I'm gutted :( I told him to text me in a few days when he has thought about it some more... I'm dreading the text :(
is there anything I could do to get him to pick me? x
Why is it like you're his doormat to wait for him if he comes to you?
If he wanted you, he wouldn't have even considered choosing a girl who left him. I am not saying he's a bad guy or anything, but he doesn't like you like a guy should. If he can 'choose' between you and her right now, even if its you he wants, he will probably choose between you and someone else tomorrow.
Trust me, you don't want to be with a guy who treats you anything less than a princess. He may be completely amazing but don't let anyone to potentially hurt you. I am not trying to degrade him, I just think you and him, it doesn't seem right.
If I were you I would tell him its okay and he can go back to her, causing a couple to re unite and look for some other guy because there ARE plenty out there, ones who would be far more sure about wanting to be with you.
Find THAT guy. Good luck
I think it depends how serious things are. Realistically, people with good social/dating skills often are choosing between people. That deep love builds over time.
Why are all the great guys so damn far away! DAMN IT! +1
I think you're asking the wrong question. You should be asking yourself, "Why am I wasting my time with a guy who has already put me on a waiting list?" You're clearly not this guy's first choice; he told you as much. If he were really feeling it for you, his ex-girlfriend would already be in the rear-view mirror (which is where she belongs -- they already broke up!). Interested guys don't say things like "My head is messed up" and "I don't know what to do."
You seem like a really sweet girl; you deserve to be treated MUCH better than this. I would move on to a guy who actually wants to be with you.
yeah... very true!
Don't do anything. If I were you, I would back off..realize I am The shiittt and if
he wants some exxx then he can have her..and I will go on my own way where I will find a man who will LOVE to have me and feel lucky for it.
That is the attitude you need. once he realizes this is how you feel, he will be WOWed and most likely pick you. He wants an independent girl who will NOT let a man walk over her or take her for granted. And, if you stick around and try to get him to pick you..you will look like you do not hold any worth for yourself. You need to show him you are worth something. Because you totally are! xx
the thing is-if you try and sway his decision he might regret it later and that would hurt even more...i would wait it out but that's just me. other than that I have no clue of anything that would make him pick you over his ex..
Thanks... yeah, I know there isn't anything really I could do... likely hood of him picking me over his ex... is pretty slim x
most of the time people want what they can't have-but in this situation acting like you don't care could mean the difference of you vs. her. he still has feelings and wants someone who cares.
oh and let him know that you respect his choice so that he won't fell any pressure by you to pick.
yeah true... I don't want to text him again the last text I said let me know but don't leave me in the dark, it will hurt more when you pick her... and that she can't expect you 2 take her back just cause she is home, but I mentioned about being gutted about not being able to meet him again and that I thought something would happen between us xx
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It seems as if there are still issues he has not yet resolved. How long have you two been seeing each other and how would you describe the state of your relationship (before she texted him)? I'm not entirely on board with the idea that he's using you as a doormat, but do tread carefully.
What I would recommend is that you text him ONCE at some point sooner or later and just say "hey, I hope you're having a great day". That shows him that you're still there and you care about him. Then, don't do anything else. Don't put any additional pressure on him. Honestly, I can't say who he'll pick. This will be cliche, but expect the worst and hope for the best. Sorry :/
we have been on 1 date, and had another sorted out for Thursday (obviously not happening now)... it was great before he told me that, he was always texting me... dead flirty and stuff, he told me some personal things too, all in all, it was going... perfectly! x
And how long ago did they break up?
i haven't a clue... I didn't want to ask too many details to be honest... tried to have a look on his profile, to get an idea but... nothing :/ x
@update: Sorry to hear that :(
thanks... his loss tho yeah? haha
Haha a pretty girl like you? Yeah. And I saw your question about the cupcakes. That was really nice of you. I hope you find someone who's worthy of those cupcakes. Best of luck to you!
thanks :) x
If you truly care about the guy, you should hope he picks his ex if he really has feelings for her. If he ends up picking you over her just to not hurt you, then he might not be able to stop thinking about her and could possibly cheat on you. Things between you 2 might not go well so you 2 could break up. Meaning he would blow it between both of you. Find some other guy. If I were you, I'd just tell him you're not interested anymore and tell him to go back to his ex.
It all depends on how good those cupcakes were, cupcake. It couldn't hutr to bake him so more, jus a a gesture of friendship!
Best answer, no?
How long were you two together, how long was he with his ex, when did she move away?
we have been on 1 date... erm, I'm not sure about the other too questions! x
Whether he goes back to her will -probably- have nothing to do with you. They have a serious amount of history, if things were great, he'll likely get back with her. If he was on the edge, he may not.
Unless he really, really, really, really prefers you.
Sorry for you, but I hope you realize its not a slight against you. They have a relationship, you two had one date.
yeah I know
Ahh...If he's smart he'll take you.
hopefully :) x
Your so cute he has to pick you lol
aw thanks :) you don't know what the other girl looks like tho, neither do I ha ha x
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