At what point do you stop showing attraction?

[Anonymous]

When it feels like it’s getting one sided? When you feel that the other person is loosing interest?

As for me. It’s typically when conversations are dry… Not responding for unreasonable amounts of time. Not respecting personal boundaries such as texting me at 3:00 knowing I have to work.

A big thing. I’m initiating all the conversations. Planning all the dates. Paying for everything. Without getting much in return. Either you’re not that interested in me to show effort back or you’re one sided. I’ll probably start spending time with someone whose willing to show me effort. Who I can tell is genuinely attracted to me.

[Anonymous]

As soon as she stops showing it towards me. I only put forth the energy towards a woman that she's willing to put towards me. She stops, I stop. And if another woman starts before her, she loses.

[Asker]

I agree it cannot be one sided

[WhitneySnow]

That all makes sense, but it’s possible you’re moving too fast for her and she’s just not ready to get sexual yet

[Asker]

Being sexual is a WHOLE other conversation. I usually want to wait and don’t want someone whise going to have sex especially not immediately.

By showing interest I mean…. Is she initiating conversations? Is she planning dates? Is she offering to pay? Things like that or am I doing. All the work for little in return

[Asker]

If all a woman has to offer in return is sex. She’s worthless sorry. It’s usually the opposite issue. I build a emotional connection. I think things are going great.

Then she tries initiating something

[Asker]

So I’m pretty careful who I get to know too well. Careful who I sit having deep conversations with. Too many women just seemingly take it the wrong way.

[WhitneySnow]

Oh I see. Well, some girls feel that they shouldn’t have to pay for dates until you guys are really serious about each other, but I agree with you about the rest.

[Asker]

Nobody’s entitled. It’s okay if someone wants someone who pays I understand that. You’re allowed to find what you want but also aren’t entitled to some random dudes money.

Like okay if you’re not compatible that’s ONE thing. Just don’t date again.

But I’ll say. Everyone should have standards. Even if a man wants to pay he shouldn’t pick someone who feels entitled.

[Asker]

Especially if she’s the one initiating the dates. Saying take me here. Take me there