Is my mum right, or is my best friend right? Will it only encourage him?

[MoonFace2]

I invited this guy with Asperger's Syndrome, whom I'll call *Mark* and through Mark, his friend *Tian* (who I I had to get off two forms of social media to avoid, because he kept hitting on me when I wasn't interested); to attend a dating cafe meet up for people with Asperger's Syndrome in our local area to speed date and friend others with Asperger's around our age.

I literally invited everyone with Asperger's Syndrome that I'd ever known, from various activities that I've attended over the years, friend, foe or acquaintance.

My mum said it was a mistake to invite Tian. because it will encourage him to think I'm interested in seeing him, especially having invited him to a speed dating event. My best friend *Nina* who was a close friend of Tian's said he won't bother me, that he'll be too busy hitting on other women to notice me. So it should be safe to invite him. I was motivated just to be kind to everyone, inclusive, because I thought it was a good chance for all of us to meet people.

[Billlewis]

I think you can still bring him along and stay tantalizingy just inches out of his reach when he tries to touch you. If he’s pretty sharp you can even tell him that you enjoy his company but that he must maintain uppermost in his mind that under absolutely no circumstances whatsoever will he ever experience physical intimacy with you.
I don’t know where this far fetched notion that it’s bad or immoral to frustrate guys. To the contrary, we love it, and for me personally, if a beautiful woman starts teasing me at work or wherever, I’m going to start buying her lunch or something, because you deserve it.

[Ironco]

I'm leaning towards your mom's side, but it's going to be a bit of both I feel.

I'd just tell him right up front what you're goal and reason for inviting him are.

Good luck...

[UnwantedScorpio]

I use to know a guy who had assbergers

[MikeRJ]

See how it goes.

[Anonymous]

You need to give him a chance.