My boyfriend chose his ex over me...advice?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we live together now... well the other night at 2am he got a call from a girl in jail saying she needed him to come get her and it was like an hour drive to get her...well I woke up and asked him what was going on he told me his sister was in jail and he had to go get her...i heard the girls voice on the phone and I knew it wasn't his sister...I got up and said I will come with you...he got upset and said don't start with me! I said who was that really on the phone...he told me it was his ex girlfriend...i was so upset and asked him why he lied...he was just p*ssed off and he told me that the girl was arrested for a DUI! I told him to leave her in there! He said he couldn't do that...i told him to get out and I started packing my stuff...well he went and got her and dropped her off and came home and he wouldn't leave me alone...why did he lie? Well the next day we didn't talk at all and I was in a bad car accident and I called him and I was terrified because my car was completely demolished! Well we made up but now I am like whatever with him...i don't really care if I am around him or not...wil this go away? I mean ever time we get close something always comes up and we get pushed apart...

[Allyfour]

You're in a tough position, the point is he lied to you. You have to question why she felt comfortable enough to call an ex that its been over with for years in the middle of the night to pick her up from jail. Why did she even have his number and why did he lie to you about? Why did he not want you to go with him and why did he get so defensive and upset with you? These whys could go on, the point of the matter is this doesn't look right. Perhaps it was innocent but seeing that he lied and wouldn't allow you to go is a red flag. I don't want to crush you but this just seems strange. I'm quite sure if the tables were turned, he would not be comfortable in the position in which he put you.

PS-Sorry about your car accident, that's awful. As if you don't have enough going on!

[Anonymous]

dont put all the blame on her. your boyfriend is probably still messing with this girl. I'm sorry but it doesn't sound right and if you have to lie about something then there is probably something deeper going on. also why would she just send him naked pics "jsut to p*ss you off" are you sure he is not doing anything to encourage her behavior behind your back?

[Jesss]

Maybe they are still friends and that's way he felt obligated to go and get her out of jail.

To be honest I think he lied about who was on the phone just because he didn't want to hurt your feelings because he knows you and his ex don't get along...

The best thing you should do if to have a serious talk with him and try to make thing work.

[snowboarder720]

with ex's, guys either forget about them or still attached. In your case OBVIOUSLY he still thinks and cares about his ex. You better sit his ass down and explain to him that you won't tolerate him talking and being around his ex anymore.

i know this isn't what you want to hear, but he tried to keep that sh*t behind your back. So now you shouldn't trust what he says about his ex anymore. Better to dump him, than him to dump you. ya know what I mean

[Anonymous]

That's kind of tough.. Are they still friends? He lied because it's an ex. It's easier to just tell you that it's his sister than cause a fight. OR, since most bars close at 2am.. he was going to do her.

[Anonymous]

I would be extremely careful in this situation. If she doesn't contact him again its fine, but otherwise I would just watch out for it and tell him how you feel. He might start to feel trapped though, its a tough situation.

[Flyryan]

He probably didn't want to start an argument.