“Friend or more than friend? Should I continue to take it slow and see where it goes?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy and when I met him I felt like I knew him from a past life or something. It was like a movie playing in slow motion the moment there was just something a glow and feeling of comfort just off of his energy.

Over sometime I engaged in conversation with him and eventually grew feelings for him so I asked him for his number because the connection that I feel seems so unreal I have never felt anything like this. To the point I have no interest in talking to anyone else.

I got his number and we would text here and there. Fast forward 6 months I decided I was going to confess my feelings. I did so and his response was like oh that’s flattering but I’m just not interested in dating. So I responded back to him and said oh I’m not really interested in dating at the moment either I just wanted to be open about my feelings.

Mind you other people see the chemistry too. I’ve had people ask me what’s going on between the two of us. I’ve had people ask me why we aren’t a couple and said we would be a great match. He has never once been open about his feelings with me and we have now been talking for the past almost two years pretty consistently. There are times when he goes silent for days and he just says he doesn’t really like texting that much.

We have spent time together doing various things we have gone out to eat together, movie, zoo, he’s taken me to appointments and even shopping. We exchange gifts for Christmas and Birthdays. He has tied my shoe for me offers to hold my bags for me on multiple occasions, maintains eye contact and is always genuinely caring. He opens doors, car doors and is such a sweetheart and makes me feel so good and special every time I’m around him. He goes above and beyond to make sure I’m happy when we are with each other, but he constantly insists we are just “hanging out”. He has told me he’s grateful to have a person like me in his life. I don't know.

More than friend or nice guy? Am I be delusional? What do you think?

[SueShe]

Basically, you are describing what a platonic friend of the opposite gender should be. Nothing more and nothing less.

Since both are not into dating each other, simply keep the platonic friendship alive and don't ruin it involving feelings. That is a sure way to ruin this friendship.

I am surprised that you cannot realize that there are men that do things for a girl or woman without any deviant thoughts or without expecting anything in return.

Yes, you should take it slow, actually leave it where it is and don't attempt to move on him. Keep your friendship pristine and don't start ruining it with feelings.

[Asker]

Honestly until now I didn’t even know what a platonic friendship was.. thank you so much for bringing that to my attention! I have never experienced this before honestly but it makes so much more sense.

[SueShe]

thanks for the MHO

[Nikki1989]

You are overthinking this far too much.

[strateguy632]

More than friend zone, and he is waiting for you to show if you want more.

[Asker]

Yeah? From a mans perspective what would be good ways to show that I want more without being overbearing, pushy or coming on too strong? He seems kinda shy but is such a kind gentleman!! I like him a lot and don’t want to push him away or scare him by moving too fast and laying it on too thick. So I’ve just been trying to be respectful and not push too much and just go with the flow to play it safe. Would you say just keep letting it unravel naturally or push a little?

[In_Trance]

Move on