There's a guy that I met through the internet about 2 months ago. At first, we talked 24/7. We would text non-stop all day long, then for about a week, we'd talk on the phone at night for a few hours. We went on around 7 dates; two of which were at each other's houses watching movies and cuddling on the couch. We haven't kissed yet, but I was pretty positive that he liked me at least a little. As time went on, our texting/talking slowed (which I expected. That happens to everyone at some point. You can't go non-stop texting all day, every day.). The last time we went out together, we went to a karaoke thing with a few of my other friends. After that, we've barely talked at all :(
I don't know whether its because I did something wrong, or what. Almost a week went by that he didn't text me; he finally texted me and told me "sorry for lack of communication. Work and school makes my life pretty hectic, not including all the family stuff going on with me right now." And I completely understand. I'm busy with work and school too; it can get hard at times. We texted the rest of the night, and he seemed the same as when we would text at the beginning. NOW, over a week has passed with no contact, yet again. It makes me sad because I was really starting to like the guy.. and this whole "not talking" thing is making me second-guess if he was ever really interested at all.
FYI: When we first started texting, it wasn't just him texting me, or vise-versa. Some days I would start the "texting conversation," and other days he would. It was a healthy balance I guess you could say. Towards the end, after the Karaoke night, I felt I was the only one starting the conversations and keeping them going. I'm not the kind of girl to chase a guy, and I'm not the clingy girl who tries to make them stay. I stopped texting him because my mind set was: if he wanted to talk to me, he would make it happen and text me. Aaaaaand, it would at least give me some reassurance that he actually wanted to talk and was thinking about me.
So now, it's been 10 days of no contact and I'm wondering if I should just suck it up and text him, or just kind of give it up on whatever "could have been" because it's apparently not happening. If that's the case, then so be it; whatever happens, happens. I'd just like someone else's opinion on the matter.
Just no mean/sarcastic comments please XD
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I am curious to hear/know what happened? Any luck?
I am in the same boat as you right now... I, too, met a guy on a dating website. Our fifth (and last) date was on 3/4/11. We had been doing well... enjoying each others' company, laughing, talking. We did share kisses... but nothing serious... the last one got a little "hot" briefly, but still fairly innocent.
About a week after that date, I texted him a photo from our date. He responded sweetly but the convo didn't last very long, which is fine... I am not a texter. I would much prefer to talk on the phone. We had discussed him accompanying me to a reception (just the reception, not the wedding) I was going to - he pretty much invited himself, and I told him it would be nice for him to be there, so yes. I called to confirm (and to say "hey") on Wednesday, leaving a voicemail because he didn't pick up. I haven't heard from him at all, and that was last week (today is Monday - the reception was Saturday). I am certain I am overthinking the whole situation, but it doesn't feel right to me. The other poster is right. You have to go with your instincts in these types of situations. However, I also think - in my case at least - that you cannot pressure these guys. If they do happen to come around and make a connection (preferably via phone), then you need to be sweet. I won't say "accepting," but sweet as in "Hi! How are you?" Almost like let's start from ground zero. If you're not a the girlfriend/boyfriend stage yet you don't want to scare him off if there is a possibility. And, perhaps they actually have a really good excuse. But, it had better been good... :-)
Personally, I would let him take the lead at this point... if he really wants to speak with you then HE needs to make that connection. If he doesn't you have your answer.
Yeah, I agree with that statement.
I'm sorry it's been such a long waited response, I'm not normally on this website.
To answer your question, no, nothing ever got better with that situation. I finally texted him, asking what was up, and he said he was just really busy with school and his two jobs. Which is fine, lol.
That was in February and I haven't heard from him since. So it's whatever, lol.