Could I get some opinions?

[Bman07]

First of all, thakyou for reading. Before I ask my question here's some info, Im 36. 200 pounds. 5'10 in decent shape and working on it! I have a good job, my own place/car, no kids, no debt. I have been told (especially by older women lol) im handsome/ cute.

I know this might seem like a stupid question, but i just don't understand why i haven't found someone yet. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

I have always strived to become a better person. I've been doing that for as long as i can remember.. since i was much younger. I treat people with kindness, but i know better than to let people walk on me. I take care of myself, i dress nicely, use cologne (versace eros is the bomb!).

I like to take the lead when dating, Give me a time you're free and ill make that date. I dont rush or force things, i give space to the woman im seeing, im not needy or clingy. I would NEVER hurt any woman, i was not raised that way. But i can never get anything to last more than a few months these days. My longest relationship was only a few years, but that was a long time ago.

Im starting to lose hope. All i want is a family of my own to love and take care of. I see videos of people with their kids having a blast which i love to see but it honestly makes me sad anymore because I feel like I'm running out of time.

I use online dating sites also by the way, but i get so few matches by women i dont find attractive that its not even worth it.

Any opinions or questions even would be greatly appreciated.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Brutal honesty requested, Here are the not so good things I can say about a stranger, based on your description...

A family of your own, you say, that is an item in a list, an object, it's soulless. It doesn't talk about the mother of this family, it doesn't talk about your relation to her, it just talks about you. Your wish to obtain an additional thing on the shelf of things you already obtained. But a family is not a thing, neither is a relationship. It's a connection.

Kindness, it is the basic minimum in any relationship, nothing to show off here. It's like saying that you wear pants.

About dating sites, well, if it's a Tinder clone, then strategically speaking, you're not using the right tool for the situation.

[Bman07]

I agree kindess is the basic minimum, wasn't trying to show off. I was just telling you about myself.

I have only been using two dating sites not like tinder, serious relationship sites. I want to find a good person to start a family with, but i want to at least be physically attracted to them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Whatever the reason is, it can’t be determined by strangers and it’s clearly something you can’t see yourself

[Bman07]

You're right, problem is I can't for the life of me figure it out. Only thing i can really think of is i feel out of place in this generation. I believe you should treat everyone the way you want to be treated, with respect and kindness. I don't know.. there's just too much negativity these days.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Ask people for an outside view, people who know you. See yourself from outside

[Bman07]

Well.. I asked my closest friends and family to be brutally honest and they had nothing but good things to say. I know I'm not perfect by any means, so unless they're lying to me lol (which I truly don't believe they would) then they don't know either.

Can i ask you something?

Can you be too honest? The last person i was really interested in kind of ghosted me, came back a month later just to leave me on read (after i positively responded) so almost 2 days go by so i told her " Hey so Im going to be honest with you, you pretty much ghosted me for a month while i was trying to get to know you, and when you reached out you ignored me lol pretty confusing, but if this is the way you want things to be moving forward then im not interested and we should try another time". Did i mess up by saying this?

She gave a bit of a reason.. she was wishy washy and doesn't know if that will change but she adored me and she won't reach out anymore, i left the door open and told her i adored her as well (which i really did smh we had 3 good dates, there was chemisty and were deftinately physically attracted to each other).

[Bman07]

adored her as well* and i dont want you to feel like you shouldn't reach out my door is open*

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re mediocre as a human being. Not bad, but not exceptional either

[Bman07]

I appreciate the honesty, however I find this response rather odd, considering the tiny amount of information about myself I've given you.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your story is extremely common