Can a woman respect her man if she earns more than him?

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AMS700CX4u2 · Accepted Answer

Some religions maintain that the male member of a family should be the provider in the family. If a family is going to make it in this world, man and wife have to focus on using their assets efficiently. My wife is better as a money manager than I am. If it were up to me I would try to pay everything off as soon as possible leaving the bank account stripped, with little cash to live on. Some families cannot operate that way. If the wife earns more than the husband, he gets his masculinity bruised. I have seen situation where the bruised husband will cut the wife off. In 2010, I was separated from employment and I was offered an opportunity to augment my social security income by working for a psychiatrist who had a large clientele of professional female with just that problem. Patients schedules an appointment with a psychiatrist, Doctor writes the prescription, Patient bring the prescription to me, I fill the prescription and bill the insurance company 1500.00. It sounded to good to be true. Looking from a male perspective, it would probably infuriate an already bruised ego and lead me to an early grave, so I decided against it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have a divorced uncle who was in this scenario. His ex wife made much more then him and she cheated on him the entire marriage.

What matters is the man’s income is enough for him to survive comfortably on his own if need be. But the sad truth is my uncle wouldn’t of been able to live in a nice house with nice cars considering the job he worked. He would of been barely able to afford rent considering what he was doing if he was on his own.

And he worked the same job his entire life. Never thought about trying a different career and/or running a side business.

Women can (to a certain extent) demand that their husbands financially support them without losing face. Even in modern society a lot of them can still get away with that expectation.

Not so for men. And what’s more unfair about it is that many corporations will favor a woman over a man for high paying careers. Especially if all else is equal (education, drive, etc.).

But DEI is starting to reverse and for good reason.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

My husband & I are "on that boat" and we're both successful except that I earn more than he does which neither make me feel any less of him nor any more than him.

I've adored & respected him ever since we meet in high school and my adoration & respect for him has grown throughout the years.

lightofdarkness · Accepted Answer

Ofc! Its' not about only money. If he has confidence and excellent brain who can act disrespectful to him? Who can humuilate to him? I value intelligence and confidence more than his gain. İt doesn't matter which one is rich which one is poor according to other.

HawkPerception · Answer

Yes, but it's an extremely rare dynamic. Most women want a man that's taller, stronger, more confident, more assertive, more successful, more intelligent than themselves, etc.

Women tend to date up. When a woman makes a certain income, she'll USUALLY desire a guy with more income than herself. Women that have broke free from that mentality are a very small percentage.

Summeroflove · Answer

This genuinely depends on the woman as well as the man. If someone’s in a relationship for love it shouldn’t matter so long as there is a genuine connection but if someone’s just after money then the relationship would never truly last more often then not anyways and those years would be miserable.

Respect and love should be based on connection as well as the character of each person. If a man has money he needs to be especially careful about gold diggers and narcissists.

DishLady · Answer

Yeah but it has to be a man and a woman who BOTH understand and respect that — respecting each other enough not to drag money into every argument…

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , because she loves you for you not for what’s inside your wallet , not all girls’ are money crazy , just stay away from the ones that are.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Its been known to happen

Only twice have I made more money than my girlfriend (2 exes)
And one of them lost all respect for me all on her own regardless
(Though the other one was completely in love with me)

But before that when I was broke and in college I also had women, some even older and with jobs. Money was never an issue not once

I don’t leech which is what makes my “total wealth” irrelevant so long as i can pay for the immediate stuff

Respect doesn’t come when you buy a nice car or a big house.
Those you do for yourself.
Respect is the fruit of strength in character

hahahmm · Answer

From what I've seen in life, it only really works if both people got together when they had nothing/little and the guy is still traditional hard working type, not a lazy bum. I know of a lot of cases where guys with average/little income are with rich women and the guys cheat left and right because he only got with her for her money not because he's really into her. Usually the woman knows this and just overlooks it.

Typically the women making lots of money have a "girl boss" masculine tude where they are not as feminine or maybe not feminine at all. In the cases where I know of a rich woman with a not rich guy working, she is 1000% feminine at home even if she's a boss at the office. You can forget about this working out with a woman who wants to live as a man (basically).

MisterWack · Answer

I believe most men answering this are perceiving a different kind of question. That being, “Can a man truly respect a woman who makes more than him?” I believe if you truly love someone, you are willing to look past who is making the money.

I love my girlfriend, if she were to make more than me it wouldn’t matter a darn thing because as long as we love each other, we are working together to make this beautiful life of ours work for us, and we stand by each other through easy times & hard times then we can do anything. I respect her strength, courage, kindness, respect, and above else her love & passion for her work.

It takes two, to make the dream work so who cares who is contributing more or working longer shifts or whatever, just be happy for their success because their success is your happiness. When she is happy, you are happy (vice versa of course)

Sonorous · Answer

No idea about respect. I don't even know if women have to respect a guy to be attracted to him. But I imagine that most women would at least start to lose attraction towards their partner due to extreme hypergamy. I say this because studies show that the more money women earn, the pickier they get with men. A man usually has to be on their level or above on average or they won't likely see him as a prospect.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Hmm. My auto brain response felt No. However I guess people know me on here that I'm I guess a divergent kind of thinking brain. I definitely have some OCD/anxiety and am left handed - so maybe my answers should've / should be/ been absorbed only by lefties :P

Nikki1989 · Answer

Of course. It has been that way in our marriage for over 13 years. My husband didn't even have a job when I met him. Despite what some delusional men will whine about, most of us aren't concerned with money.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, there are plenty of hard working , talented guys that have careers that do not pay a lot of money. That being said, they find their careers rewarding in other ways and are happy with themselves.
I have worked in education for the last 20 years. I always said that nobody ever got rich in education. Still I found more meaning in that than i did working for a high tech company at twice the money.

Shiprex · Answer

She COULD but has feminism removed an inherent desire within womanhood that a man should be able to provide?

Of course most women will say it doesn't matter just like most will say height of a male partner isn't that important yet will still gravitate toward taller better dressed dominant appearing men than smaller quieter calmer reserved ones.

itsannalee · Answer

Yep i did respect my ex even though I made way more than him, until he cheated on me, then he is nothing.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Yep! I make way more than my boyfriend and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I still respect and love him fully.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Short answer no. Women crave male leadership. If she's making more than you it will be almost impossible for you to lead her. One exception may be if you replace the finances with power, then maybe you can get away w/ it. If not then, no the women will end up leading the relationship, begin to resent you for it and eventually break up w/ you. There are some tactics you could use to avoid this but they cam only be used by Alpha males experienced w/ women.

lorenzomichael · Answer

It shouldn’t matter how much either one of them make it’s both of there’s together but if neither one of them don’t respect each other how can there be love. If she didn’t respect me I’d tell her to go fuck herself as she’s walking out the door. However I don’t have that problem my wife is a criminal defense attorney and she’s partner in her own firm in Los Angeles as I am a union iron worker Local433 we love respect and trust one another have been doing that for 34 years.

rizzzz007 · Answer

I think some women respect her man.. but most of women are not respecting their man if they earning more then him.. as I said this is not for every women... But most of women not respecting if she is earning more then she dominates him or leave him for that person who are earning more then her

Vevv123 · Answer

I don’t think income should be a factor in determining how much you respect your partner, or anyone for that matter… if you’re someone that looks at people through this kind of lens, you’re probably not a good person.

mstbooblover · Answer

Genuine respect is about the person, not about their income. If a woman earns more than her man, and on this basis looses respect for the guy, she's only proving how trivial and superficial she actually is. Come on folks, grow up.

jshm2 · Answer

Of course, as respect has nothing to do with money. You probably earn more than your waiter in any restaurant. But doesn't mean you disrespect them; as you are a classless gnome if you do.

RavVid · Answer

I think not unless they have been together for a long time.

It is quite possible she doesn't feel a need to respect her man. Usually it is a problem in a relationship and leads to disrespecting her man. It is not a given though.

beenherebefore · Answer

Is not that I would not respect you I would just probably see you as 'Less' and wouldn't be inclined to date you. As a successful Woman I would prefer to be with someone who's on the same level as me or even higher.

Jhon_Cobretti · Answer

According to research from the University of Chicago, studies show that when a woman earns more than her husband, the divorce rate can increase by as much as 50%, indicating a higher likelihood of marital dissolution in such situations;

-Google

4ngelic · Answer

100%. personally wouldn't think anything less of a dude if i earn more than him. wouldn't impact respect

CheeseMonster · Answer

Can a man respect his woman if he earns more than her? I certainly hope so, and don't see why not.

Lynnzee · Answer

Yes, respect doesn't have to be about money. A woman should repect her husband if she loves him and he treats her well

Lliam · Answer

Of course. There is more to a person than their income. A person could have many admirable qualities.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. I dated an attorney whose contingency on just one case was $1.4M. I do well, but nowhere near that. She transferred to their NYC Office so that ended, but we got along great.

Basically, if she can't then they should both move on.

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes. Respect is more complex than just wealth

chrissykerdock · Answer

it would mean being mean to somebody without respect you have nothing

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, many women will say that they do, but they’re just lying to themselves. Women are just like children. They want a man who’s tall, broad shouldered and can make them feel safe. They want him to be the top earner, so her money can be hers and his money can be “ours.” Women secretly laugh at the men who earn less than they do.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Depends on the woman. Not all women can handle leadership roles. I know that many enjoy a power ride and simply can’t handle power. Only a sensible woman can do that.

nastyb · Answer

can a man respect his wife is she makes more than him?

RingOfFire · Answer

No, they will say they do, but they don't. That's the way women always act. They tell you one thing but mean the opposite.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Can a fish live out of water? If so for how long? That's how I view the question. Can she for a short time? Perhaps. Can she long term? No. If he can't provide for her, what's he there for?

nawtee_me · Answer

Money doesn’t equal respect. That is the thinking of a gold digger. The mindset of someone who has their priorities out of order. Someone with an unstable mind.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah, thats fairly common. Most couples do not care who makes what.

Anonymous · Answer

There are a lot of unbalanced people in the world. Lose respect in a relationship and they aren't worth the time. Doesn't matter who they are.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, it can happen.. Since there's more to respect than being the higher earner..

lucas262 · Answer

I would say no. She'll try to compete with his role as the man or head of the home. If not I wouldn't care

Anonymous · Answer

So you’re basically saying men don’t respect their women cause they make more than they do? who cares, you people will do anything to make yourselves unhappy

Shy_Steve · Answer

She can do a lot of things including respect Her Man. It's just a question of wether She wants to or not.

Anonymous · Answer

he'll have to be physically attractive to make for the loss in financial differences

Mangospacho · Answer

No. She cannot. It’s been tried and, everytime it’s been tried, it’s has been unsuccessful.

Staximus · Answer

I think that depends on the woman in question

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Depends on the woman, though I believe in many cases it would be hard.

princeofromance · Answer

Respect is a two-way street earned not through money, but through trust.

Gigasnm · Answer

Yes, If he deserves to be respected re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Anonymous · Answer

Respect has nothing to do with money. If a man respects a woman, a woman will respect a man.

Manuelwe · Answer

No but can all he wants to do to women. What women has been doing to rich men for ages

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, of course, not all the women are materialists.

Professor-college · Answer

I would say that is possible if the man is doing something worth doing.

Taylor_C · Answer

Absolutely. Love is not about salaries.

Purpleronnie · Answer

What a strange question … respect is earned.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Yes if he has a good penis

DrPepper12 · Answer

They're completely unrelated

Yannae · Answer

It all comes down to what they think respect is.

Pet68 · Answer

Sure. Why not?

altaboy · Answer

That's a ridiculous question.

moviedude714 · Answer

I'm sure there are plenty of exceptions

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