media etc that create undue pressure on everyone that make folks who date the organic way (like me) feel like we’re the crazy ones.)
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Neither, but they are trusted ways to meet a partner- they’re mostly useful for hookups.
I don't think people consider dating apps a legitimate means of dating, do they?
Men, I don't think do.
Don't get me wrong, I think they were all the rage 10 years ago. And they actually worked back then, too.
But unless you're in the top 5% of men, I think it's impossible to get a quality match on those things. You'd have infinitely more luck in real life. They're all owned by match group, who set algorithms which manipulate you to pay.
I hope no one takes dating apps seriously in 2025.
I'll say it is empowering. What destroy traditional culture is not dating app, but modern texting.
Instant messaging is a hell. Back at the old times people communicate through letter, so there is no pressure to keep chatting 24 hours a day and instant reply.
I think it wastes a lot of time. Watching a show on YouTube where a woman was given multiple guys to talk too to see which one she would hit it off with to date and she hit it off with the first guy but buzzed him on because she wanted to see what the other guys were like but she didn't like any of them. I think that's exactly what dating apps are like, continuely passing on potential good partners you would be happy with because you think you can do better.
There are people who find love on dating apps though. My brother found my partner on a dating app and they've been together 7 years now and will be getting married soon.
My mom also found her partner on a dating app after her separation 15+ years ago and has been with him ever since.
It's not a waste of time for the people who make it work. It's just the individuals that are at fault.
@HawkPerception.
This is certainly true , I have met every partner ( even prior to apps ) online since 98 as I said in my answer.
I'd say the apps were initially better before all scammers came in and the like , but they do still work.
found his partner***
Sometimes it really is just better to date one person at a time. For me I'd personally be overwhelmed & overstimmed if I just had multiple partners picked out for me to date all at once. I understand there's a reason why there's multiple dates, but I feel like sticking to one person and seeing how it goes is a bit better for some people. And if you guys don't match up, you just move on.
@PBandJ_Nerd
I'm agreeing with all I know , but thats a really good point , sometimes too much choice is not good at all , plus early on you have no idea how many others these people are focused on via app? It could be many many.
Whereas the circumstance you describe is a focus , that can also happen on an APP , but you can never be 100% sure.
Online dating has been around for decades. I used it in the early days and went on some dates and always enjoyed them but none of them ever turned into a long-term thing. All the long-term relationships I've had in my life were the result of meeting someone in person on first contact.
I've always thought that there was one critical element missing when you meet someone on a dating app. Part of the intrigue of a new relationship is having it happen to you when you are not expecting it. I think for a lot of people that's the most exciting part, you never know when it will happen. That makes the situation a lot more exciting and inviting.
When you find a date as if you're shopping for groceries, trying to pick out the juiciest grapefruit, it just takes a lot of the thrill out of it.
Dating apps are for people looking for a quick fix. Fixing the fact you won't ask someone out in a normal setting in public, quick fix you won't believe in yourself, and quick fix to be offish in a life which people are naturally receptive to real intimacy.
I defo think it is destroying traditional dating cultures.. like our gen is so fucked.. I pretty much gave up on finding love from anywhere.
They're a business and would be failing as that IF they worked. That they don't says the business is working because people aren't using them to find a person to have a relationship with but to engage in the promiscuity trade.
An app aka a thing is not responsible for human behavior
I am able to use apps to find love like twice a week! I use a fake name so as I don't have to get tangled up in anything complicated, just a quick 'in n out burger' if you follow my drift. :)
This is not a yes no question. Yes/No are not the correct buttons.
It is destroying dating and relationships.
Can you find healthy food in vending machines?
@dustybiker2
The whole digital life experience in my opinion is a rather unfortunate but more common medium for communication instead of the organic face to face type where the full spectrum of communication modes are in play. Expecting anything more than fast food diet from the digital era bonding experience is a wish upon the stars. Far too much weight is added or imagined too I think with the inorganic modes of communicating. It should be cut and get stuck in to the meet up asap iyam.
However, it's only
@dustybiker2
LOL I need a better screen with clearer images I read MOULDY autistics after reading about food from a vending machine. Unlikely given the nature though But thanks for the laugh
They’re damaging traditional dating and encouraging men to just want casual sex.
You think it's only men encouraged?
They appear to work against human nature and best practice in terms of established ways that men and women previously established relationships.
I would rather find someone the old-fashioned way instead of sitting behind a computer all day trying to get to know fake profiles and scammers. This is all you ever come across online.
Two questions brother.
They're a male beauty contest + wealth.
Those apps are useless and full of perverted men and women who don't know what they're doing.
Both. Too much variety can make committing more difficult, but being able to find people one would never meet in daily life can be helpful.
Dating apps have turned the brains of women to mush.
Almost all dating apps are used for hookups these days
People fuck for centuries. There is no or little love involved
Always empowering and that's why it's got rules
No !
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