Is my mum’s advice right?

[MoonFace2]

A group of three of us are chipping in for our friend *Tracey*’s ceramic cat ornament for her fiftieth birthday. One of the people chipping in is her brother. The other two will contribute $10 each and I’ll pay $20. I wanted to give Tracey some extra gifts, cat slippers and a cat mug just from me. My mum who grew up poor, advised me to just get the cat slippers as the extra gift. That otherwise I’d make the others feel bad for not being able to be more generous.

[ColHathi]

She probably has a point, but I'm also of the opinion that if you want to give someone a gift, just do it. Nothing else should really matter. Having said that, and since your mom might be right, since we don't yet live in a society where people wouldn't be bothered like that, you could compromise by getting your friend the rest of the gifts at a later time? :p

[MoonFace2]

Good idea 😊

[Sunrising]

there's 2 Rules here !

Rule 1 Mum is always right !

Rule 2 If Mum is wrong see Rule 1 !

[Nikki1989]

It is fair enough.

Getting the cat slippers is a good idea. It's a thoughtful and personal gift that won't overshadow the group gift.