I’m just curious he played me and treated me so bad and the only place we’d “do it” was his car. He said he wouldn’t care if I go, im delusional and offered to drive 7/8 hours for another girl whilst being too broke to take me on a date. He even picked me up once and had me walk in my bare feet bc I couldn’t keep up in heels. He would tell me he has nobody to talk to whilst his snap score went up 500+ daily and I was left on delivered. Even after the last time we had sex. He snapped other girls & didn’t text me. is he really as much of a prize as he thinks he is?
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He also recorded me during intimacy without my consent FYI :)))
Do you think a guy like this would find it easy to replace me?
Replacing someone is easy if there isn’t a genuine connection unless someone just lacks any other options. For people who play people are mostly narcissists and other dark personalities. Believe me when I say they always have backup plans… If they find someone that they can use or they finally get around to discarding someone after they completely drained someone. Then that’s exactly what they’re gonna do.
Some people use someone for sex but have no intentions of making any genuine connection unless it’s one sided. Such as they will use you for emotional support and as a therapist…. But if you ever needed him they will say things like “well you need to get over it” or “you just need to think more positive” pr “I can’t deal with your negativity” it’s one sided for these people except if they’re love bombing.
If he committed a crime such as non consensual recording contact law enforcement and see if something can be done about it. But as far as people like that go them leaving you is a favor. Don’t let him back in if he ever tries these people want to keep some level of control as well as have someone they can fall back on if nothing else works out.
I do agree with that. I wouldn’t do that To anyone else and I wouldn’t put Up with it form someone either.
But some people try to love someone they think they can change someone or save someone. But the reality is that you can only help and empower someone who wants it…. Many people like being a victim
The recording but should be straight to the constabulary and let him know it. He sounds like a bit of a psycho bully and borderline user. Don't fall for him you're better than him but have taken a bit of an ego hit. Let him go he's for the streets.
I feel like he wanted to tear me down. Honestly. He didn’t like that I went partying over the festive period, a lot and got attention from men and woman (im bisexual) but at that stage I had only known him for a few weeks and we weren’t exclusive but I think that set the tone for his disrespect
first off you teach men how to treat you and the fact that you agreed to meet them up for these cheap booty calls should tell you what he thinks of you. He’s not into you sis. And he clearly is not looking for anything serious and it’s still playing the field with other women. You don’t need a website to tell you this. If you're looking for a committed relationship you need to make that known on your dating profile and stop entertaining men who are looking for casual hook ups and booty calls. Will this guy most likely move on from you yes and it sounds like to me he didn’t value you to begin with that’s why when he met up with you he wasn’t trying to take you out on any proper dates but was only meeting up with you for sex in a car. That is not the behavior of a man that respects you or views you as girlfriend or wife material. If a man is not willing to take you out on a proper date, not willing to give you the title of a girlfriend or wife and or not willing to introduce you to his friends and family then he is not into you sis and you need to move on stop entertaining men who do not have the same values and goals a you do.
He said he had no money for dates as he was broke so I felt bad. I didn’t want to put pressure on him, and honestly I was really kind to him and empathetic and understanding and always took pride in my apperance around him, I was patient and open and listened to his problems and supported him the best I could. I don’t think he’s going to find another girl like me easily that will settle for the cheap car sex.
Oh honey, a guy who does this to one girl will do it to another. We’ve all fallen for these types of guys. Yes, I think he’ll replace you. He might even treat the new girl better (for a while) and then he’ll start treating her the same way he treated you. That’s how these types of guys get us into their traps. He’ll get his karma one day, but that’s not your problem to worry about. Give yourself some time to be sad about it and then move on and leave him behind. There are good men out there in the world and I’m sure you’ll find one.
Is it cocky to be so secure in how well I treated him and my own strengths, that I don’t think he’s going to replace me with someone better, that will settle for the fact he’s too broke and all he has to offer is drives and car sex 😹 and thank you.. im not ready to date again though he shattered my heart
Of course girl, take your time. It’s not going to happen right away. And no it isn’t cocky. Everyone who has ever been burned by love has thought that (he/she will never find a replacement). It might even be true, but the other person doesn’t see that. He’s thinking that you are easily replaceable. He’ll realize his mistakes when it’s too late unfortunately
I’ve accepted maybe he will never see what he lost. He’s not coming to fix things it’s now on me to heal myself, not even so I can get a relationship but so I can be the person I was before he played all these mind games
But they won't have my personality, my charm, or my sense of humour or the connection we once had (at first he was seeing me daily and super into me, then it progressively got bad.)
Thank you. I hope this time they are gentle with my heart till the end, or alternatively I have the discipline to walk away right away as soon as they aren’t
I opened up to him about how hurt I’ve been and how i was celibate to protect myself from getting played I just didn’t expect it from him. I overlooked a lot, the mental health issues, being too broke to take me on any date etc. He’s just a horrible guy. I’m gonna try my best to heal & forget him.
However, based on your story, yes. He doesn't take you seriously. You are giving him too much despite him not giving you anything... and he realizes that. He can play you bc he thinks he has you wrapped around his finger. It may not be you at all, he might just be at a stage where he wants nothing serious with anyone despite him driving hours to see someone else. He might just be having sex, but guys will do crazy things for it.
I would definitely move on. You don't need the heartache specially when he has told you he doesn't care at all. So at least on that end, he is being upfront.
He told me he want a relationship that he cared about me, even shown up to my house w flowers when we first started seeing each other. I don't know how it all fell apart so quickly……. That’s what hurt the most it’s like I wasn’t good enough in the end fuck, I can’t even think about it for long bc it does hurt a lot
He doesn't look like a homebody at all. Comes off as strong, independent, adventurous and disciplined which can equal success. All very attractive qualities to most women. Based on what you typed above, it sounds like he has options, and he wants to play the field before marriage.
Sounds like you didn’t value yourself and gave him way too much attention, which hey I’ve been guilty of it (you should see my bd). He could replace you anyone can replace someone if they didn’t value them. You allowed these things to happen and kept going back.
Some of my friends were quick to call him ugly before he even started treating me bad. Lol. Yeah I stayed becaaause he kept making it seem like he did like me and that he was just going through stuff.
It’s easy to place blame on him but if you learn to love yourself guys like that won’t even last two days talking to you. Trust me…like I said he’s not ugly but he’s not a catch. He seems narcissistic, immature, and make sure you get checked because it doesn’t seem like he loves himself enough to use protection either.
Again I saw all of this with love and from a place of I’ve been there. A man will go as far as you allow him too. There’s no reason you should’ve just been a car hook up that’s fucked up.
Many times, and Yes I could never truly replace them, but they didn't want to be in life, they were asking for too much, so I let them go!.. And I replaced them with substitutes, to them.. It wasn't perfect, without them but, I won't beg someone to stay so what find perfect stays perfect, I would rather have perfect replacement..
He look like a Far right European guys those are really not good relationship to have. Well to him you sounded like just a fuck buddies so I'm pretty sure he would be able to find another one easily. Finding a real girlfriend though would be way thougher
He told me he wanted a relationship and filled my head with all of that. Then started pulling back. I thought it’s harder for guys to have sex than girls? Are girls just sleeping around with whoever these days wtf
Not a lot of girls sleep around but there's a tiny percentage that have sex with hundred of dude in a fews weeks so he could definitely find one easily. Sex is easy to find but obviously if he have very high standard and such it would be harder also he's pretty ugly so if he have standard he's cooked. A lot of guys lie to girls to make them feel important while the only things they want is sex and a lot of girls especially young are naive and those dudes like to take them young, I know a lot who who have sex with underage 15 years old girls.
Finding sex is easy for guys except if he got a shit personality and show it. A lot of have shit personality but hide it under pretty lies.
He is boney and ugly lol. Who cares if he replaces you or not he's just another person.. no one special. Never let what someone else thinks about you define how you feel about yourself and never do things that feel wrong like meeting someone just to fuck in their car. It will save you time and energy by staying away from losers like this lol.
I was so so sure he was irreplaceable and special for a long time. I don’t see anyone as replaceable. Each person has their own unique spark that can’t be replicated
Once the rose coloured glasses fall off you will see him for what he truly is which is Trash and it will make you laugh that you thought he was "special".
You actually came out the winner in the long run because he's a total POS. Any guy who would treat a woman like this could do with getting gut shot to remind him how it feels to be hurt by someone. If you know and good friends with a criminal record and a 45. Maybe make a few calls. XD. Trust me he doesn't deserve you, he doesn't deserve anyone, he's a psychopath to do that to another person.
Ask you're brother if he would be kind enough to kick his ass for you. People like him don't learn lessons they have to be taught them. If you catch my drift.
Why would you date someone who treated you like that? So many red flags... You should be helping him find someone to replace you so you never have to talk to him again. Move on and be grateful you didn't waste more of your life with a guy like that. And do better with the next one. You should be looking for a guy who treats you with respect above all else. That should be the minimum requirement.
Why the hell are you even hesitating asking about getting rid of this scrawny little chicken leg loser? Go stand in front of a mirror and slap yourself silly. Then go "no contact" on this asshole.
I’ve not spoken to him in two weeks. I reblocked him today. “Scrawny chicken legs” lol. My brother had a talk with him on a call, he seemed a bit anxious about being shouted at by an angry brother. Make that will make him think twice next time
The guy seems like he doesn't particularly like you. It actually seems like he actively despises you. That's not a statement about the person you are though... that's all about who he is.
He would definitely find it easy to replace you, but only because he thinks so little of you.
Replacing is all based on the person, someone can easily replace you, it doesn't make you replaceable, it only makes you replaceable to them, what they replace you with might be complete shit, only you'd know since you know him better
Correct if two people build a genuine bond between one another. That’s special between two persons. But if someone’s only superficial and materialistic mever bulding that. It’s easy
What this man said, normally you'd be able to tell by how they treat you if they are the type to replace you easily, if they never grow that connection to genuinely care about the person you are then the materialistic part they see in you will most likely be easily replaceable mostly if those materialistic things are things most or everyone has.
He deserves it. He lied to me, lead me on sexually under false pretences, manipulated me, taken sexual videos of me without my consent, refused to let me see them and did god knows what with them and had the audacity to show no apology and even laugh about it. He doesn’t deserve me being “cool” about him.
Of course because many women want guys like that and repeatedly go with them. Just don't expect any good quality man to be interested after letting yourself get used by low quality people like that.
He said that to me …. “It’s almost like hit me and I’ll love you forever” I didn’t leave because I had hope that he felt the same, and was just going through something, he was 3 weeks out of the army when we met and had bad sleep issues and no money. I figured he was just stressed & had mental health issues, he said how broken he is. Yet he’s still on the apps. Hope the next girl has stronger boundaries
That is really awful, you deserve more than that! So sorry you had the experience of him recording you without your consent too… I had an ex who did that and I’m still traumatized by the experience.
That's ok, I think we all do. It sucks to be treated like that, you seem worried that he would not be interested in you, that you should be out of his league? Not him ditching you. Either way, if you are not attracted to him, move on, form what it sounds like, you deserve better!
Maybe im delulu because im mad but i dont see him as that attractive. I was hesistant when I first met him but he said all the right things and bought me flowers I felt like I’d be an idiot not to give it a try out
Yes, unfortunately he is. He got you to stick with him long after you should’ve dumped his ass. The nobody to speak to part is just his way of playing on your empathy to get you to keep having sex with him longer.
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