Guys, Do I really have to chase after the pretty boys?

[PillowPrincess9]

Some of these "pretty boys" seem to enjoy the attention and expect women to chase them, but when they meet someone who isn’t playing into that, they don’t know how to handle it. The fact that they approached me first but still ghosted just shows they were never serious in the first place, they probably just wanted the thrill of my reaction.

I'm doing the right thing by not chasing after them. If they can’t handle someone who actually values themselves and doesn’t play their little ego-boosting game, that’s their loss. Let them go chase the attention they crave elsewhere.

Some pretty boys think because a woman doesn't seem to "show interest" in him that we are hating on them which is not always true, I just don't like arrogant people period, I don't care if you're unattractive, pretty, average etc, just have some humility.

I have been called "pretty" myself all these years by almost everyone, men, women including handsome men, I have chinky almond shaped eyes, high cheek bones and big breasts, I have been told that I look like a black China doll. I have confidence but I tend not to show it off a lot, I like using my brains, personality, kindness, sense of humor and intelligence more than my looks. I do not hate on pretty boys, why should I even waste my time hating on others? I just don't like the games. All because I don't chase them doesn't mean I don't like them, shy or isn't interested... I was just brought up not to chase after men.

[Summeroflove]

Most people aren’t like that just narcissists wanting supply and people who ghost are cowards anyways. As cowardly as it is they’re doing you a favor ghosting and unfortunately expecting someone to chase you without also showing effort is one sided. Most people will assume either you’re not really that into them or you’re one sided and the answer is most of the time both.

The problem is that these people tend to have a delusional and superficial thinking. Not being romantically or sexually attracted isn’t hating someone. There is plenty of women I would never see myself being with that I like as people just fine.

A lot of people who are narcissistic just what attention and it’s best not to waste your time. It’s better to find someone whose willing to put the same effort into you as you’re putting into them. That’s how real relationships are supposed to work

[PillowPrincess9]

I really appreciate your insight! It’s true that genuine connections require mutual effort, and it’s refreshing to hear someone recognize that. I agree that ghosting shows a lack of maturity, and I’d rather invest my time in people who are willing to put in the same effort. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome and absolutely it’s not worth wasting your time on people like that.

[Summeroflove]

The only reason so would “ghost” someone if someone just refuses to leave me alone after I asked them to. Or is texting me non important crap at 2 am it will wait until I wake up

[PillowPrincess9]

Yes that makes sense, I had a ex boyfriend who would call me all day and night, never respected my space, he was very controlling too and always thought i was capable on cheating on him. I did finally blocked him, it wasn't easy but i did.

[Summeroflove]

Never cheat be the bigger person and don’t scoop to that level. I’m glad you broke it off you can’t be happy witn people who give you zero peace.

[Summeroflove]

Some people aren’t compatible but it sounds more abusive then just non compatibility. But people also need to discuss boundaries before and early in the relationship.

Some people are more clingy while others need more space. Some people are more needy then others which is fine (there is the extremes) as long as both people need the same thing.

But it’s not okay if someone asks someone to not do that but they keep doing it anyways.

[PillowPrincess9]

Absolutely, peace of mind is so important. I appreciate your perspective.

[Summeroflove]

It is and people need to just see when they’re not compatible for one another. But people who aren’t narcissistic won’t violate your space or feel entitled to it.

They will either respect it or if they’re more needy will break things off so you both can find someone who better fits your needs

[ohsheeT]

agree with you. Because when I find someone that I like.

I lay all my cards out this is who I am . And if they want me to play the game of chasing well, I'm not gonna play that game.

When you meet somebody, it's usually the first impression that takes over.
And you go from there's feelings towards each , you both know it And you both make a choice kinda of

I mean, there's a lot more to it, but anyway.
If if a guy does that with you.
And if you give him that eagle boost and you chased him then
He thinks that he can do anything he wants Because then he can blame you in the long run You stroke his ego It's usually you want you to stroke something else too

Those are the type of guys. You need to walk away from

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a game if you don’t “chase” or say hi to someone. Counting on him to always break the ice is a game and you could be friendly and introduce yourself

[PillowPrincess9]

Okay, I didn't look at it like that. I'll probably a do so and try to make the first move even though Im not use to that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for seeing a different perspective. In reality no one should be chasing anyone else. If you can be present in the moment and make confident decisions it should work out.

Ever scared to make the first move?

[PillowPrincess9]

Your welcome🙂 I wouldn't say Im scared, I just am use to having guys making the first move but i'll try to do it first for a change.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s hard to change what you are comfortable doing. The thing is likely you were making the first move a lot. Many times girls will signal to a give they find attractive but wait for him to approach. Those signals could be a move in a sense

[Iron_Man]

Who says that you have to chase them. Why do you call yourself pillow princess what’s your meaning behind that

[PillowPrincess9]

I was looking at this youtube video on this topic, someone was explaining that handsome guys want the women to approach them first. Thats why I posted this question. Pillow Princess it’s just a username I liked. It doesn’t have any deep meaning, just something that felt fun to use.

[Iron_Man]

OK, thanks for letting me know

[PillowPrincess9]

you're welcome🙂

[MrTaboo]

"petty boys" expect to be chased because they never have to work for attention.

[princeofromance]

Yes, they will not just show up at your doorstep.