Why does my mum's partner always give me unsolicited advice?

[Anonymous]

Every time I go to my mum for advice on something, or if we are arguing, my mum's partner always jumps in and gives me unsolicited advice as well. He also gives me advice (which he calls "observations") on my hair, clothes and appearance. He'll be like "can I make an observation? Your hair was better before." I ask for advice from my mum about my estranged abusive dad, and again her partner always jumps in and tells me what to do. It really irritates me sometimes because I don't know him like that and I didn't ask him. Am I being childish in not wanting unsolicited advice, or is he sticking his nose in something that isn't his business?

[Anonymous]

He gives you the advice because you don’t tell him its unwanted. If you stopped being quiet about your feelings and let him know to back off they he will keep butting in. If you’re too shy or fearful to speak your mind then find a workaround, like not arguing or asking for advice from your mom in front of him.

[Guccigabbana18]

When he tries to tell you what to do, you can just politely say to him "thanks, but I'm ok for now." Or something like that.

[Sofi-a1997]

It's none of his business, unless you're in danger, to tell you what to do. It's especially not his business to tell you what to do with your hair etc. I would tell him to piss off. he's being rude esp about the hair thing

[Wise4myage]

Tell him to piss off.