Am I an asshole for befriending a friend's ex?

[Gopnik]

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i don't really know how to feel about this since if my friend was to find out i don't think he'd pick it up in a good way, but i genuinely do not want her. she's a nice gall, good looking but she's still an ex of my friend so i don't want that.
but i have a hard time in general talking to women, i'm autistic. so having a female friend to talk to in a normal way helps a lot. and even i know women like men who hang around women. or as they sometimes say it men who've been "inspected".

[DishLady]

Befriending? No. If you're sleeping with her that's not very kind to your friend, but shit happens.

[DragonDan444]

I don't think so at all as far as you're leading on this person is only a friend you have befriended. I will say if it is a woman who you feel attracted to then it is a ex partner so go for it dude. If it is a ex of a girl who is your friend and he is a male again... No problem so long as he is a decent human being. I don't really have anymore context so I can only go based off what you have said.

[DragonDan444]

Seeing your update you're not doing anything wrong

[Gopnik]

it's a girl, they ended on meh terms to say the least, a lot of drama. tbh it felt weird because the way we started talking was that i came across her at a bar, didn't recognize her at all at first. she started talking to one of our group and she started crying n stuff. i basically just told her what i saw she was doing which was just self destructive behaviour. after that night she added me on instagram and thanked me for what i said. and that i was right.
after that we just talked a bit n stuff. i still do talk to her. and the convo did turn a teeny tiny bit flirty. now it's just normal. which i'm absolutely happy with.

[Drumlin2001]

Doing it in secret makes you a bit of an AH. Could have discussed it first

[Abbycado]

A lot more context is needed. Is the friend and the ex on good terms?

[Gopnik]

i updated the post and added some extra context under my reply to DragonDan

[Abbycado]

How long ago did they break up?

[Gopnik]

like 2 or 3 months. but like i said, im not romantically interested in her.

[Abbycado]

If it is purely for a friendship, then I don't see the problem.

[midnightmoon05]

What did your friend say about this? More importantly..:

[Gopnik]

He does not know, and I don’t wish to be in any drama at all. Stuff happens the way it does for a reason but can’t help but try to avoid that drama

[midnightmoon05]

To avoid drama…stay away from her.
You broke the bro code.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Depends if you and your friends follow the bro code