At what point do you know you should stop flirting and move on?

[Anonymous]

Here's this question with more specifics:

A guy at my local gym has been constantly flirting and touching (not private parts 😂) me, has been asking my time so he could show up the same day, we've texted each other several times and last time he asked why I was skipping and asked me to tell my time again and came at that time to see me there. (We have different routines though so we don't workout together)

I've been flirting with him back and didn't mind texting first and stuff. He obviously likes me but isn't making any more moves besides flirting, it's been awhile since he's texted and besides flirting nothing is happenning. And I made it like crystal-clear that I like him back.

Am I lying to myself or what is he waiting for? Can someone explain his behaviour?

[IslaTheWitch]

No law forces a transition from flirting to a relationship. You don't have to move on :) And it's beautiful.

But if you want, you can do it at any moment you feel is good. There is no definition of when we should move on. It's more about your impression, feelings about this acquaintance, and what you want to do with it.

[Asker]

But at least it should lead to a casual hook up though you can't be flirting forever

[IslaTheWitch]

I can flirt forever :D but it's your choice lol

[ThrillSeeker01]

He may be nervous about making himself emotionally vulnerable, taking the risk of being hurt. Have you thought of just having some straight talk?

[ThrillSeeker01]

Thanks for the MHO.

[sawno]

If he is still missing the signs be blunt and see how he reacts. Will give you all the clarity you need, and might give him what he's hoping for.

[Asker]

Didn't think I'd come. back for this, but I suggested he could come over and he denied. He stopped coming same hours, he came just several times and hasn't texted me first since. I was mortified at first and felt like a creeper but what can I do now 🥲🥲🥲

[Anonymous]

Flirting n liking is two different things...
If he don't like you

[Asker]

He ordered and sent food at my place just because I mentioned over text that I was going to order that and eat. And he asked my time just to go to the gym the same time. He started going another time for several days and asked again my time to make sure and came at that exact time.
I don't think a man would prefer to workout alone rather than with his bros just to get to see a girl who he doesn't even like.

[spartan55]

What is your idea of 'crystal clear'?

[Asker]

When he flirts I flirt back, I accept his compliments, when I don't see him for few days I text him and I let him touch me casually like on the shoulder or with side hug when we're talking.

[spartan55]

Accepting compliments is making it clear you are interested? You can't be serious.

[Asker]

I mean he's giving compliments about my butt and chest and kinda in a sexual way so accepting that kind of compliment should mean that I'm interested right? 😅😅😅 I'm really asking, that's not rhetorical question

[spartan55]

No, that doesn't show you are interested. Can you tell him directly? Guys really don't do the hinting bullshit.

[Asker]

I mean I can but why can't he? Because he doesn't make any more moves, it makes me consider if he really wants do something or is he just flirting for its sake.

[spartan55]

Maybe, but maybe he wants to be certain you like him before making a move.

[Akam93]

Just ask him out and see what he says.